<\/span><\/h2>\nPioneers Salovey, Mayer, and Caruso saw the importance of a leader with a mastery of emotional intelligence in leading a team to success.<\/span><\/p>\nThey proposed that to be effective. Leaders should be able to demonstrate their adept when it comes to using the skills of emotional intelligence in the context of leadership. <\/span><\/p>\nBut the same principles can be applied in marriage too. <\/span><\/p>\nWhen you identify these skills and apply them to your marriage, you can create magic because you can ensure that you face and work through problems and challenges together and understand how to support your spouse emotionally and vice versa which will ensure that you’ll both stay strong together. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>The skills we mention are:<\/span><\/h2>\n- Identification of emotions<\/span><\/li>\n
- Utilizing emotions<\/span><\/li>\n
- Understanding emotions<\/span><\/li>\n
- Managing emotions<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>
These skills can be demonstrated in the following ways:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Identification of emotions<\/span><\/h2>\nEmotionally intelligent leaders (and spouses) are good at reading people. They also know that being emotionally intelligent allows them to glean more information about the emotional state of their spouse, team or anybody else they are relating with.<\/span><\/p>\nThrough emotional intelligence leadership and awareness, spouses can pay attention to the things that are often unsaid. For example, they can identify a when and even why their spouse might be struggling with something, or having at a tough time, and they can encourage their spouse to talk, and help them find a solution to their problem. <\/span><\/p>\nEven if the problem involves them – because they are emotionally intelligent enough to understand that these things can happen and they require attention and resolution to keep a marriage happy. <\/span><\/p>\nThis strategy is also influential when it comes to making decisions.<\/span><\/p>\nDisplaying the skill of reading people through emotional intelligence leadership in a marriage, makes it easier for you and your spouse to open about their ideas without the feeling of being misunderstood.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>The utilization of emotions<\/span><\/h2>\nWhen a spouse demonstrates emotional intelligent leadership, they are not only aware of the information that emotions present, but they are also able to harness the power of emotions instead of resorting to repression or suppression or any other control dramas that can occur in a close relationship such as marriage.<\/span><\/p>\nFor example, a Husband or Wife (or both) can lead their family to success and happy times through being emotionally aware of the whole families needs and teaching their children emotional intelligence too. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Understanding emotions<\/span><\/h2>\nNot everyone can empathize and sympathize, hence, the ability to experience and express these two are skills of an emotionally intelligent leader and are particularly beneficial when it comes to close relationships such as marriage. <\/span><\/p>\nThe saying ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ is very true but if you are emotionally intelligent, then you will be able to identify when such contempt has crept into your marriage and kick it to the curb which will prevent further problems from breeding. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>The management of emotions<\/span><\/h2>\n![\"Losing](\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Losing-your-cool-frequently-is-not-a-good-indicator-of-an-emotionally-intelligent-leader.jpg\" "\\"Losing")
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Losing your cool frequently is not a good indicator of an emotionally intelligent leader.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\nExploding anger over a problem or mistake is also not a good indicator of an emotionally intelligent leader, and it’s not conducive to a happy and peaceful marriage!<\/span><\/p>\nRepressed emotions often occur because of the common misconception that an emotionally intelligent leader can suppress such feelings. <\/span><\/p>\nSuppression is counterproductive, and an emotionally intelligent leader will realize that. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\nInstead, an emotionally intelligent leader will think clearly at the onset of these emotions. They will recognize that these feelings will pass and are more focused on dealing with the problem at hand.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead of saying “I am furious at the comment, or mistake that my spouse made,” the emotionally intelligent leader would say, “This situation is infuriating. But, what can we do to address this and turn the negative to a positive?”<\/span><\/p>\nIn the said example, the emotionally intelligent spouse recognizes their infuriating feelings towards the mistake, but moves past it and quickly asks and looks for a solution.<\/span><\/p>\nEmotion can be a powerful tool in marriage, after all, it’s built on it. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\nBut through emotional intelligence leadership, the ability to identify emotions, to harness its power in productive ways, to understand it, and to manage it plays a huge part in successfully maintaining a happy and balanced marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Emotion is not the first thing that comes to mind when we think about leadership and leadership is not the first thing that comes to mind when we consider marriage. We’ve been taught that leadership is either brawn or brains; that one is only a great leader if they show aptitude in intellect or mastery of their craft. However, recent psychological studies show that the heart is just as important as brawn and brain when it comes to leading a team. We are also taught that marriage is focused on love, and that alone will see a marriage through the <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":28985,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[24],"tags":[2528],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28983"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28983"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28983\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":56802,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28983\/revisions\/56802"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28985"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28983"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28983"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28983"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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