

{"id":28371,"date":"2018-10-12T11:05:22","date_gmt":"2018-10-12T11:05:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=28371"},"modified":"2026-03-20T05:44:19","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T05:44:19","slug":"marriage-to-a-narcissist-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/marriage-to-a-narcissist-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Handle Marriage With a Narcissist Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-18020 size-full\" title=\"Best Ways to Handle Marriage to a Narcissist Wife You Love\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Is-Your-Partner-a-Narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"Best Ways to Handle Marriage to a Narcissist Wife You Love\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loving a narcissist wife can be very difficult. You have to keep your temper in control, and no matter how much attention you give your partner, it may feel like you&rsquo;re forced to tiptoe around them to keep that smile on their faces.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-a-narcissistic-wife\"><\/span><b>What is a narcissistic wife?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissistic wife is someone who is obsessed with herself and doesn&rsquo;t respect others&rsquo; boundaries. She has difficulty loving her spouse and only sees the partner as someone who fulfills her needs than a separate individual.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Facts-about-the-narcissist-wife\"><\/span><b>Facts about the narcissist wife<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissism, or more precisely,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinic.org\/diseases-conditions\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/symptoms-causes\/syc-20366662\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, is a mental condition. As per the research,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/health.usnews.com\/health-news\/family-health\/brain-and-behavior\/articles\/2009\/04\/21\/narcissism-epidemic-why-there-are-so-many-narcissists-now\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over 6% of the population<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has NPD<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.psychiatrist.com\/JCP\/article\/Pages\/2008\/v69n07\/v69n0701.aspx\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. According to the studies,<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the ratio of male to female narcissists is around 7 percent for men and4.8 percent for women.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists share some common traits. However, it is observed that female narcissists, if not <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, choose to find a better partner for themselves, whereas the male narcissist often will stay in a relationship and take out his anger on his partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-signs-you-have-a-narcissist-wife\"><\/span><b>10 signs you have a narcissist wife<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-27125 size-full\" title=\"Narcissist wives have the tendencies to speak high about themselves\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/The-effects-of-being-married-to-a-narcissist-could-take-a-significant-toll-on-the-way-one-lives.jpg\" alt=\"Narcissist wives have the tendencies to speak high about themselves\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wondering, &ldquo;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is my wife a narcissist?&rdquo; <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out the points below to understand <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what are the signs of a narcissistic woman<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Being competitive<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist wife has the tendency to be competitive with her own children. There could be some form of envy if anyone is doing better than her, which includes her own children.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Extra attention to appearance<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist wife pays a lot more attention to her looks than normal. She likes to have attention and validation based on her appearance.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Disregards boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such a wife does not pay attention to individual boundaries. She might need her own space but will continuously disregard your space and boundaries.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/types-of-boundaries-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6 Types of Boundaries in Relationships &amp; How to Maintain Them<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>She invites drama<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">narcissistic wife traits is that <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">she barely likes it when everything is calm, and composed. She likes attention and for that, she will always attract drama.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Materialistic attractions<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such a woman is more into materialistic pleasures. She will try to wrap herself in expensive purchases. This is mostly because she wants to hide her insecurities.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>She is defensive<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist acts defensively whenever you say anything to her. She will hardly try to understand your point of view. In her eyes, she is always right.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-being-defensive-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Stop Being Defensive in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Gaslighting<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-77393\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/gaslighting-345x150.jpg\" alt=\"woman gaslighting the man\" width=\"345\" height=\"150\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist wife gaslights you with her words or behavior. This could add more confusion to the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Criticizes your parenting style<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She criticizes your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/different-parenting-styles\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">parenting skills<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Even if it&rsquo;s the child&rsquo;s fault, you will be ultimately blamed for the wrong guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>You feel isolated<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are often the one who feels isolated because your narcissist wife fails to understand you. She remains so self-absorbed that she hardly notices.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>She admits it<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She clearly admits that she thinks about herself only or is a narcissist. If she openly admits it, this is the clearest sign you could get.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/narcissist-family\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Signs You Have a Narcissist Spouse<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-wife-5-ways\"><\/span><b>How to deal with a narcissist wife- 5 ways<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-77392 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-wife.jpg\" alt=\"couple sitting and talking in the bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are with a wife who has narcissism, it may feel like you have to blend<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with strategy. Many say that they find themselves having to note all of the things that bother them so that they can control their partner&rsquo;s reactions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Wondering <\/b><b>how to deal with narcissistic wife? <\/b><b>Here are ways to handle a narcissistic wife, when you don&rsquo;t want to <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-sabotaging-in-relationships\/\"><b>sabotage the relationship<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Change subjects when needed<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/signs-you-are-married-to-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Married to a woman who is a narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Being married to a narcissist comes with a motley of challenges. Some wives who are narcissistic have a tendency to speak overly highly about themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have a spouse who is a narcissist, they may try to present themselves as better than you in front of others.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this can be hurtful, and you may experience some defensiveness, you do not have to stoop that low just to prove your wife who is a narcissist wrong. Instead, to make things better, the best solution is to walk away or to change the subject.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because, believe it or not, most people in your gathering are probably aware of your spouse&rsquo;s rough temper and narcissistic tendencies.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Be on the watch for extreme reactions<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wondering how to deal with a wife who is a narcissist? The<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/dealing-with-narcissists-setting-boundaries\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> best way to deal with a narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you are <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">living with a narcissist wife<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, is to read and observe the personality of your spouse and try to develop healthy communication with her about when she is exhibiting narcissistic tendencies to find solutions that are healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A wife who is a narcissist may be extremely sensitive to criticism along with being incredibly critical of others.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may seem to have high self-esteem, but their arrogance is often an indicator that their self-esteem is really fragile. Therefore, try not to criticize your spouse and communicate your thoughts with love and affection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes modeling appropriate communication can help a narcissistic partner find new ways to connect with you when they&rsquo;re frustrated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can often be difficult to know how to handle the difficult balance of disagreement with someone who is narcissistic. Over time, you may begin to notice their patterns of anger or frustration and may begin to develop a sense of when is an appropriate time to have constructive feedback conversations and when it may not be the best time to do so.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner is prone to extreme reactions any time that there is an argument, it may be best to seek support from a trained <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental health professional<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or couples counselor who can help you both learn to communicate better to reduce these angry outbursts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Communicate calmly&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A spouse who is a narcissist can have a poor sense of empathy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A wife who is a narcissist may not be able to identify your true feelings. You may feel as if you are communicating your frustrations or concerns, but they may not notice your sullen face or raised eyebrows enough to make a connection that you&rsquo;re bothered.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, for saving a marriage with a narcissist, you have to step forward and speak about it, communicating your feelings in a calm and regulated way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s how you can protect yourself while <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/communicate-with-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicating with a narcissistic person<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uwtwnIxSO9s\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Discover their weakness<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to manage difficult times with a narcissist partner is to find out what matters to them; when you find out the things that are most important to them, you are more likely to find ways to connect with them, even during times when they seem irrationally angry or upset.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, a common fear of narcissists is not in a position of power.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This doesn&rsquo;t mean, however, as a person who is narcissistic is often unpredictable and may not be influenced by your attempt to get them to focus on the thing that you think matters most to them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Is a Narcissistic Personality &amp; How to Identify Them<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Grow a thick skin<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is in no way right if you begin internalizing their hurtful or self-inflated comments. Understand your self-worth, and take criticisms lightly. Understand that what your wife has is a personality disorder and you are not at fault.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Wrapping-up\"><\/span><b>Wrapping up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The effects of being married to a narcissist wife can be like a wild roller coaster that passes through routes you have never visited and cause you to feel things you never imagined before.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dealing with narcissist wife<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is not always smooth sailing. When deciding to navigate a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to make love your anchor.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many may prefer divorcing a wife or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-live-with-a-narcissist-husband\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">husband who is a narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, but only a few have the strength to deal with the ups and downs involved in these types of relationships and to spend a happy married life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you truly love your partner, it will be important to be flexible, give chances, and when all else fails, try seeking out a professional who can help you determine if your relationship is healthy for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Loving a narcissist wife can be very difficult. You have to keep your temper in control, and no matter how much attention you give your partner, it may feel like you&rsquo;re forced to tiptoe around them to keep that smile on their faces. What is a narcissistic wife? A narcissistic wife is someone who is obsessed with herself and doesn&rsquo;t respect others&rsquo; boundaries. She has difficulty loving her spouse and only sees the partner as someone who fulfills her needs than a separate individual. Facts about the narcissist wife Narcissism, or more precisely, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is a mental condition. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":18020,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2507],"tags":[2722],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28371"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28371"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28371\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118566,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28371\/revisions\/118566"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18020"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28371"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28371"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28371"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}