{"id":28342,"date":"2018-10-11T11:39:14","date_gmt":"2018-10-11T11:39:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=28342"},"modified":"2024-12-07T12:28:11","modified_gmt":"2024-12-07T12:28:11","slug":"signs-you-are-married-to-a-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/signs-you-are-married-to-a-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"20 Signs You Are Married to a Narcissist"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-28344 size-full\" title=\"Signs You Are Married to a Narcissist\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Signs-You-Are-Married-to-a-Narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"Signs You Are Married to a Narcissist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"effects of being married to a narcissist\"}'>effects of being married to a narcissistic man can be extreme<\/span>. To begin with, it is a challenge in itself to figure out if you are married to a narcissist or not. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So to help you through your <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic marriage problems\"}'>narcissistic marriage problems and understand <a href=\"https:\/\/psychcentral.com\/health\/how-common-is-narcissistic-abuse-in-the-united-states\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">narcissistic abuse<\/a>&nbsp;<\/span>&ndash; here are twenty apparent signs that you are married to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch: Communicating effectively with a narcissist<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Q95in8mCPRM\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Grand-self-esteem\"><\/span>1. Grand self-esteem<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46450 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Grand-self-esteem.jpg\" alt=\"Man having coffee\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most visible and glaring <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15107,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"4\":[null,2,16711680],\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"signs of a narcissist husband\"}'>signs of a narcissist husband or wife<\/span>&nbsp;is that your partner <strong>has grandiose self-esteem<\/strong>. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They see themselves as perfect and exceptional. &nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They also believe that this is how their family, friends, peers, and associates also see them because this is what they intend to project.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Lack-of-empathy\"><\/span>2. Lack of empathy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46451 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Lack-of-empathy.jpg\" alt=\"Sad couple\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another obvious sign that you have a&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissist husband\"}'>narcissist spouse is their <strong>utter<\/strong><\/span><strong>&nbsp;lack of empathy.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Empathy is a person&rsquo;s capability to recognize another person&rsquo;s feelings and thoughts. You can be an empath and not be in love with a person. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it&rsquo;s not the same the other way around. You cannot be in love or express love when you do not have empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: Love is impossible without empathy, for it is empathy that differentiates feelings of infatuations from actual love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of empathy may be hard to see, but, it is exhibited in behaviors such as saying mean things to you without them batting an eye. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are married to a narcissist, they won&rsquo;t demonstrate any empathy towards you or anybody around them (although they can be good at pretending).<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Loves-himself\"><\/span>3. Loves himself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46452 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Loves-himself.jpg\" alt=\"Man hugging himself\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>There is nothing a narcissist loves more than himself<\/strong>. They love to talk about themselves and the things they like. They always try to steer the conversation around themselves.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Exhibit-manipulative-and-self-serving-behaviors\"><\/span>4. Exhibit manipulative and self-serving behaviors<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46453 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Exhibit-manipulative-and-self-serving-behaviors.jpg\" alt=\"Couple not talking to each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this may be blunt to say, but sadly, a narcissist only gets married because they can get something from that marriage or that person. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&nbsp;have a&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic spouse\"}'>narcissistic spouse<\/span>&nbsp;and you asked them, &ldquo;do you love me because you need me, or do you need me because you love me?&rdquo; <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they were honest, they would tell you that they love you because they need you.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But of course, they won&rsquo;t say that because they know that is not what you need to hear and to keep you they will tell you what you want to hear. They implement <a href=\"https:\/\/labs.la.utexas.edu\/buss\/files\/2015\/09\/manipulation-in-close-relationships-1992.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">different manipulation tactics<\/a> to control you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re wondering if you are married to a narcissist, it&rsquo;s well worth watching out for manipulative and self-serving behaviors. An example of this is guilt-tripping or negative comparison.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using the power of words, they could probably tell you, &ldquo;Aren&rsquo;t you grateful that I married you?&rdquo; (guilt-trip) Or &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so bad at cooking! My ex was better than you&rdquo; (negative comparison).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;ve heard any of these phrases, or similar in your relationship, you might be married to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Take our &lsquo;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"am i married to a narcissist quiz\"}'><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/am-i-married-to-a-narcissist-quiz\">am I married to a narcissist<\/a> quiz&rsquo; to know if you are indeed married to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Show-off\"><\/span>5. Show off<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46454 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Show-off.jpg\" alt=\"Man posing \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Another one of the &lsquo;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic husband traits\"}'>narcissistic husband traits&rsquo; or sign of a narcissistic partner is <strong>their need to inflate their ego<\/strong> by associating themselves with important or powerful people and bragging about their association with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Charming-and-polished\"><\/span>6. Charming and polished<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46455 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Charming-and-polished.jpg\" alt=\"Man posing\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At the beginning of your relationship, you can&rsquo;t help but ogle at your now husband or wife. When they came to the room, they would light it up, and you weren&rsquo;t the only one to notice, but everyone did! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your then partner would have been charming and polished. Even perfect! A little too perfect, perhaps?<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another obvious sign that you&rsquo;re married to a narcissist is that they&rsquo;re just too charming (or they were at the beginning &ndash; when they were wooing you).<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By assessing the charm factor, you can find out if you are <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"married to a narcissist husband\"}'>married to a narcissist husband<\/span>. Have they stopped charming you now they&rsquo;ve snagged you? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But do you see them charming other people and wonder what changed, or even recoil at the fakeness you witness having become used to your partner&rsquo;s traits. These are classic signs that you are married to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Grady Shumway<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, a licensed mental health counselor:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Over time, the charm that initially captivated you may fade, leaving you feeling neglected and questioning their authenticity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">If you notice a stark contrast between how they treat you and how they engage with others, it&rsquo;s a significant red flag indicating the presence of narcissistic traits in your partner.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Adores-nice-things\"><\/span>7. Adores nice things<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46456 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Adores-nice-things.jpg\" alt=\"Man opening bottle\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Nothing but the best. A <strong>narcissistic spouse would indulge in buying expensive clothes and accessories<\/strong> to present a lavish persona. Especially someone who does not have any exceptional set of skills.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Bad-conversationalists\"><\/span>8. Bad conversationalists<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46457 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Bad-conversationalists.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having argue\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A conversation is good when there is a nice flow, exchange of thoughts and views shared between two or more people. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It becomes a bad conversation when someone interrupts another person and interjects their own stories as if the other people in the group do not exist.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;ve all experienced this type of conversation, but did you know that this is a sign of a narcissistic personality disorder? &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, it&rsquo;s not always the case if you are with somebody who is bursting with excitement over something or worried and concerned about a situation they may be too consumed with that situation to listen to you, but the pattern will be temporary. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>The interruption pattern with a narcissist will be constant. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re married to a narcissist, expect conversations to lose flow because your narcissistic partner will put the attention back towards them, especially if you&rsquo;re deviating from giving them attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-Active-social-media-life\"><\/span>9. Active social media life<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46458 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Active-social-media-life.jpg\" alt=\"Man working on laptop\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Having an active social media life does not necessarily mean that a person might be a narcissist, but this <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"trait of a narcissistic husband\"}'>trait of a narcissistic husband is another piece in the puzzle.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-Embellish-stories-and-achievements\"><\/span>10. Embellish stories and achievements<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46459 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Embellish-stories-and-achievements.jpg\" alt=\"Man taking selfie\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"characteristic of a narcissistic husband\"}'>characteristic of a narcissistic husband or wife&nbsp;<\/span>is how they share their stories and achievement with (or to in a narcissists case) others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t get me wrong; there is nothing wrong with having a sense of accomplishment, but, to a narcissist, these stories and achievements are so embellished that they can seem unbelievable.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The embellishment of stories and achievements is a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to get people to like them. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On a more dangerous level, <strong>they could use you to trick you into believing you have false memories<\/strong>, which is called &lsquo;gaslighting.&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-His-needs-are-above-others\"><\/span>11. His needs are above others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46460 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/His-needs-are-above-others.jpg\" alt=\"Man posing \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Marriage is many times a compromise wherein you put your spouses needs above yours as a way to show your love and commitment to them.<\/p>\n<p>However, everything in the life of a narcissist revolves around his needs. They are happy as long as their needs are being met. Even if that means you have to suffer or not be contempt with your life.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12-No-respect-for-personal-boundaries\"><\/span>12. No respect for personal boundaries<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46461 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/No-respect-for-personal-boundaries.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having argue \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A marriage has rules, and these rules make it possible for two people to be free (sounds a bit ironic), but when you think about it, it&rsquo;s true.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"married to a narcissistic man\"}'>married to a narcissistic man<\/span>, there are no rules, and because you love them, they will use this love you have for them to exempt themselves from any rules or personal boundaries you have because, after all, they are &ldquo;above&rdquo; it.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having no respect for your boundaries is another sign that you are married to a narcissist. &nbsp;<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13-No-give-and-take\"><\/span>13. No give and take<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46462 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/No-give-and-take.jpg\" alt=\"Man wearing crown \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Given that a <strong>narcissist ignores the most general principle of &lsquo;compromise&rsquo; in a marriage<\/strong>, they would even lack the compassion to address your sacrifices.<\/p>\n<p>For them, there is no give and take in your relationship, and they should always be the center of all the attention.<\/p>\n<p>Grady Shumway, LMHC further shares:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>In a narcissistic relationship, your needs and sacrifices often go unnoticed or unappreciated. The absence of compromise reflects a deep-seated belief that their desires should always take precedence, leaving you feeling undervalued and unheard.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"14-Fluctuating-temperament\"><\/span>14. Fluctuating temperament<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46463 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Fluctuating-temperament.jpg\" alt=\"Man showing two different personalities \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel pulled in and pushed away by your spouse frequently? If you answered &lsquo;yes,&rsquo; you might be married to a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The hot and cold behavior is a way to manipulate you into their self-serving ways.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner may love-bomb you today, and tomorrow, they won&rsquo;t even pick up their phone when you call them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you notice this or similar patterns, your partner is subjecting you to intermittent reinforcement, which makes you just like, want, and love them even more.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-Behaves-like-a-toddler\"><\/span>15. Behaves like a toddler<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46464 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Behaves-like-a-toddler.jpg\" alt=\"Man playing with baby things \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>As we grow older and become more aware of our surroundings, we learn to compose ourselves. This attribute is witnessed, especially when we do not get what we crave.<\/p>\n<p>For a narcissist, however, <strong>everything is personal<\/strong>. They would go to any lengths, throw tantrums, act out, or make a scene if they do not get what they want or if in case you disagree with them.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"16-Can%E2%80%99t-hide-for-long\"><\/span>16. Can&rsquo;t hide for long<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46465 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Cant-hide-for-long.jpg\" alt=\"Man looking into mirror \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Marriage is such an extensive commitment that even the most shrewd narcissist won&rsquo;t be able to hide their true nature.<\/p>\n<p>If your marriage exhibits any&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic relationship traits\"}'>narcissistic relationship traits, in time, they will become very transparent. So, it is okay to take your time and not be critical of your spouse too soon. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic relationship traits\"}'>Give them time, and eventually, you will know if they are who you thought them to be.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-Superiority-complex\"><\/span>17. Superiority complex<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46466 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Superiority-complex.jpg\" alt=\"Man with crown\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Not sure&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to know if you are married to a narcissist\"}'>how to know if you are married to a narcissist? Well, do they believe that they are better than everyone else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to know if you are married to a narcissist\"}'>If yes, then you might be married to a narcissist.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to know if you are married to a narcissist\"}'>They strongly associate themselves with someone who has a higher intellect than others around them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to know if you are married to a narcissist\"}'>Even though they might actually be blessed with a lot of wisdom, but they would resent it when people do not treat them as someone superior.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"18-Can%E2%80%99t-stand-criticism\"><\/span>18. Can&rsquo;t stand criticism<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46468 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Cant-stand-criticism.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having argue \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Given that a narcissist has a bloated ego, <strong>their ability to accept criticism would be little to none<\/strong>. Any form of criticism would not be welcomed by him, and if someone criticizes him, it might even make him extremely angry.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"19-Never-takes-responsibility\"><\/span>19. Never takes responsibility<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46469 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Never-takes-responsibility.jpg\" alt=\"Couple pointing toward each other \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>For a narcissist &lsquo;it is never his fault&rsquo;. Don&rsquo;t expect your narcissistic spouse to take responsibility for their actions.<\/p>\n<p>Be it an issue at work, with a friend, or even at home, they would go to extreme lengths to not apologize and own up to their mistakes.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"20-Control-freak\"><\/span>20. Control freak<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46470 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Control-freak.jpg\" alt=\"Woman running\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Calling your spouse &lsquo;controlling&rsquo; during an argument is something that many of has done; even if it isn&rsquo;t true, we do not always realize that during our conflicts.<\/p>\n<p>However, for a narcissistic husband or a <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15107,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"4\":[null,2,16711680],\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"narcissistic wife\"}'>narcissistic wife<\/span>, this term becomes very real very fast. <strong>The controlling nature of a narcissistic spouse can even lead to a <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/narcissism-and-the-various-ways-it-can-lead-to-domestically-abusive-relationships-116909\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">domestically abusive relationship<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The effects of being married to a narcissistic man can be extreme. To begin with, it is a challenge in itself to figure out if you are married to a narcissist or not. &nbsp; So to help you through your narcissistic marriage problems and understand narcissistic abuse&nbsp;&ndash; here are twenty apparent signs that you are married to a narcissist. Also watch: Communicating effectively with a narcissist 1. Grand self-esteem One of the most visible and glaring signs of a narcissist husband or wife&nbsp;is that your partner has grandiose self-esteem. 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