

{"id":2765,"date":"2015-10-21T07:44:18","date_gmt":"2015-10-21T07:44:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=2765"},"modified":"2023-10-31T16:03:19","modified_gmt":"2023-10-31T16:03:19","slug":"lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexless Marriage: Reasons, Effects &#038; Tips To Deal With It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-40243 size-full\" title=\"Are you in a sexless marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Can-a-Sexless-Marriage-Survive-Experts-Answer-the-Question.jpg\" alt=\"a sad woman sitting on bed while husband is sleeping\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living in a sexless marriage is a heavy cross to bear!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This begs the question, what is a sexless marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The definition of sexless marriage as per <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/press.uchicago.edu\/ucp\/books\/book\/chicago\/S\/bo3626005.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Social Organization of Sexuality<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is this- it is the one where couples aren&rsquo;t engaging in sexual activity or are having minimal sexual encounters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex and marriage are not mutually exclusive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The effects of this on husband and wife include lack of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-important-is-an-emotional-connection-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, conflicts, relationship dissatisfaction and even proclivity towards committing<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/what-legally-constitutes-infidelity-in-a-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity in marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Also Try: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/are-you-in-a-sexless-marriage\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are You In A Sexless Marriage Quiz<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-intimacy\"><\/span><b>What is intimacy?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy denotes mutual love, sharing, and openness. A comfortable equation between partners where they can be easily vulnerable to each other.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be numerous reasons behind the lack of intimacy in a marriage, like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/menopause-and-sexless-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">menopause<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, age, hormonal issues, and sexual dysfunction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical intimacy being an indispensable element in a relationship, marriage without sex can pose a threat to a relationship. But, it is even more difficult to find out how to survive a sexless marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/common-intimacy-issues-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are not uncommon, and they can certainly be difficult to handle or awkward to address.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No sex in marriage is not something extremely unheard of, there are many couples that struggle with this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are marriages that survive without sex, intimacy, and romance, however, these are the attributes that set the relationship between a husband and a wife apart from all other familial ties.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex and intimacy are crucial for sustaining a healthy marriage and the effects of lack of sex in a marriage can wreak havoc on a relationship.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy pertains to the close, connected feelings partners build with one another over time; and the physical and emotional bond that is achieved in<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/top-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/reasons-for-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reasons for Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Are-you-in-a-sexless-marriage\"><\/span><b>Are you in a sexless marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-67862\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Play-interesting-sex-games-to-spruce-up-your-relationship1.jpg\" alt=\"man and woman being romantically intimate\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have drifted into such a marriage but aren&rsquo;t sure if it&rsquo;s right to keep it in check lest it should backfire, you can always check for certain signs of lack of sex that will help you identify the problem.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out these signs that your marriage lacks sex:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constant feeling of disconnect<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comfortable without sex for longer duration<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You both don&rsquo;t flirt often<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You both rarely touch each other<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You enjoy a work schedule more than spending time with your partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Either or both of you make fun of the other one&rsquo;s fantasies\/ sex drive<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Effects-of-living-in-a-marriage-with-no-sex\"><\/span><b>Effects of living in a marriage with no sex<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is it like to be in a sexless marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being with your spouse in a marriage without sex means you both lose a lot on the connection and intimacy. The relationship might look healthy on the face but underneath, there could be chances of discomfort and problems that will only grow bigger in the longer run.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what is it like to be in a marriage lacking sex? The effects hit both men and women in a lot of similar and different ways.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effects of lack of intimacy in a relationship can be devastating. No intimacy in marriage from husband or wife can be a major source of anxiety and frustration for her, but more for him.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how important is sex in a relationship?&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3><b>How does a sexless marriage affect a man?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A sexless marriage effect on husbands can be inevitable. Sometimes a lack of sex will trigger a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/identify-an-insecure-man\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">man&rsquo;s insecurities<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and in the long run, such an effect can damage his self-confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many men, for example, subconsciously have set standards for themselves that define their role in sexuality.&nbsp; His self-confidence and ego are tied to his ability to deliver to his partner.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sexless-marriage-effect\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexless Marriage Effect on Husband &ndash; What Happens Now?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A withdrawn husband may be deeply engrossed in a thought or project, or he is stressed about a problem at work, for example. When he is done mulling it over, he will come back and give his wife his attention again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, if you are a man grappling with the challenges of a sexless marriage, reading <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/what-can-a-man-in-a-sexless-marriage-do-about-it\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexless marriage advice for men<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be helpful in overcoming the sexual drought in marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How Important is Sex for A Man<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>How does a sexless marriage affect a woman?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, there can be a sexless marriage effect on the wife. A lack of intimacy in marriage for women can be just as damaging&ndash; however, not always in the same way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Women tend to connect on an emotional level, whereas men tend to connect on a physical level.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is not to say that sex is not an emotional experience for a man, or that women don&rsquo;t receive physical pleasure. It is about different social programming.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-important-is-sex-for-women\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How Important is Sex for Women<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A woman who has most likely been socialized to nurture may feel a lack of love and intimacy in marriage, during times when her partner seems <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/4-reasons-affection-intimacy-may-be-lacking-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">less affectionate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or withdrawn.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is because women equate affection with love, and a woman would only withdraw affection if something went wrong.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-21435 size-full\" title=\"Sexless marriage effects\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/A-sexless-marriage-is-difficult-to-survive.jpg\" alt=\"frustrated man and woman sitting away from each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-common-are-sexless-marriages\"><\/span><b>How common are sexless marriages?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel you are in this kind of marriage, you are not alone. Most couples assume sex fades over time and it is one of the key features of marriage as couples grow with time. However, this should not be the case, especially when the lack of sex is bothering one of the partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy is an important ground to keep the relationship thriving over a long period of time. It lets the partners have an unspoken vent and only leads to making the bond more personal and strong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.relate.org.uk\/get-help\/over-quarter-relationships-are-sexless\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a sexless marriage is one where the sex happens less than once a month or less than ten times a year and nearly 29% of the relationships can be sexless. Lack of sex is also affected by age. To be precise:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">18% of such couples are under 30<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25% of such couples are in their 30s<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">28% of such couples are in their 40s<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">36% of such couples are in their 50s, and<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">47% of such couples are 60 or older.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/emotional-effects-of-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional Effects of Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-reasons-of-sexless-marriage\"><\/span><b>15 reasons of sexless marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what constitutes a sexless marriage?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There could be several reasons why couples fall apart. When it comes to a drop in the sex drive between partners, here are a few factors that can be a cause:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. Withholding sex in marriage<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Withholding sex in marriage can be due to a lack of affection or an attempt to convey any form of frustration or anger. For a lot of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/recognize-and-handle-manipulation-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">manipulative partners<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it can be a reason to punish their partners and it counts as a form of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/signs-of-emotional-abuse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>2. Childbirth<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The breakdown in the relationship after childbirth, especially when it comes to sex, is something that most couples face. Breastfeeding, body changes, and exhaustion can be a few causes of sexless marriage after childbirth.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/post-baby-sex\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex After Birth: What to Expect and How Long to Wait<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>3. Substance abuse or addiction<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When one of the partners is caught up in substance abuse and addiction, it can be difficult for the relationship to survive as it <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-a-toxic-relationship-and-its-common-types\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">turns toxic<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and one partner suffers alone. So, it can ultimately kill intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-drug-addiction-affects-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How Drug Addiction Affects Relationships?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>4. Sexual blocks or regressive views on sex<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the couple&rsquo;s sexual thoughts do not match or either of them has regressive thoughts on sex, it can be difficult for them to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/o.b5z.net\/i\/u\/6076626\/f\/EFFECTIVE_COMMUNICATION_IN_A_MARRIAG2.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate effectively<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They might not match on several levels and thus, lose the spark.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>5. Infidelity<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be two scenarios.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one of the partners is cheating on the other, this can lead to that partner not being interested in their spouse. On the other hand, if one partner has <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/301774331_Infidelity_in_romantic_relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">practiced infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and the other partner learns about it, there can be a rift in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/causes-of-infidelity-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most Common Causes of Infidelity in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>6. Chronic illness<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For obvious reasons, a partner&rsquo;s ailment can make the couple take an unwanted break from sex in the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here, one partner will also be engaged in taking care of the other and this can be a valid reason for the lack of sex in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><strong><em><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/illness-affect-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How Illness Affects Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a>\r\n<\/em><\/strong><b><\/b><\/pre>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-33794 size-full\" title=\"Common factors responsible for a sexless marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Why-Men-May-Not-Want-Sex-in-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"sad couple sleeping away from each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><strong>7. Traumatic sexual history<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one of the partners has suffered <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-fix-sexual-problems-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the past or has had a traumatic experience, it is natural for them to abstain from sex as this has been the root cause of pain in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>8. Poor work-life balance<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There could be reasons like no time for sex. This is real and this exists.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one or both the partners are too busy for some leisure time or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-have-a-quality-time-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">quality time with each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, this can be detrimental for the relationship, overall as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/work-life-balance\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Achieving Work Life Balance for a Healthy Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>9. Unresolved grief&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did your partner have any resentment in the past with you and it&rsquo;s not resolved yet?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, you might think things are fine but below the surface, it could be long-standing grief. It is time to discuss it with your partner or seek therapy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>10. Discomfort<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being uncomfortable with your partner can also be one of the main reasons for a sexless marriage. If you and your partner are not comfortable talking about sex or having sex with each other, this can be problematic.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>11. Stress<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any kind of stress, whether it&rsquo;s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-support-your-spouse-deal-with-work-stress\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">work-related<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or family-related can take a toll on your relationship. This is because stress can grab your maximum attention.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, it can lead to emotional breakdown time and again.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-strategies-and-techniques-to-eliminate-stress\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship Strategies &amp; Techniques to Eliminate Stress<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>12. Mental health problems<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If there are mental health issues like depression, a person needs support from their partner along with the right therapy and medication. During this time, couples must work on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> first.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>13. Critical partner<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one partner is critical or makes fun of the other, there are chances that the other partner will retract from any <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/4-main-definitions-of-intimacy-and-what-they-mean-for-you\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">form of intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This could be a great relationship killer in the long run and can cause the relationship to break, if the issue is not discussed openly.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/critical-spouse-signs\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Critical Spouse Signs and How to Deal With It<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>14. Boredom<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It could be possible that boredom has crept into the relationship and one or both partners have drifted away from each other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boredom usually comes into the scene when spouses <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/lack-of-attention-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stop paying attention to each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or stop putting in efforts.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-fight-boredom-in-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Fight Boredom in your Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>15. Unrealistic expectations<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a couple, each partner should keep their own expectations in check because it creates unnecessary pressure in the relationship. This cause also leads to discomfort between partners which they both <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/no-communication-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">might not communicate to each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Consequently, this gap can be a cause of sexless marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still wondering what are the factors responsible for the lack of sex?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talking to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/therapy-issues\/us\/sex\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> who specializes in relationship and sexual challenges can be helpful in keeping a finger on the pulse of your sex life. A sex counselor or a therapist can help you figure out a definite answer to the question, &ldquo;how to overcome intimacy issues&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/unrealistic-expectations-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Recognize and Tackle Unrealistic Expectations in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-a-sexless-marriage-survive\"><\/span><b>Can a sexless marriage survive?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-31916 size-full\" title=\"Can a sexless marriage survive\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/How-to-Repair-a-Sexless-Marriage-Practical2.jpg\" alt=\"frustrated woman sitting with man complaining\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As for those marriages which are sexually inactive for a long period of time, this is a very valid question. Marriage without sex is rarely heard of and learning how to survive a sexless marriage is not easy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yet, many marriages do survive without romance, emotion, passion, and sex, but even in cultures where marriages are strictly utilitarian, engaged in for the purpose of economy, religion, or duty, sex and intimacy are often still integral in these situations as a duty of a wife to her husband, and vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Though it may sound strange, it&rsquo;s actually pretty smart and sensible &ndash;the people of these cultures recognize the undeniable existence of their basic primal urges, and whether for the purpose of procreation or not &ndash; they support one another in this area as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No intimacy in <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-marriage\/\" title=\"Marriage means\">Marriage means<\/a> loss of connection, which is actually what a marriage stands for.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/can-a-relationship-survive-without-sex\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can a Relationship Survive Without Sex?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-cope-with-a-marriage-without-sex\"><\/span><b>How to cope with a marriage without sex<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This may be an unfair question; the question essentially asks how to do more with less. Coping with a marriage lacking in intimacy looks like a plant trying to cope without water.&nbsp; Coping with a lack of sex first requires you to identify when did you stop having sex in marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A better question might be, is a marriage without physical intimacy really a marriage?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;re not talking about the normal ebb and flow of things; when intimacy decreases and rises.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are talking about the complete stagnancy of sexual marital intimacy or marriage without passion and intimacy. A plant without water might still have green leaves, might enjoy the rays of sunlight, and it might even be alive, but the truth is, it is droopy and lethargic, it&rsquo;s sad, and it has lost its vibrancy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This metaphor resembles marriage without sex, affection or intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/when-to-walk-away-from-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When to Walk Away From a Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do-sexless-marriages-end-in-divorce\"><\/span><b>Do sexless marriages end in divorce?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can a marriage survive without sex?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over a period of time, sex and romance in the marriage fade away and couples stop putting in the effort. They unconsciously contribute to sex, without really knowing or being aware that lack of intimacy could be the cause.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">good marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> takes work. An alienation of affection or abandonment can <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/10-most-common-reasons-for-divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lead to divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. According to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/when-to-walk-away-from-sexless-marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reports<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, over 16% of the couples have abandoned sex or so to say, have been in a sexless marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of sex can also be a sign of other problems in the marriage, some of which have been stated above. However, you must be aware of when to walk away from such a marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>The times when you must consider a divorce from your sexless marriage are:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your partner refuses to work on the issue<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When the sexual interests of both of you are poles apart<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are other major issues in marriage apart from sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your marriage is sexless because of infidelity<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Deal with a Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"20-Tips-to-address-and-fix-a-sexless-marriagearriage\"><\/span><b>20 Tips to address and fix a sexless marriage<\/b><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-40939 size-full\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\" title=\"How does one cope with a marriage without sex\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Lack-of-Intimacy-Resulting-to-Relationship-Problems-%E2%80%93-How-to-Fix-Your-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"sad couple sitting and looking away from each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><b style=\"font-size: 16px;\">arriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a state where there is no intimacy in marriage from husband or wife is always awful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most often, partners realize that it happens slowly as the sex dwindles and happens just once in a month or less frequently.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can get frustrating or partners may become complacent (like roommates) or both. A sexless marriage effect on the husband is bad, but it is worse for the wives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Either way, a marriage like this has deep-rooted problems that need to be identified and fixed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how to survive a sexless marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/repair-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Few Practical<\/span><\/i><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/repair-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i>&nbsp;Tips on How to Repair a Sexless Marriage<\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><b>If you are living in a marriage without intimacy, here are a few things you can do to fix the lack of intimacy in your marriage:<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. Discuss the issue<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself and your partner how you both got here. Communicate with your partner to understand what could have led to the downfall of your relationship. A healthy&nbsp;<\/span>discussion will help you both find a solution.<\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/communicate-sexless-marriage-with-your-spouse\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Communicate Sexless Marriage With Your Spouse<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>2. Know each other&rsquo;s needs<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Discuss your needs openly with each other. It could be possible that your sexual interests and your partner&rsquo;s don&rsquo;t match. This can be resolved by letting each other know what interests you both.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-to-communicate-your-needs-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Communicate Your Needs in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>3. Avoid the blame game<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t blame your spouse for the situation. Not every time, it could be your partner&rsquo;s fault. Ask yourself what was your role in this or how reactions or inactions could be leading to fights.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-blame-game-is-destructive-to-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Blame Game Is Destructive to Your Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>4. Use &lsquo;I&rsquo; statements<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use &lsquo;I&rsquo; statements vs &lsquo;You&rsquo; and refrain from becoming angry or<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/why-blaming-your-partner-wont-help\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">blaming your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I&rdquo; statements can be helpful in<\/span>&nbsp;giving your partner clarity on what you feel as they concentrate on the specifics without beating around the bush.<\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/using-i-statements-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using \"I\" Statements in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>5. Practice assurance<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell each other that you both will make the commitment to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/recognize-intimacy-issues-and-get-closer-as-a-couple\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fix your intimacy issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Sometimes, assurance can be extremely helpful in keeping the relationship peaceful. So, keep telling each other that you are doing the best you can while you put in efforts.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>6. Small acts of love<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Little acts of intimacy are helpful to start with when the relationship is going downhill. Start by <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-of-holding-hands\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">holding hands<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, looking into each other&rsquo;s eyes, initiating physical contact.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will also ensure your par<\/span>tner and they will understand your efforts.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>7. Long-distance love<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even when you are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/long-distance-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">long-distance in marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you can do your own bit to make things work out. During the day, when you are away at work, send each other <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/hot-romantic-text-messages\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romantic texts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, express how you miss them and how you can&rsquo;t wait to get back home.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>8. Quality time<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When intimacy is gone in a relationship, concentrate on spending quality time with each other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to each other, cuddle while watching movies at night, enjoy a delicious meal together, have a bath together, or massage each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Check out this video to learn more about how to spend quality time with your partner:<\/b><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gE0-l3vwu9U\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><strong>9. Self-care<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People often take themselves <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/dont-take-your-spouse-for-granted-four-things-to-say\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">for granted<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> once they get committed. They ignore self-care. Take care of your health and physical appearance. Keep yourself fit and attractive.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The 5 Pillars of Self-Care<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>10. Don&rsquo;t be clingy<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stop being clingy or complaining. No one is attracted to someone like that. Instead, cultivate your own interests and pursue your hobbies and passions. Certain <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/personal-boundaries\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">boundaries are necessary<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Also Try: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/am-i-clingy\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I Clingy Quiz<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>11. Share fantasies<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t be afraid to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">share your fantasies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with your spouse. Be adventurous and keep discovering new things that could keep you both in awe every now and then.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Also Try: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/topics\/sex\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Is Your Sexual Fantasy Quiz<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><strong>12. Detox from time to time<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Detox your relationship. This means leave the bitterness, anger, resentment aside and start to treat each other with love, kindness, and affection. If you feel there&rsquo;s some kind of tension in the marriage, simply discuss and dissolve the issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>13. Forgive each other<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/how-to-practice-forgiveness-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Practice forgiveness in your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Forgiveness in the relationship is proof that the relationship is mendable, no matter what. It gives the relationship time to heal and grow stronger.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>14. Put extra efforts<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, you need to step out of your comfort zone to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-make-a-relationship-work\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make the relationship work<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Get out of your way to love and serve your partner and soon your sexless relationship will be a thing of the past.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>15. Sex games<\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-37922 size-full\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\" title=\"how is it that the two of you can maintain intimacy without sex\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/NSA-Relationship-Things-Y%D0%BEu-Sh%D0%BEuld-Know.jpg\" alt=\"couple sharing the bread\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/marriage-intimacy-hot-sex-games-you-need-to-try-tonight\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Play sex games<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Spice up your sex life with creative adult games that will add fun and laughter. This will also help couples know each other&rsquo;s intimacy language. Some examples are Strip Twister, Scavenger Hunt, Dirty Jenga, Find the Honey, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>16. Share everything<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples, undoubtedly, share an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-in-an-intimate-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimate relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and that is why they must share all their joys and sorrows with each other. In fact, this is the minimum that both the partners are going to expect.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, celebrate little successes together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>17. Marriage retreat<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Attend a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/your-basic-marriage-retreat-guide\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage retreat<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This can be a great distraction from the usual life and the couple will have enough time to focus on each other and rejuvenate the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>18. Vacations<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plan weekends and holidays. This will help you both know each other better. You don&rsquo;t have to go to far-flung and expensive destinations &ndash; even small picnics together work.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>19. Focus on qualities<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Know why you both fell in love with each other in the first place. Look at the past and remember the time you were <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/passionate-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">passionate about each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Bring those moments back again in your present and in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>20. Get help<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seek counseling.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Professional experts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can help you out in understanding your issues and guide you to work it out together.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Can a Wife Do When She Is in a Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-to-do-when-sex-just-isn%E2%80%99t-possible\"><\/span><b>What to do when sex just isn&rsquo;t possible<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-40940 size-full\" title=\"Tips to fix a sexless marriage\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-to-overcome-intimacy-issues.jpg\" alt=\"handsome man and beautiful woman standing together\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there are couples with a relationship completely devoid of sex and want to take baby steps towards building intimacy without sex first, and then find an answer to the question, &rdquo; how to fix a sexless marriage&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also sometimes sex isn&rsquo;t just possible.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual issues like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/erectile-dysfunction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">erectile dysfunction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, sexual pain disorders, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/living-with-sexual-arousal-disorder\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual arousal disorders<\/span><\/a>,<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and pelvic floor dysfunction to name a few, can also be the factors responsible for lack of sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how is it that the two of you can maintain intimacy without sex?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hand-holding while walking along or talking, to maintain intimacy and closeness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Following the ritual of touching each other, exploring the potentially erotic areas of each other&rsquo;s body<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Joining a couples activity like learning a dance form or a cooking class, together<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Creating <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/realistic-relationship-goals\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship goals<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to foster closeness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking up a credible<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage course online<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to restore the health of your relationship<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having inside jokes with your partner to add fun back to your marriage<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/repair-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ways to Fix a Sexless Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-be-intimate-in-long-distance-relationships\"><\/span><b>How to be intimate in long-distance relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is no way you have to believe that just because you are geographically apart in a long-distance relationship, you can&rsquo;t build or sustain an intimate relationship if you are both equally willing to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-put-effort-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make a dedicated effort<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> towards overcoming the lack of intimacy in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are starting a long-distanc<\/span><\/i><i>e relationship or maintaining a long-distance relationship with your partner, keep making efforts to overcome the lack of affection and intimacy in a relationship by doing little things religiously.<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-21436 size-full\" title=\"It is important that you initiate physical intimacy with your partner\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/It-is-important-that-you-initiate-physical-intimacy-with-your-partner.jpg\" alt=\"man smiling and listening to the woman talk\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Indulge in video chat, share photos, share informat<\/span>ion about your whereabouts and day-to-day events, and design your visits aimed at enhancing physical intimacy with your partner.<\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/intimate-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Be Intima<\/span><\/i><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/intimate-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/\"><i>te in a Long-Distance Relationship<\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Takeaway<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A sexless marriage just needs work and attention along with the right approach to solve the problems. Once both the partners identify the issue and discuss them, the solution is not far away.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wondering how to survive a sexless marriage? Well! Now you have your answers here.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Living in a sexless marriage is a heavy cross to bear! This begs the question, what is a sexless marriage? The definition of sexless marriage as per The Social Organization of Sexuality is this- it is the one where couples aren&rsquo;t engaging in sexual activity or are having minimal sexual encounters. Sex and marriage are not mutually exclusive. The effects of this on husband and wife include lack of emotional connection, conflicts, relationship dissatisfaction and even proclivity towards committing infidelity in marriage. Also Try: Are You In A Sexless Marriage Quiz What is intimacy? Intimacy denotes mutual love, sharing, and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":41692,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31],"tags":[2520],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2765"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2765"}],"version-history":[{"count":51,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2765\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":90739,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2765\/revisions\/90739"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/41692"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}