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Even in the most idyllic of relationships and marriages, there are occasional disagreements. <\/span><\/p>\n These can range from one or both partners utilizing the silent treatment to occasional sniping, to full out high volume screamathons with both partners shouting hurtful words. <\/span><\/p>\n Okay, so this is part and parcel of life with a partner when there are just two of you, but when you have children, as parents know, the whole life equation changes. <\/span><\/p>\n Priorities, no doubt, have changed, along with a million other aspects of your relationship, but arguments still pop up. This brings up a question which must be addressed: what happens to your children when you and your partner argue? <\/span><\/p>\n Let’s delve into and see what the experts have to say about this.<\/span><\/p>\n As you no doubt already know, fighting in the vicinity of kids results in a myriad of negative results. <\/span><\/p>\n It is often found that parents who have many conflicts in front of their kids may actually change the way their kids process information, in other words, how kids think. <\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Alice Schermerhorn<\/span><\/a>, Assistant Professor in UVM’s Department of Psychological Science, found that “children from high-conflict homes, by training their brains to be vigilant, process signs of interpersonal emotion, either anger or happiness, differently than children from low-conflict homes.” Keep that in mind the next time you are tempted to yell about something.<\/span><\/p>\n Since this is such an important area, researchers all over the world have published millions of words about it. For example, researchers Mark Flinn and Barry England analyzed samples of the stress hormone, cortisol, taken from all the children in a village on the island of Dominica in the Caribbean in a 20-year study. <\/span><\/p>\n They found that children who lived with parents who constantly quarrelled had higher average cortisol levels which indicate stress than children who lived in more peaceful families. <\/span><\/p>\n And what effect did these high levels of cortisol produce? <\/span><\/p>\n The children with the higher levels of cortisol frequently became tired and ill, they played less, and slept less than their peers who grew up in more peaceful homes. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Think about the down the broad ramifications of this. If a child is ill, he or she misses school and may start suffering academically. If children do not engage in playing with each other, they may not develop the social skills necessary to get along well in the world.<\/span><\/p>\n Children as young as six months old can recognize strife around themselves. <\/span><\/p>\n Most adults can remember their parents arguing. How old the child is determined in part the reaction or effect parental arguing has. A newborn may not be able to sense the tension in a marital relationship<\/a>, but a five-year-old certainly can.<\/span><\/p>\n In other words, children learn by copying what they see and hear around themselves. <\/span>As a parent, you are the world to your kids. <\/span><\/p>\n If you engage in shouting matches, your child will witness these and will grow up thinking that this is the norm. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/span>Going from two to three or more<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>This is a subject area where there has been a great deal of research<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Age factors when it comes to the effects of parental arguing<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Children model their behavior on what they observe in their environment<\/span><\/h2>\n
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