

{"id":2749,"date":"2015-10-21T07:27:17","date_gmt":"2015-10-21T07:27:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=2749"},"modified":"2026-06-16T10:45:43","modified_gmt":"2026-06-16T10:45:43","slug":"is-sex-necessary-for-a-happy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/is-sex-necessary-for-a-happy-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Sex Important in a Marriage? 15 Surprising Benefits"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-114845\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Stress-Relief-Mental-Calm.png\" alt=\"Stress Relief &amp; Mental Calm\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage brings so much to the table&hellip; companionship, laughter, shared dreams, and yes, intimacy. But somewhere between busy schedules, parenting duties, and the general chaos of everyday life, sex often slips quietly to the bottom of the priority list.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And when that happens, couples start wondering: Is sex important in a marriage, or is it something you can let fade without consequence?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The truth is, it matters more than most people realize. Sex isn&rsquo;t just about physical pleasure or stolen moments of closeness. It&rsquo;s a way of staying emotionally connected, of saying &ldquo;I still choose you&rdquo; without words.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The benefits it brings to a marriage, from stress relief to deeper trust and even better communication, might genuinely surprise you!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-Does-Sex-Matter-in-a-Marriage\"><\/span><b>Why Does Sex Matter in a Marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Sex does more than satisfy a physical need; it nurtures the emotional bond between partners.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The role of intimacy in marriage goes far deeper than the bedroom. It builds trust, reinforces commitment, and creates a sense of security that&rsquo;s hard to replicate any other way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And that sense of felt security between partners turns out to be one of the most important factors in how committed each person feels on any given day.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Sasaki and Overall, publishing in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, conducted two<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC7599705\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">daily diary studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with over 150 couples and found that lower felt security on a given day predicted lower daily commitment, but these reductions were mitigated when a partner reported higher levels of felt security that same day.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A partner who feels safe and secure in the relationship actively buffers the other person against their own insecurity, creating a dynamic in which both people are consistently drawn toward the relationship rather than away from it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When couples stay physically connected, they tend to communicate better, fight less, and simply feel more like a unified team. It really is that foundational.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-Sex-Important-in-a-Marriage-15-Surprising-Benefits\"><\/span><b>Is Sex Important in a Marriage? 15 Surprising Benefits<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex often gets overlooked when couples talk about marriage satisfaction factors, but the research tells a different story. A healthy sexual connection touches nearly every corner of a relationship, from how partners handle conflict to how safe they feel with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are 15 benefits that show just how much it matters, and explain emotional vs. physical connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Anti-aging benefits<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex has some anti-aging benefits associated with it; having sex releases anti-inflammatory molecules in our body, which aid in the repair work in our bodies. Our bodies continuously experience damage and repair.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boosting the repair process can slow down the aging process and, in turn, help us maintain a youthful appearance for a longer period.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prioritize consistency over frequency; regular intimacy matters more than intensity<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stay hydrated and nourish your body to support cellular repair<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Combine intimacy with adequate sleep to enhance recovery benefits<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>2. Improves self-esteem<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apart from improving your mood and increasing happiness, sex is known to work as a stress relief. It also helps to improve an individual&rsquo;s sense of self-worth or self-image.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regular intimacy can reinforce feelings of desirability and acceptance, reminding partners they are valued. Over time, this reassurance can foster greater confidence, emotional security, and a more positive connection with one&rsquo;s body.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express attraction verbally, not just physically<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on presence and connection, not performance<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Create a judgment-free space where both partners feel safe<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-esteem-makes-successful-relationships\/\" title=\"Self-Esteem Makes Successful Relationships\">Self-Esteem Makes Successful Relationships<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Increased levels of commitment<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-114847\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Emotional-Connection-Bonding.png\" alt=\"Emotional Connection &amp; Bonding\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex, in all, is about intimacy, pleasure, and sexual expression. Sex helps build a stronger bond between couples and develops a deeper sense of intimacy in loving relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The loving physical contact releases endorphins that help induce a feeling of well-being and the feeling of being loved. These endorphins also increase the desire to bond between spouses, resulting in cuddling and holding each other, specifically right after sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They feel an attraction towards each other, and being aware that your partner is attracted to you helps boost your self-esteem. It makes them feel desirable and much more confident in their daily lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moreover, being able to satisfy each other sexually, spouses tend to form deeper emotional connections.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/make-your-partner-sexually-satisfied\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual satisfaction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is closely related to the overall quality of life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spend a few minutes reconnecting after intimacy, not rushing away<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use affectionate touch outside the bedroom, too<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check in emotionally, not just physically<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-maintain-commitment-in-your-relationship\/\" title=\"How to Stay Committed in a Relationship: 21 Practical Tips\">How to Stay Committed in a Relationship: 21 Practical Tips<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Elevated moods<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical intimacy brings about a positive attitude. Both partners feel good about themselves and realize that their partner is still very much interested in them. This helps reduce insecurity, especially among women, and makes the spouses want each other more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And the relationship between mood and desire turns out to run in both directions, reinforcing each other in ways that benefit the entire relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fr&eacute;rart, De Roovere, Sels, and Ceulemans, publishing in The Journal of Sex Research,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/383695873\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conducted an experience<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sampling study with 188 couples and found bidirectional associations between mood and sexual desire both within and between partners.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A partner&rsquo;s positive mood predicted an increase in the other&rsquo;s sexual desire, while sexual desire itself predicted an increase in positive mood. The effects worked both ways, meaning that desire lifts mood and mood lifts desire, creating an upward cycle that benefits both people simultaneously.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having an attraction for each other results in no tension among the spouses, and sex is never considered a responsibility but rather an act of pleasing and attaining pleasure. Moreover, sex is known to relieve depression and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reduce levels of stress<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose intimacy during relaxed moments, not rushed ones<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Address emotional tension before physical closeness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Treat sex as a shared pleasure, not a task<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>5. Improved lifestyle<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual activity offers a wide range of physical and emotional benefits that can positively influence daily life. Regular intimacy supports better circulation, boosts energy levels, and encourages bodily awareness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, this can contribute to improved fitness, healthier routines, reduced stress, and a more balanced, active lifestyle overall.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pair intimacy with other healthy habits like walks or stretching<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep screens away to stay physically engaged<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen to your body and pace yourself<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/how-to-maintain-a-healthy-relationship\/\" title=\"How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship and Build a Fulfilling Married Life\">How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship and Build a Fulfilling Married Life<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Better skin and appearance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It has been proven by countless studies that<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/regular-sex-can-make-relationship-better\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">regular sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can make you look younger. Sex makes you sweat a lot, which leads to flushing out the toxins from your skin, leaving behind a dewy glow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your heart also beats faster during sex, improving blood circulation and leaving behind a flushed effect on the skin. Moreover, we often use our facial muscles to express ourselves during a sexual encounter, which can result in fewer wrinkles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cleanse skin after intimacy to prevent clogged pores<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stay hydrated before and after<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reduce stress, which directly affects skin health<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>7. Improved immunity<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/stages-of-physical-intimacy-in-a-new-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> also leads to the release of an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This helps protect the body against diseases.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It also helps release other anti-inflammatory chemicals in the body that repair worn-out and damaged tissues, thereby enhancing the immune system.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maintain overall wellness through nutrition and sleep<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoid intimacy when unwell to allow recovery<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reduce chronic stress, which weakens immunity<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/importance-of-love-in-marriage\/\" title=\"What Is the Importance of Love in Marriage: 13 Reasons\">What Is the Importance of Love in Marriage: 13 Reasons<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Lighter periods in women<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is an added benefit of sex for women. Most women experience severe cramps during their menstrual periods. Regular sex can help reduce cramping because of the frequent contraction of the uterus.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This helps expel pain-causing toxins and tissues from the body, resulting in a lighter period that ends more quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communicate comfort levels clearly during periods<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose gentle positions that reduce pressure<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on relaxation rather than performance<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>9. Better sleep<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oxytocin is released during orgasm achieved through sexual activity. Oxytocin has a calming effect and can promote a much more peaceful sleep for both partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical relaxation and emotional closeness afterward help quiet the mind. This makes it easier to fall asleep faster and enjoy deeper, more restorative rest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoid screens immediately after intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wind down together instead of separating quickly<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep bedtime intimacy relaxed, not rushed<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/10-reasons-to-have-sex-frequently-with-your-spouse\/\" title=\"21 Benefits of Sex in Marriage for Better Health\">21 Benefits of Sex in Marriage for Better Health<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Relieved bodily pains<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oxytocin also helps relieve body pain, such as headaches. The compound is also known for its ability to reduce cardiac issues.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual activity can trigger the release of natural pain-relieving hormones. This may help alleviate muscle tension, reduce discomfort, and promote a general sense of physical well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose comfortable positions that avoid strain<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stretch gently before and after intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pay attention to your body&rsquo;s limits<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>11. Family extension<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many couples decide to have children after marriage and tend to do so within a few years of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/getting-married\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">getting married<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. With children, couples tend to grow closer to each other, and their love for one another only deepens.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only is the joy of becoming parents from their union what knits them together, but husbands also tend to take care of their wives much more during pregnancy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communicate openly about readiness and expectations<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Support each other emotionally during transitions<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep intimacy alive beyond reproductive goals<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>12. Sex is a stress-buster<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-114846\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/Physical-Health-Energy-Boost.png\" alt=\"Physical Health &amp; Energy Boost\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After a long day at the office, juggling work, household chores, children, and a grumpy spouse, most of us are not only tired but also stressed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The benefit of having sex is that it helps us cope with stress better because it releases feel-good endorphins in our bodies. It also helps the body relax, which is why many people naturally drift into a deep, restful sleep afterward.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose moments when stress is highest, not exhaustion<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on connection rather than duration<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use intimacy as a way to unwind together<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/stress-in-marriage\/\" title=\"15 Ways to Handle Stress in Marriage\">15 Ways to Handle Stress in Marriage<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Sex is an excellent workout<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex naturally engages<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/10.1177\/10664807221104120\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">multiple muscle groups<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, increases heart rate, and improves blood circulation. It keeps the body active while boosting flexibility and stamina.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it may not replace a full gym session, regular intimacy can still contribute to physical movement, calorie use, and overall fitness in a way that feels far more enjoyable than traditional exercise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vary positions to engage different muscles<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maintain steady breathing to support endurance<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Treat movement as playful, not strenuous<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>14. Releasing happy hormones<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Frequent sex is known to release endorphins that help to make you feel good, fight off depression, and lower irritability.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another importance of sex in a relationship is that during<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual stimulation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the hormone oxytocin is released, which aids with bonding and feelings of connectedness and security. It&rsquo;s not difficult to see how this alone can benefit your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Slow down to enhance emotional connection<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maintain eye contact and an affectionate touch<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express appreciation after intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this TED in which psychotherapist Esther Perel explains how balancing security and mystery helps sustain desire in long-term relationships:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sa0RUmGTCYY?si=27VdNFVzpV8mf_ti\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. It improves heart health<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Frequent sex is known to release endorphins that help to make you feel good, fight off depression, and lower irritability.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another importance of sex in marriage is that during sexual stimulation, the hormone oxytocin is released, which aids with bonding and feelings of connectedness and security. It&rsquo;s not difficult to see how this alone can benefit your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how to get the most out of it:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maintain a healthy pace that suits both partners<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Combine intimacy with an active lifestyle<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Manage stress together, inside and outside the bedroom<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex in marriage raises a lot of questions, and that&rsquo;s completely normal. Here are some of the most common ones couples ask.<\/span><\/p>\n<style>#sp-ea-121093 .spcollapsing { height: 0; overflow: hidden; transition-property: height;transition-duration: 300ms;}#sp-ea-121093.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single {border: 1px solid #e2e2e2; }#sp-ea-121093.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.ea-header a {color: #444;}#sp-ea-121093.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.sp-collapse>.ea-body {background: #fff; color: #444;}#sp-ea-121093.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single {background: #eee;}#sp-ea-121093.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.ea-header a .ea-expand-icon.fa { float: left; color: #444;font-size: 16px;}<\/style><div id=\"sp-ea-121093\" class=\"sp-ea-one sp-easy-accordion\" data-ex-icon=\"fa-angle-up\" data-col-icon=\"fa-angle-down\"  data-ea-active=\"ea-click\"  data-ea-mode=\"vertical\" data-preloader=\"\" data-scroll-active-item=\"\" data-offset-to-scroll=\"0\"><div class=\"ea-card ea-expand sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1210930 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"true\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-up\"><\/i> Is sex necessary for a happy marriage?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse collapsed show\" id=\"collapse1210930\" data-parent=#sp-ea-121093><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not always, but for most couples it plays a significant role. A fulfilling sexual connection tends to strengthen emotional intimacy, reduce tension, and reinforce feelings of closeness. Without it, partners can slowly start feeling more like roommates than lovers.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1210931 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> How often should married couples have sex?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1210931\" data-parent=#sp-ea-121093><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There's no universal answer. What matters most is that both partners feel content with the frequency and are on the same page about their needs. Quality almost always outweighs quantity in a long-term relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1210932 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> Can a marriage survive without sex?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1210932\" data-parent=#sp-ea-121093><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, some marriages do. But if the lack of sex stems from unresolved conflict, stress, or disconnection rather than mutual agreement, it can quietly erode the relationship over time. An open conversation about it is essential.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1210933 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> What happens when sex stops in a marriage?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1210933\" data-parent=#sp-ea-121093><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples may start feeling emotionally distant, misunderstood, or disconnected. It doesn't always signal a crisis, but it's worth paying attention to. Addressing the underlying reasons early makes it much easier to reconnect before the gap widens.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1210934 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> How can couples improve their sex life in marriage?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1210934\" data-parent=#sp-ea-121093><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start with an honest, judgment-free conversation about needs and desires. Small gestures of affection outside the bedroom help too. Prioritizing time together, reducing stress, and occasionally trying something new can all reignite a connection that's lost some spark.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"More-Than-Just-Intimacy\"><\/span><b>More Than Just Intimacy<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, is sex important in a marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For most couples, absolutely. It&rsquo;s one of those quiet pillars that hold a relationship together in ways that aren&rsquo;t always obvious until it&rsquo;s missing. <\/span><b>The benefits go well beyond physical pleasure; they touch trust, communication, emotional safety, and even individual well-being.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like any other part of a marriage, it takes attention and care. Prioritize it, talk about it openly, and don&rsquo;t let the busyness of life push it aside. Your relationship deserves that effort.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marriage brings so much to the table&hellip; companionship, laughter, shared dreams, and yes, intimacy. But somewhere between busy schedules, parenting duties, and the general chaos of everyday life, sex often slips quietly to the bottom of the priority list. And when that happens, couples start wondering: Is sex important in a marriage, or is it something you can let fade without consequence? The truth is, it matters more than most people realize. Sex isn&rsquo;t just about physical pleasure or stolen moments of closeness. It&rsquo;s a way of staying emotionally connected, of saying &ldquo;I still choose you&rdquo; without words. 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