

{"id":26397,"date":"2018-08-22T09:38:31","date_gmt":"2018-08-22T09:38:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=26397"},"modified":"2022-11-27T06:00:59","modified_gmt":"2022-11-27T06:00:59","slug":"how-many-separations-end-in-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/how-many-separations-end-in-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"How Many Couples End up Filing for Divorce After Separation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-26399 size-full\" title=\"How Many Couples End Up Filing for Divorce After Separation\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/How-Many-Separations-End-in-Divorce.jpg\" alt=\"How Many Couples End Up Filing for Divorce After Separation\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel that your marriage has hit rock bottom? Do you think that marriage separation is the only answer to this problem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a married couple plans to separate, people all around them start to assume that they are headed towards <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, this isn&rsquo;t always the case.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is natural for you to be wanting to break-free from your annoying <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for a while. But it doesn&rsquo;t have to be forever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A trial separation is one of the better options when it comes to marital separation. A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Trial_separation\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trial separation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a type of marriage separation, but living together is possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moreover, it is a type of healing separation wherein you keep the door to reconciliation wide open.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most couples rely on temporary separation as a means of working on their marriage and bringing back the spark in their life. In case this plan fails, some might opt for divorce, whereas some stay in the separation phase for a longer duration.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now you might wonder, how long should a separation last? And, what are the rules of separation in marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are separated from your spouse, you cannot have fixed marriage separation guidelines on how to handle the separation of a marriage or what not to do during a separation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every couple is unique, and taking a break from marriage can have different outcomes for different couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Statistics-on-marriage-separation\"><\/span>Statistics on marriage separation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are separating from your spouse, it is obvious for you to think about how many separations end in a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.divorcestatistics.info\/can-separated-couples-reconcile.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies suggest<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that even though 87% of couples end up filing for divorce, the remaining 13% reconcile after a separation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although the percentage of people reconciling is lower than the ones opting for divorce, remember that you can be in that 13 percent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, you need to keep in mind that reconciliation can only happen if both parties are willing for it and if you have a hope of winning back the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you&rsquo;ve lost.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also Watch: 7 Most Common Reasons for Divorce<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GDijrLvw6D0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Reconciliation-after-marriage-separation\"><\/span>Reconciliation after marriage separation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">save your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, there is no harm in putting in some additional efforts for one last time. You, going the extra mile, can fetch you wonderful results.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, here are given some useful tips that can help you in your bid to reconcile after a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hg.org\/legal-articles\/what-is-the-difference-between-separation-and-divorce-31008\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage separation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Choose-your-words-carefully\"><\/span>1. Choose your words carefully<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You must have tried being nasty with your spouse all this while. But, did it help you in any way?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhaps not!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, it is imperative that you <\/span><b>choose your words very wisely<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> during a marriage separation as every word becomes important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When speaking to your spouse, keep in mind that they will listen very intently as to what you say and try to work out how you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are quick to judge and put the blame on one another, you will verify that the only viable option is divorce.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-See-things-from-their-view\"><\/span>2. See things from their view<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-26400 size-full\" title=\"See things from their view\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/See-things-from-their-view.jpg\" alt=\"See things from their view\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You must have been really busy thinking about your pain and how you have been affected all this while. Now that you have opted for marriage separation try to utilize the time to broaden your perspective.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not just you who is facing the consequences of the separation; it&rsquo;s your spouse too!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For once, stop trying to justify yourself and instead use this time to see things from their perspective.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this separation period, try to understand how your partner feels when you do something wrong in the relationship and make amends to fix this issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Avoid-being-clingy\"><\/span>3. Avoid being clingy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People opt for separation when they need time to think and be by themselves. If you continue being clingy at this time, then this will turn off your spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since they are not in a mood to be around you, then stalking them, bugging them, or <\/span><b>begging for them to come back will only ruin your relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and push them further away. Being needy will make way to divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, even if you are tempted to cry your heart out, control your urge of clinginess. Express yourself honestly, but without playing the victim card, and when the time is right.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner can get pleasantly surprised by seeing your newfound positive approach and become willing to listen to your part. This is how you can better your chances of reconciliation after marriage separation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Maintain-a-connection\"><\/span>4. Maintain a connection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since you both are making changes in your life, things are bound to affect your relationship in some way or another.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if you feel you haven&rsquo;t changed a bit, your spouse might feel different and interact with you differently. When you do not carry the annoying, frustrating, and blaming aura around you, this will be very visible to your spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This way, your spouse can warm up to you, thereby increasing the chances of reviving your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In times like this, it is essential that you reach out to your spouse and make plans to hang out together instead of completely shutting them out. This way, you won&rsquo;t feel the need to forget your previous life and move on too quickly.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choosing marriage separation doesn&rsquo;t mean you shouldn&rsquo;t maintain a connection with your spouse. You don&rsquo;t have to disconnect entirely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, you have a right to maintain the distance. But, bonding and feelings can never end abruptly. So, instead of being strangers, you can try to include your partner in your life whenever you can.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;This way, you will increase the chances of reconciling with your significant other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage separation is a painful process, not just for you but also for your spouse. Take all the time in this world to think about what exactly you want in life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, at the same time, have an open mindset to see what your spouse is feeling. People can change for good. So, don&rsquo;t hold any bias to miss out on the good in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you feel that your marriage has hit rock bottom? Do you think that marriage separation is the only answer to this problem? When a married couple plans to separate, people all around them start to assume that they are headed towards divorce. However, this isn&rsquo;t always the case. It is natural for you to be wanting to break-free from your annoying relationship for a while. But it doesn&rsquo;t have to be forever. A trial separation is one of the better options when it comes to marital separation. A trial separation is a type of marriage separation, but living together <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":26399,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[36],"tags":[2705],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26397"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":59604,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397\/revisions\/59604"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26397"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26397"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26397"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}