{"id":2586,"date":"2015-10-16T09:43:32","date_gmt":"2015-10-16T09:43:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=2586"},"modified":"2026-04-01T07:11:32","modified_gmt":"2026-04-01T07:11:32","slug":"make-a-list-and-do-these-3-things-to-save-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/make-a-list-and-do-these-3-things-to-save-your-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Make a List and Do These 3 Things To Save Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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When you find yourself at the threshold of being ready to end your marriage, it’s a horrible feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

More than likely, you feel as if you have tried your best to get things to work, but they can’t be fixed. But marriage problems are unavoidable. Ending a marriage is not a solution; you should find ways to <\/span>save your marriage<\/span><\/a> instead.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, it is at this point that so many people tend to give up altogether, for they feel that the problems with their marriage simply can’t be fixed.<\/span><\/p>\n

What if you made a list? We’re not talking about the typical pros and cons list here, but rather the type where you really put thought into what is going wrong and how it’s being handled. If you fail to arrive at a proper solution, you can consider seeking marriage help from an expert.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, approaching a therapist may not be the ultimate solution for dealing with marital problems. And, <\/span>timing<\/span><\/a> is everything when it comes to marriage counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of relying only on a counselor, you can start by listing out things or events which, you think, is responsible for your failing marriage. Such exercise calls for a lot of effort on the part of both the partners, but this is the least you can do to save your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

Also, this can serve as an important eye-opening exercise for many people who have a tendency to place blame solely on their spouse. Sure, there are instances where the spouse may be the sole cause of the breakdown in the marriage<\/a>, but most of the time it takes for things to go terribly wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

This doesn’t mean that the blame is placed squarely on you either, for this is truly a joint effort. Take responsibility for your part. You have to think through what makes you ready to quit the marriage and then consider what you are doing to instigate or fuel their problem areas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recommended – <\/b>Save My Marriage Course<\/b><\/a><\/h3>\n