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Marital dissolution is difficult yet it is becoming increasingly common. <\/span><\/p>\n According to the <\/span>American Psychological Association<\/span><\/a>, 40%-50% of married couples in the United States <\/span>divorce<\/span><\/a>. This picture brings forth the undeniable importance of conducting <\/span>premarital counseling<\/b> to <\/span>waive off<\/b> any possibility of future <\/span>marital separation<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n A <\/span>divorce is an unfortunate event<\/b> that literally rips families and other personal ties apart. It is not just the couple who is working through the heaviness and hardship that follows after a painful <\/a><\/span>separation<\/span><\/a>. Children, parents, friends, neighbors – just about everyone connected with the estranged partners is hurt when the marriage becomes tattered and twisted.<\/span><\/p>\n In spite of the fact that <\/span>divorce rates have relatively declined<\/span><\/a> since the turn of the 21st Century, it is still very much a reality in society today.<\/span><\/p>\n The question here is – could all of this have been avoided? Perhaps, couple counseling before marriage could have changed the sorry picture.<\/span><\/p>\n Good<\/span> premarital counseling<\/span><\/a> will <\/span>provide a couple<\/b> with the right set of <\/span>tools<\/b> they need <\/span>to practice forgiveness<\/b> throughout the lifetime of the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n Premarital counseling<\/b> is a therapy type that works towards <\/span>preparing couples for marriage<\/b>. The importance of premarital counseling is undeniable. It has helped couples understand what they can expect out of their marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n Counseling before marriage<\/b> is imperative for observing peace and harmony in life after marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n BYU psychology professor, Scott Braithwaite said, “Premarital counseling is a great way for people to do their homework about the most important decision they are ever going to make so that they can go into it armed with skills that are going to be very helpful,” <\/span><\/p>\n This is the purpose of premarital counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n Only an experienced pre-marriage counselor will give you a clear understanding of what your life will be once the honeymoon phase is over. <\/span><\/p>\n After all, the real married life is nothing similar to what romantic stories like Mills and Boons conveyed. You will get a reality check through proper premarital counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n In fact, a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> says couples who had premarital counseling before their wedding had a 30% higher marital success rate. <\/span><\/p>\n And just like what the famous saying states, ‘experience speaks for itself,’ so also <\/span>seeking<\/b> proper premarital <\/span>counseling from a professional<\/b> is always <\/span>better<\/b> than drawing premarital advice from a layman.<\/span><\/p>\n Also, read –<\/b> When is the right time for premarital counseling?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n What are the benefits of premarital counseling?<\/b><\/p>\n To understand what is the purpose of premarital counseling, one has to delve deeper into the <\/span>array of benefits<\/b> that <\/span>counseling<\/b> for couples <\/span>before marriage has to offer<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\n Let’s try and figure them out one at a time.<\/span><\/p>\n Premarital counseling<\/b> gives<\/b> you the <\/span>power of transparency<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n Transparency is a key component of a marriage. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n It is not always easy to talk about our family of origin. Also, it does not always feel good to talk about previous relationships if they rendered us scarred and scared. Who among us likes being vulnerable with a person we have never met before?<\/span><\/p>\n But, this very notion about premarital counseling is wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Premarital counseling<\/b>, if done well, will <\/span>take us out of our comfort areas<\/b> for a few hours. Why? Putting the bad stuff on the table and dealing with it before it shows up unannounced and damages the marriage is not such a bad thing. <\/span><\/p>\n Premarital counselors insist on <\/b>honesty<\/span><\/a> and your <\/span>marriage<\/b>, if it is going to be a healthy one, will <\/span>demand honesty<\/b>!<\/span><\/p>\n Premarital counselors will help you develop the tools you will need to practice forgiveness. Active listening, “I statements,” and atonement are among the assortment of tools pre-marriage counseling brings to the future bond.<\/span><\/p>\n Also, read –<\/b> Traffic lights in premarital counseling<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n Sometimes, two individuals, have no business being together for a long-term partnership. If the <\/span>relationship was forged through the fire of intimacy<\/b>, the couple may be running on endorphins <\/span>instead of<\/b> a mutually <\/span>shared commitment<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n If addiction and <\/span>infidelity<\/span><\/a> are issues before the<\/span> marriage license<\/span> has been signed, then what’s the value in perpetuating an unhealthy cycle? <\/span><\/p>\n Now, <\/span>effective premarital counseling<\/b> forces us to <\/span>ask<\/b> ourselves the <\/span>difficult questions <\/b>about the relationship and its future before the rings are exchanged and the <\/span>vows<\/span><\/a> are sealed by holy invocation.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>What is premarital counseling?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>1. The power of transparency<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n<\/span>2. Walk together or walk apart<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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