{"id":22381,"date":"2018-03-23T06:53:23","date_gmt":"2018-03-23T06:53:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=22381"},"modified":"2022-10-28T12:32:50","modified_gmt":"2022-10-28T12:32:50","slug":"why-you-shouldnt-try-to-change-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-you-shouldnt-try-to-change-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Here\u2019s Why You Shouldn\u2019t Try to Change Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Why<\/p>\n

You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. A tiger never changes its stripes. There is a reason why there are so many clichés about the inability to change.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you were first dating, your partner could do no wrong. They wooed and romanced you so well that you barely noticed their quirky little habits. But now, after years of marriage, what was once a cute quirk has now turned into an irritating quirk.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may want them to change but remember this: encouraging someone to be their best self is an admirable quality of a supportive partner, but forcibly trying to change your spouse can do more damage than good – for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s natural for couples to change and grow, but this is something that should happen naturally, not something you should exhaustively pursue.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even <\/span>research <\/span><\/a>shows that changing partners doesn’t change relationship dynamics per se.<\/span><\/p>\n

So let’s look at some of the reasons why you should never try to change your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Common areas people try and change<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Don’t change your partner – it’s a phrase we’ve all heard, yet some won’t heed this sage advice. It is never wise to go into a <\/span>relationship<\/span><\/a> thinking you can change your partner. Positive changes come over time, not by force. Here are some of the most common things people try to change in relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n