

{"id":2220,"date":"2015-09-24T04:49:37","date_gmt":"2015-09-24T04:49:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=2220"},"modified":"2022-11-06T12:13:17","modified_gmt":"2022-11-06T12:13:17","slug":"overcoming-the-anxiety-of-pre-marriage-counseling-questions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/overcoming-the-anxiety-of-pre-marriage-counseling-questions\/","title":{"rendered":"Overcoming the Anxiety of Pre-Marriage Counseling Questions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2965 size-full\" title=\"Overcoming the anxiety of pre marriage counseling\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/ovrcoming-the-anxiety-of-pre-marriage-counling.jpg\" alt=\"Overcoming the anxiety of pre marriage counseling\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Admit it, you are nervous.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner said yes, the wedding day is planned, and now you must keep the first of your promises to the future Mr. \/Mrs. Smith &ndash; premarital counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pre-marriage counseling questions will help you deep-dive into differing issues on significant aspects of marriage and help you combat pre-wedding anxiety.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Nervous-about-marriage-counseling\"><\/span>Nervous about marriage counseling?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-36034\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/What-Is-Counseling-and-Its-Role-in-the-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Nervous about counseling\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your mind is deluged with a volley of questions. What will the counselor ask? Will I be embarrassed? Will my beloved be so disgusted by my skeletons that she will run from me? Fear not, friend.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Premarital counseling is a tool and not an examination.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-should-you-do-pre-marriage-counseling\"><\/span>Why should you do pre-marriage counseling?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your marital satisfaction depends on how well you handle a wide array of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> issues. Financial decisions, work-life balance, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, children, values and beliefs, and sex, it&rsquo;s important that you both know what to expect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage and anxiety are not mutually exclusive and premarital counseling questions will help you deal with anxiety before marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are feeling anxious before marriage you are not alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Premarital anxiety is legit! Many brides and grooms-to-be have them. Discussing your marriage counseling questions before marriage with a counselor will help you prepare for marriage and increase your chance of building a stable and healthy marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-exactly-is-pre-marriage-counseling\"><\/span>What exactly is pre-marriage counseling?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-38171 size-full\" title=\"Pre-marriage counseling questions prepare for marriage and all the challenges that marriage entails\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/Things-You-Can-Expect-from-Marriage-Counseling-Sesions.jpg\" alt=\"Pre-marriage counseling questions prepare for marriage and all the challenges that marriage entails\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pre-marriage counseling is a type of <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapy<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with a set of pre-marriage counseling questions that help the couples, contemplating marriage, to prepare for marriage and all the challenges that marriage entails.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pre-marriage counseling is designed to help couples move beyond the butterflies and warm fuzzies of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romance<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> so that they may engage in robust dialogue about the impending marriage and the stressors that may come into play once the honeymoon is over.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pre-marriage counseling is usually well-rooted in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> systems theory, a therapeutic approach that explores how our family histories may impact our futures.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Through the use of genograms that partners submit before or during counseling, couples understand different factors and roles that have played a significant role (in the life of their partners) and how it can impact the impending marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-counseling-questions-will-I-be-asked\"><\/span>What counseling questions will I be asked?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pre-marriage counseling questions run the gamut of topics depending on the couple&rsquo;s background, the counselor&rsquo;s interest, and the potential need to look at a couple of areas in intricate detail.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Examples-of-pre-marriage-counseling-questions\"><\/span>Examples of pre-marriage counseling questions<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the<\/span><b> gender expectations<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you bring to the marriage?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you have<\/span><b> skeletons in the closet<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that your partner is unaware of at this time?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is your <\/span><b>vision for children<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Does this vision mirror your partner&rsquo;s vision?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you talked about finances? <\/span><b>Are your <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/\"><b>finances healthy<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will there be an equitable <\/span><b>division of labor<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the home?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Will you share bank accounts<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or have your own?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What will happen if you disagree on major issues? Do you have the<\/span><b> emotional tools to work through the impasse<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you been<\/span><b> intimate before the marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you have any<\/span><b> health issues<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that your partner is not aware of at this time?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this list for pre-marriage counseling questions is by no means exhaustive, it provides a good overview of the questions that will be addressed in counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At all times, be honest. Listen to your partner. Be open about deepening your relationship through transparency.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are a woman who is going to walk down the aisle soon, here are some <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/seven-pre-marriage-relationship-tips-for-women\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pre-marriage tips<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to help you deepen the bond with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Recommended<\/strong>&nbsp;&ndash;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/pre-marriage-course\">Pre Marriage&nbsp;Course<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-best-ever-pre-marriage-advice\"><\/span>The best ever pre-marriage advice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would help lay a strong foundation for your marriage longevity if you could set aside some time from the hustle and bustle of wedding preparations and go through some premarital counseling questions or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/premarital-counseling-questionnaire\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">premarital counseling questionnaire<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Going through these will shed light on the most pertinent questions that will decide the health of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Asking pre-marriage counseling questions is also a gateway to identify the deal breakers in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage counseling questions can help make your marriage better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage counseling questions can help you focus on potentially conflicting issues, build and maintain trust, and expectation setting. It can make all the difference in deciding if your relationship is conflicted, salvageable, healthy, and if both of you are headed to mutual happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Significant-marriage-counseling-questions-you-can-ask-each-other\"><\/span>Significant marriage counseling questions you can ask each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you trust me enough to share everything with me? Can I do something to build trust between us?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel comfortable\/uncomfortable with sharing the passwords to our respective electronic devices?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What can I do to make you happy?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What stresses you and how can I help you deal with it better?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I fulfill your physical needs? Are you comfortable sharing with me ways to spice up our sex life?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you happy with the frequency of sex in our relationship?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are there any unresolved conflicts from the past that still bother you?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What relationship goals would you like us to create and achieve?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is your most fond memory of us?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Should we combine our finances or manage them individually<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Communication-can-easily-trump-a-lack-of-compatibility\"><\/span>Communication can easily trump a lack of compatibility<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answers to pre-marriage counseling questions and the guided intervention of a marriage counselor can help prevent the roadblocks to marital bliss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use the blueprint in the form of these pre-marriage counseling questions and marriage counseling questions to be on the same page and to learn to agree to disagree, gracefully.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In addition, it would be a good idea to take up a credible <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">online marriage course<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, from the comfort of your home to help you learn the fundamentals of a healthy marriage, and navigate the married life curveballs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage can be amazing if you do it right, and with the right mate. Discussing these pre-marriage counseling questions will help you both to understand what you want out of your marriage, as well as individually.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Admit it, you are nervous. Your partner said yes, the wedding day is planned, and now you must keep the first of your promises to the future Mr. \/Mrs. Smith &ndash; premarital counseling. Pre-marriage counseling questions will help you deep-dive into differing issues on significant aspects of marriage and help you combat pre-wedding anxiety. Nervous about marriage counseling? Your mind is deluged with a volley of questions. What will the counselor ask? Will I be embarrassed? Will my beloved be so disgusted by my skeletons that she will run from me? Fear not, friend. Premarital counseling is a tool and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":630,"featured_media":2965,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[21],"tags":[2618],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2220"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/630"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2220"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2220\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":57341,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2220\/revisions\/57341"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2965"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2220"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2220"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2220"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}