{"id":21093,"date":"2018-01-18T12:31:12","date_gmt":"2018-01-18T12:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=21093"},"modified":"2026-04-28T10:38:08","modified_gmt":"2026-04-28T10:38:08","slug":"couples-therapy-exercises-you-can-do-at-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/couples-therapy-exercises-you-can-do-at-home\/","title":{"rendered":"25 Couples Therapy Exercises You Can Do at Home to Improve Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-21094 size-full\" title=\"Do it yourself Couple therapy that you can do at home\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Do-it-yourself-Couple-therapy-that-you-can-do-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"Do it yourself Couple therapy that you can do at home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage isn&rsquo;t always easy and it can be helpful to have some professional guidance and advice along the way. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, not all couples are excited at the thought of airing their marriage difficulties to a stranger in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thankfully there are many couples therapy exercises you can do at home to strengthen your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and build trust and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>These couples therapy techniques can help you communicate on a deeper level, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-art-of-fighting-fair-in-a-relationship\/\">teach you to fight fair<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>, and create goals for your future together.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many benefits to practicing these couples therapy exercises both before and after marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Strengthen your relationship and your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for one another by adding these 25 trust and communication-building exercises into your weekly routine. These exercises can work well instead of pre-marriage counseling, or alongside it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WW_pWULW6WE?si=9ZEaR5vp23dJAdsV\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Do-a-trust-fall\"><\/span><b>1. Do a trust fall<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>A trust fall is a trust-building exercise that may seem small but fosters large results.<\/strong> We may have done it as a fun activity with friends but it can be a part of couples&rsquo; therapy at home.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To do a trust fall, one partner stands behind their blindfolded spouse. The blindfolded spouse will then deliberately fall backward and their partner will catch them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It sounds like an easy game, but it requires trust and blind faith in the blindfolded spouse that their partner will catch them. This may cause the blindfolded partner to turn around, fearing that their partner will miss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/how-to-be-a-team-player-to-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This exercise builds teamwork<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, trust, and fosters a feeling of safety and security in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Note: When doing any kind of exercise like this, always practice safety by choosing a physically safe place to conduct this exercise.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Never-go-to-bed-angry\"><\/span><b>2. Never go to bed angry<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the couples therapy exercises that will soon become a &ldquo;Code to live by&rdquo; is that of never going to bed angry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Beijing Normal University researchers Wanjun Lin and Yunzhe Liu performed a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nature.com\/articles\/ncomms13375\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sleep study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> on 73 male students to see how negative emotions and memories would affect their sleep patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The results showed the students were less capable of restful sleep and had a heightened feeling of distress after being shown negative imagery right before bed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If these students were to be shown negative imagery hours before going to sleep, the brain would be able to subdue the distress response.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, going to bed immediately after arguing or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/working-together-with-trauma-in-a-committed-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">experiencing trauma<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> causes the brain to protect that emotion, keeping it fresh and clear in the mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These findings suggest that <strong>the age-old adage of &ldquo;Don&rsquo;t go to bed angry&rdquo; definitely has some merit to it.<\/strong> Negative emotions directly impact the ability to sleep. If you and your spouse are in distress, you should make nice before heading to bed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider this and other activities that reduce conflict as couples communication exercises that will only make your terms of endearment better than before.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though it may be difficult to resolve all issues before bed, agree to table the disagreement, and both practice small gratitude exercises before bed.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will allow you to focus on the positive aspects of each other leaving a positive image in the mind before bed leading to a better night&rsquo;s sleep.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Review the concerns in the morning with a well-rested mindset.<\/strong> Your feelings may have changed and if you were unable to fix the issue before bed, it may be easier at this point.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Write-an-appreciation-list\"><\/span><b>3. Write an appreciation list<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the best couples therapy exercises have to do with<strong> restructuring how you think and feel about your partner.<\/strong> A great way to do this is with an appreciation list.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners will write down five things their partner does that they appreciate, followed by five things their partner could be <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">doing to make them feel more loved<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, secure, or appreciated in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By writing down and meditating on their spouse&rsquo;s good qualities first, partners will be able to focus on the good in the relationship before looking at ways to improve love and communication in a constructive way, rather than accusatory.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can also maintain couples therapy worksheets or marriage <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> worksheets with a more detailed analysis that can be used for self-assessment.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Unplug-from-technology\"><\/span><b>4. Unplug from technology<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best couples therapy exercises you can do is to u<strong>nplug from technology and have a talking session.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Smartphones and devices are a great way to connect to the world, but they have a surprisingly bad effect on your relationships. After all, how can you give your spouse your undivided attention when you are checking your phone every ten minutes?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For this exercise, <strong>eliminate distractions such as television, video games, and smartphones for 10 minutes a day. Use these 10 minutes to talk to one another.<\/strong> Go back and forth telling each other the things you love and appreciate about them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do not interrupt one another. This feel-good exercise creates positive thinking and boosts self-esteem. Abstaining from technology and focusing on your partner is actually advocated by many marriage counselors among the relationship-building activities for couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can go for a shared meditation experience as well!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video of breathwork by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/eileen-fein\">therapist Eileen Fein<\/a>:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/i9OxMd5-HT4\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Team-building-exercises\"><\/span><b>5. Team building exercises<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/4-things-to-consider-to-make-your-love-life-better\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you are working on bettering your relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it&rsquo;s time for the team-building exercise<strong>. This fun step involves the two of you trying something new that requires you to rely on one another.<\/strong> You can make these couples therapy activities as fun or as challenging as you like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some ideas for team building exercises include l<strong>earning an instrument together, hiking, learning a new language, making online videos together, and zip-lining, kayaking, or going to the gym.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both of you can make a list of some activities that you would both enjoy trying together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Honesty-hour-or-%E2%80%9CMarriage-check-in%E2%80%9D\"><\/span><b>6. Honesty hour or &ldquo;Marriage check-in&rdquo;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are trying to find the best couples therapy exercises for communication then go for a marriage check-in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a &ldquo;couple exercise&rdquo; that should be done once a week, face to face. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples will have an hour of honesty where they speak frankly, but kindly, about the state of their marriage.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners will then be allowed to talk about improvements they would like to see in the marriage or speak of things that are bothering them. The listening partner agrees not to get overly offended or overreact.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This arrangement allows both partners <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/become-a-better-listener\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the opportunity to listen and to be heard<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The calm atmosphere of this marriage check-in should encourage partners to speak freely to one another with a view to solving a problem, not attacking one another.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experts vouch for this as one of the best trust-building exercises for couples as many emotional walls can be broken with this technique.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Consistent-date-night\"><\/span><b>7. Consistent date night<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-49994 size-full\" title=\"Consistent date night\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/consistent-date-night.jpg\" alt=\"Consistent date night\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter the age or duration of the romantic relationship, all couples will benefit from a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/do-you-have-regular-date-nights\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">regularly scheduled date night<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. These evenings allow you to plan fun relationship-building activities together, which foster positive emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">D<strong>ate night is also a great opportunity to reconnect emotionally and sexually in a fresh environment.<\/strong> Consider it as one of the fun and romantic couple counseling exercises.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The closer a couple is, the better their communication and the physical relationship will be. Whatever you do on date night, make sure you are focusing on each other and having a great time with such &ldquo;couple communication exercises&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Eliminate-stress-triggers\"><\/span><b>8. Eliminate stress triggers<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stress is harmful to a marriage. Not only does it cause couples to associate negative feelings with one another,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4008713\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but prolonged marital stress<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can also lead to clinical depression and other psychiatric disorders.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Identify stress triggers in your marriage<\/strong>. Examples of stress triggers might be bringing up past conflicts such as <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, health concerns, and financial instability.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of bringing up stress triggers to argue, identify them to solve the problem so that resentment does not linger from these topics in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-Create-a-bucket-list\"><\/span><b>9. Create a bucket list<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Happy couples are kinder to one another. One<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC1820947\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> revealed that happy people are more likely to be kind to others, have higher motivational drives, and a sense of gratitude. Couples who try new things together build trust and cooperation skills and boost happiness levels.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best relationship-building activities is by trying new experiences together. Create a bucket list of things you want to do together. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Include smaller and larger goals, so you have something to look forward to in the short and long term. This could be as simple as visiting a museum or a closeby town, or it could be as complex as going on a dream vacation. No matter what activity you choose, what matters is that the activity is something:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>You can do together<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Can be done regularly<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Feels enjoyable for both&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Promotes healthy communication<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make an effort to do at least one of the activities each month. No matter how busy your life gets, this gives you a sure way you will have something inspiring to do to reconnect.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-Leave-it-until-Sunday\"><\/span><b>10. Leave it until Sunday<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Picking your battles is as important as how you handle them.<\/strong> It is not just what you say, but when and how. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Postponing something for a few days gives you perspective and allows you to evaluate if you truly want to have that argument. Additionally, it helps you come into the conversation calmly and with arguments.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can use this exercise any time you dispute and can&rsquo;t seem to come to terms with it. If there is a major dispute that cannot be postponed, by all means, address it. This exercise is not meant to help you put problems under the rug. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, anything that gets forgotten by Sunday probably was not high on the priority list. What makes this one of the best communication exercises for couples is the benefit of learning how to prioritize your arguments as time progresses.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-Icebreakers\"><\/span><b>11. Icebreakers<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of you may cringe at the idea of the icebreaker since you might have been forced into doing them at work or back in school. However, this time around it will be with someone you love and cherish. If you attend marital counseling it will probably be one of the exercises you do in the beginning as it puts you more at ease.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The great thing about this is that you will learn new things about your partner. You may think you know all there is to know, but you are mistaken. Trying to ask them some fun icebreaker questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>Tell me something weird about yourself<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Tell me your favorite cereal brand&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Tell me a childhood anecdote<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Tell me something embarrassing from high school<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Add more questions and you&rsquo;ll be surprised by what you learn. These are bound to produce at least one or two new facts about your partner that you didn&rsquo;t know before.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12-Music-sharing\"><\/span><b>12. Music sharing<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Music can be deeply personal and meaningful. <strong>Set aside some time and share the music you like without any judgment.<\/strong> You can each pick three songs that have high significance for you and explain why.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, you can choose songs that remind you of each other. There are many topics that you can do this selection on such as &ndash; highschool, heartbreak, our relationship, etc. After each selection use questions to understand why those songs are in that category and what feelings they evoke.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any marriage therapist would tell you that this can lead to meaningful insights about your partner and the relationship itself. T<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">his kind of sharing leads to deeper levels of understanding. Be gentle as they might be vulnerable and risking a lot by showing you something so personal.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13-Swap-books\"><\/span><b>13. Swap books<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best couple counseling exercises is swapping books. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is your favorite book? How about your partner&rsquo;s? If you have not read them so far, go out and buy them for each other. Write a thoughtful note so you each have a beautiful memory to keep.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Same as with music, <strong>what you chose to read says a lot about you. Couple counseling experts recommend this exercise and even suggest that it can become a new tradition for the couple.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter how well you know your partner you will learn something new about them since books over inspire the creative side in us. They will learn something new about themselves, acquire new perspectives, and share a window into their mind. Diving into something as profound as a favorite childhood book is a fantastic way to forge a deeper connection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"14-Soul-gazing\"><\/span><b>14. Soul gazing<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may sound like nothing, but this is an intense exercise that can have a huge impact on feelings of connectedness and intimacy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It could be that due to mirror neurons in our brains this exercise has so much effect.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Those <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2007\/11\/071106123725.htm\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">mirror neurons<\/a> are a part of the reason we are fast-tracked for affection, sociability, and companionship. They get activated by looking into someone.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instructions are simple, face each other, and set the timer for 3-5 minutes. Stand close to each other, so you are almost touching and stare into each other&rsquo;s eyes.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t worry, you are allowed to blink, this is not a staring contest. However, refrain from talking. At first, you might feel uncomfortable and laugh. However, as time passes you will feel more pleasant and connected.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-More-cuddle-time\"><\/span><b>15. More cuddle time<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-49996 size-full\" title=\"More cuddle time\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/more-cuddle-time.jpg\" alt=\"More cuddle time\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Make it a habit to cuddle more often.<\/strong> Turn off the distractions and simply cuddle. When we hug each other oxytocin is released. This chemical, also known as the cuddle hormone, is associated with lower blood pressure and heart rate. A <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">suggests this could explain why partners with emotional support are less likely to die from heart disease.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sneak this exercise whenever is suitable for you &ndash; in the morning or evening while watching a movie.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The idea is to <strong>set aside time to practice it daily.<\/strong> Show physical tenderness, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/ways-to-grow-intimacy-in-a-marriage\/\">improve your intimacy with your partner<\/a>. This exercise is recommended in sex therapy as it can increase the erotic potential.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"16-The-7-breath-forehead-connection-exercise\"><\/span><b>16. The 7 breath-forehead connection exercise<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This close breathing exercise can be practiced anytime you need to feel in sync with your partner and focus on the present moment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie next to each other and face each other. You should put your foreheads together without touching your nose or chins.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The idea is to <strong>synchronize your breath with your partner&rsquo;s.<\/strong> At first, try to do 7 in a row. If it feels good, and it will extend it to 20 or 30 breaths. Prolong it for as much as it feels good for you and repeat any time you want to feel present and connected to your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-Question-jar\"><\/span><b>17. Question jar<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Question Jar is a great relationship conversation starter. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The idea is fairly simple<strong> &ndash; take a jar and add any number of relationship-building questions. If you are having trouble coming up with them, there are already made question jars available for purchase. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.decideyourlegacy.com\/product\/the-legacy-jar\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Legacy Jar<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, for example, has 108 awesome questions, which can also be used with your colleagues, friends, and kids.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you, however, wish to make questions more personal, you can use any jar, and your partner and yourself can write as many questions as you wish. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel free to use the famous <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2015\/01\/09\/style\/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">36 questions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that were used in an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/pdf\/10.1177\/0146167297234003\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">experiment <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">showing that answering these 36 questions can bring people closer together. Several of them even fall in love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"18-The-miracle-question\"><\/span><b>18. The miracle question<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This activity offers a reflective way of helping couples dive deep into an exploration of what kind of future they would like to create. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lot of people are facing struggles, simply because they are not sure of their own and partnership goals. <strong>A &ldquo;Miracle Question&rdquo; can guide and help partners clarify their goals and gain clarity on what they are aiming to achieve as partners and individuals.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/ryanhowes.net\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therapist Ryan Howes <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">elaborates the Miracle Question as:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This question allows you to go beyond the spectrum of reality, using the imagination to dig for the things you truly wish to happen. By not being bound with the everyday constraints, you will bring up your desires that you prevent yourself from verbalizing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the setting of couples therapy, even though your partner might give an impossible wish, you can grasp the idea behind it. <\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The therapist would use an unrealistic idea to help you investigate it would change your life for the better. The change you find there is the change you need. On a partnership level, you can then work on scaling the idea of change and apply it on a practical level.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"19-The-weekly-CEO-meeting\"><\/span><b>19. The weekly CEO meeting<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In hectic lives, where we run around every day doing all sorts of errands, this exercise can be a good way to freeze time and reconnect.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this exercise, it is important to have an adults-only 1-on-1 conversation. All distractions including kids should not be around.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check each others&rsquo; calendars and cement a 30 minutes window for a CEO meeting.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can kick off the conversation with the following questions:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>How do you feel today?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>How do you feel in our relationship?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Is there anything from the previous week which you feel is unresolved and needs to be discussed?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Do you feel loved?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>What can I do to make you feel more loved?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though direct, these questions are meaningful and will inspire your partner and yourself to have a productive discussion. It is quite important to have these conversations regularly and treat them like an important commitment out of which you will not bailout.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"20-Set-goals-together\"><\/span><b>20. Set goals together<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-49997 size-full\" title=\" Set goals together\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/set-goals-together.jpg\" alt=\" Set goals together\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can create as many categories as you would like, but we suggest you start with these 6 important areas of life:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>Health<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Finances<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Career<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Hobby\/Fun activities<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Social interactions&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Intellectual activities&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you agree on which categories you want to work on, set goals for each of the areas. Agree on the timeline and put the goals somewhere visible.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"21-Volunteer-together\"><\/span><b>21. Volunteer together<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is a cause you both believe in? <strong>Focusing on helping there will bring you two together.<\/strong> When you see your partner helping others you will fall in love with them all over.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Decide what case you want to dedicate some of your time and volunteer together through a local charity or a church.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"22-The-high-and-low\"><\/span><b>22. The high and low<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This exercise is best utilized during the evening and allows the cole to check-in with each other. This exercise is used in couples counseling to increase empathy and understanding.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>While one of the partners is sharing their high and low of the day, the other is using attentive listening techniques.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"23-Sending-a-postcard\"><\/span><b>23. Sending a postcard<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this exercise, the focus is on written communication. B<strong>oth partners need to write on separate postcards their frustrations, feelings, or desires. Once written it is to be mailed and not verbally discussed.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any further response should only be written in the same format and sent. This fosters written communication and patience.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"24-Sticks-and-stones\"><\/span><b>24. Sticks and stones<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Besides the cute nicknames and endearing words, partners sometimes call each other names that can be hurtful.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>This exercise allows partners to address any name-calling that might have aggrieved them in the past.<\/strong> They are to make a list of names they found disrespectful and share it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After reading it, both have a chance to elaborate on how those terms impacted their feelings of confidence and self-worth.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"25-Helpful-hands\"><\/span><b>25. Helpful hands&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This fun couple activity involves the body and the mind. <strong>The partners are to work together to achieve a common goal.<\/strong> The twist is &ndash; they each have an arm tied behind their backs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They need to communicate directions and actions concisely so that, with their free hand, each of them is working to achieve a goal. Their synchronicity is necessary for obtaining the objective.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The activities can vary, and anything can be used such as buttoning a shirt, zipping a zipper, tying a shoe, or clasping a necklace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>A final word on&nbsp;couples therapy exercises<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every relationship can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/benefits-of-couples-therapy-before-marriage\/\">benefit from couples therapy<\/a> exercises. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether your relationship is picture-perfect or you&rsquo;re both looking to improve your marriage, couples therapy activities can now be done from the comfort of your own home.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many couples swear by such couples counseling exercises that have brought them together after facing a difficult time or made their relationship better than before.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you still require more assistance then look for online marriage counseling to seek some expert marriage counseling exercises to work on your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Search for couples counseling near me or couples therapy near me to find experts available in your area. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are wondering does marriage counseling work, there is no clear answer. It can for the sure benefit a relationship in which both partners strive to make it work.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marriage isn&rsquo;t always easy and it can be helpful to have some professional guidance and advice along the way. But, not all couples are excited at the thought of airing their marriage difficulties to a stranger in therapy. Thankfully there are many couples therapy exercises you can do at home to strengthen your relationship and build trust and communication. These couples therapy techniques can help you communicate on a deeper level, teach you to fight fair, and create goals for your future together. There are many benefits to practicing these couples therapy exercises both before and after marriage. 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