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Partners would be equally invested in developing intimacy in an ideal relationship. But often, the ability to be intimate, incredibly emotionally intimate, is not aligned.<\/span><\/p>\n One or both partners might be experiencing the fear of intimacy. 17% of the population is fearful of intimacy in Western culture. It seems counterintuitive when two people love each other, but it does happen, and this can be a source of conflict in the couple<\/span>.<\/b><\/p>\n To connect with someone intimately, you have to let your emotional and physical guard down, put aside your pretenses and ego, and approach the other person with an open heart.<\/span><\/p>\n The partners must connect through emotional and physical intimacy for any healthy relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n If you’ve noticed you’re avoiding getting close to someone, you might be experiencing a fear of intimacy. Often we think of intimacy as sexual or romantic, but intimacy is much more than that.<\/span><\/p>\n Growing up, we learn to build fictitious walls and shields to protect us from imminent physical and emotional dangers. Over time we start to inhabit roles that present a sense of familiarity and comfort in our lives. This is what we call fear of intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n However, these walls and roles are shuddered and interrupted when we start an <\/span>intimate relationship<\/span><\/a> with someone. Your mind and body start exhibiting signs of fear of sharing your emotional and physical vulnerabilities.<\/span><\/p>\n A fear of intimacy causes us to struggle when getting close to someone emotionally and physically. Moreover, a fear of intimacy in men and women can make anyone feel humiliated and unworthy of love.<\/span><\/p>\n So if you think or feel that you may fear physical intimacy or are uncomfortable with physical affection, you are not alone.<\/span><\/p>\n There are countless numbers of people worldwide who experience awkwardness, uncomfortable feelings, or even displeasure at the thought of physical intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n Unfortunately, this fear of physical intimacy or <\/span>physical intimacy<\/span><\/a> issues can often translate into problems in marriages because of how it can affect both you and your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n Suppose you believe that you have a fear of physical intimacy. In that case, there are some things you should take into consideration, especially if your fear of physical intimacy is currently affecting your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n What causes fear of intimacy?<\/span><\/p>\n Before you can know <\/span>how to get over intimacy issues<\/span><\/a> or how to overcome the fear of physical intimacy, you have to figure out why you are scared of intimacy or have an aversion to expressions that are physically intimate in nature.<\/span><\/p>\n Anyone would be uncomfortable with intimacy, be it emotional or physical, is often rooted in some past childhood experiences. It can be hard to understand the reasons for fear of physical intimacy unless you and your partner find a <\/span>way to communicate<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n There are many underlying reasons why you might be uncomfortable with intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n The most common reasons for fear of intimacy include, but aren’t limited to:<\/b><\/p>\n Feeling embarrassed at engaging in certain behaviors in public (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc.).<\/span><\/p>\n Feeling constantly watched or judged by others for your <\/span>display of affections towards your partner<\/span><\/a> makes many people uncomfortable. <\/span><\/p>\n It doesn’t always mean that your partner is afraid of sex and intimacy. Still, they might want certain aspects of your physical relationship to remain private and away from prying eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n Wanting more physical space than what your partner wants to give. Fear of being controlled or <\/span>dominated in a relationship<\/span><\/a> can lead your partner to try and distance themselves from you.<\/span><\/p>\n You are not a dominating person, but your fear of engulfment could result from childhood trauma or being brought up in an enmeshed family. <\/span><\/p>\n An enmeshed family is one where there are hardly any boundaries meaning that the roles and expectations of family members are not set. Either parents are overly dependent on their children, or the kids are emotionally dependent on their parents.<\/span><\/p>\n Verbal abuse, sexual abuse, <\/span>physical abuse<\/span><\/a> or neglect, and even the loss of a parent or a loved one could have led your partner to face difficulty in being physically intimate with you.<\/span><\/p>\n Not feeling as physically attracted to a partner as you were before. Find your partner struggling with physical intimacy as soon as you cross the<\/span> initial phase of your relationship<\/span><\/a>. It could be a possibility that they never truly bonded with you.<\/span><\/p>\n They may exhibit signs of being bored, trapped, or smothered and eventually start disengaging from you. It simply means that you two were not the right match for each other, and it’s better for both of you to move on.<\/span><\/p>\n Watch this video to learn how you can reignite the lost spark in a relationship:<\/b><\/p>\n<\/span>What is fear of intimacy in a relationship?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>How does a fear of intimacy influence your life?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>10 Causes of the fear of intimacy<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Constant judgment<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Need for space in the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Any form of abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
4. Loss of spark in the relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n