{"id":20192,"date":"2017-12-28T12:27:04","date_gmt":"2017-12-28T12:27:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=20192"},"modified":"2022-09-30T06:31:33","modified_gmt":"2022-09-30T06:31:33","slug":"quick-tips-to-managing-finances-in-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/quick-tips-to-managing-finances-in-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Tips to Manage Finances in Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"manTalking about finances and marriage is one of those hot-button topics that elicit responses ranging from “It’s a subject we avoid” to “Our household budget is completely transparent.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Many couples have issues with finances in their marriage<\/span><\/a>; in fact, money ranks at number three on the reasons couples divorce after communication issues and infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Money does not have to be the root of all evil, especially as your marriage is concerned. If you do some preemptive work, you can be a master of managing finances in marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can manage any money-related problems that may occur at your wedding or after marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

Here is how you can keep arguments about finances at a minimum, starting with exercises to do before you say “I do.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>6 Key Ways to Manage Financial Disagreements in Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
15 Tips to manage finances in marriage<\/h2>\n
Money is a complex topic for couples. It will help if they try to figure out which strategies are best to manage money in marriage. Some people hit the roadblock when it comes to managing finances as a couple. Here are some tips that will guide you through managing finances in marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n
1. Start talking about money before the wedding<\/b><\/h3>\n
You can do this independently, but <\/span>if you are participating in premarital counseling<\/span><\/a>, let your counselor guide this discussion.<\/span><\/p>\n
You will want to disclose the debts you already have, such as student, auto, home loans, and credit-card debt.<\/span><\/p>\n
If this is not your first marriage, share with your partner any alimony and child support obligations you have. Please talk about your bank accounts and what’s in them: checking, savings, investment, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n
Decide on how to manage finances after marriage, separate accounts, or both?<\/span><\/p>\n
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2. Examine your relationship with money<\/b><\/h3>\n
Do you and your partner have differing views on money? <\/span><\/p>\n
If you aren’t aligned with how you think your money should be spent (or saved), you need to work on finding a finance-managing system that satisfies both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n
Maybe decide on a spending limit, say $100.00, and anything above that amount needs mutual pre-approval before the item is purchased.<\/span><\/p>\n
If you prefer not to build consensus for large purchases, you might want to keep separate, self-funded “fun money” accounts, to be used for when you want something for yourself, such as clothing or a video game.<\/span><\/p>\n
This can help cut down on arguments since you aren’t using money from the common pot.<\/span><\/p>\n
3. Use debit cards instead of credit cards for expenditures<\/b><\/h3>\n
Will it make a difference in <\/span>how your household budget is managed<\/span><\/a> if your salaries differ significantly? Do either of you feel ashamed about how you spend your money?<\/span><\/p>\n
Have you ever, in the past, hidden any purchases or gotten into too much credit card debt due to overspending? If this is the case, perhaps cutting up your credit cards and using only debit cards makes good financial sense for you.<\/span><\/p>\n
4. Define short-term and long-term goals for your money<\/b><\/h3>\n
You should both agree on saving for retirement and establishing an emergency fund in case of loss of a job. How much would you like to put into a savings account each month?<\/span><\/p>\n
Discuss how you might save your first home purchase, buy a new car, or vacation, or investment property.<\/span><\/p>\n
Do you agree that establishing a college fund for your children is important?<\/span><\/p>\n
Revisit your short and long-term financial goals at least once a year so that you can take stock and review if these goals have evolved (or, better yet, been met!). <\/span><\/p>\n
If you need it, seek sound <\/span>financial advice from people who are good<\/span><\/a> at it. <\/span><\/p>\n
5. Discuss contribution towards supporting parents<\/b><\/h3>\n
Please talk about your contribution towards supporting your parents, now and in the future, when their healthcare needs will increase.<\/span><\/p>\n
Be transparent when “gifting” a member of your family with cash, primarily if that family member relies on your generosity rather than getting a job himself<\/span><\/p>\n
Make sure your spouse is aware of and in agreement with this arrangement.<\/span><\/p>\n
Discuss aging parents’ needs and if you would be open to moving them closer to you or even into your home. How will this affect your financial situation?<\/span><\/p>\n
6. Decide financial arrangements for children<\/b><\/h3>\n
What are your thoughts about allowances? Should children be paid for tasks that contribute to the smooth running of the household? When they are old enough to drive, should they be given a car, or should they work for it?<\/span><\/p>\n
Should teenagers work part-time while still in school? And college? Should they help contribute to tuition? Take out student loans? What about once they have graduated from university?<\/span><\/p>\n
Would you continue to allow them to live rent-free at home? Would you help with the rent of their first apartment?<\/span><\/p>\n
These are all good <\/span>topics to discuss with your spouse<\/span><\/a> and revisit as the children grow and your financial situation changes.<\/span><\/p>\n
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7. Discuss expenses if only one spouse earns for the household<\/b><\/h3>\n
Having one stay-at-home-spouse and one wage-earner can sometimes lead to money conflicts, as the wage-earner may feel like they should have more voice in how to manage finances after marriage in the family.<\/span><\/p>\n
This is why it is essential for the person staying at home to have some job where they feel control over money.<\/span><\/p>\n
There are many possibilities for stay-at-home-spouses to bring in a little cash: eBay selling, freelance writing, private tutoring, in-home childcare or pet sitting, selling their crafts on Etsy, or participating in online surveys.<\/span><\/p>\n
The goal is to feel like they are also participating in the family’s financial health and have some of their own money to do with as they like.<\/span><\/p>\n
The wage-earner needs to recognize the contribution of the non-wage earner. They keep the house and family running, and without this person, the wage earner would have to pay someone to do this.<\/span><\/p>\n
8. Have a financial night every month <\/b><\/h3>\n
Managing finances as a couple may look like a simple thing that needs to be taken care of, but it’s an ongoing conversation. Financial management in marriage should be healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n
So you set some time aside every month to keep track of your savings and expenses. You can discuss an additional expense in the near future, or you need to save for something in the future. <\/span><\/p>\n
Discuss everything and make sure that you both talk about it openly. This will help you in managing finances in marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n
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