

{"id":18249,"date":"2017-10-05T11:15:15","date_gmt":"2017-10-05T11:15:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=18249"},"modified":"2026-03-20T07:30:19","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T07:30:19","slug":"platonic-intimate-relationships-and-sexual-abstinence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/platonic-intimate-relationships-and-sexual-abstinence\/","title":{"rendered":"Platonic Relationships and Sexual Abstinence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-18271 size-full\" title=\"Platonic Intimate Relationships and Sexual Abstinence\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Platonic-Intimate-Relationships-and-Sexual-Abstinence.jpg\" alt=\"Platonic Intimate Relationships and Sexual Abstinence\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Platonic relationships are emotionally intimate relationships without sex. Here we will explore the pros and cons of practicing sexual abstinence and maintaining a platonic emotionally intimate relationship with someone you are dating with the goal of selecting a mate to marry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Let&rsquo;s examine why a person would want to be in an emotionally intimate platonic relationship without sex.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Religious-beliefs-and-the-law\"><\/span>1. Religious beliefs and the law<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people are practicing sexual abstinence before marriage because of religious beliefs. In some countries, it is illegal for couples to engage in sex before marriage, hence platonic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is the only option remaining for such couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Medical-reasons\"><\/span>2. Medical reasons<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people have medical reasons for practicing abstinence while married. For example, a married person may have been in a car accident and the doctor may have advised their patient to not engage in any strenuous activity, including sex, until further notice.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such couples learn how to practice abstinence in a relationship. Participants starting a 12 step recovery program are usually advised not to engage in sexual relationships for a certain amount of time in order to stay focused on the program.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Psychological-reasons\"><\/span>3. Psychological reasons<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some individuals take a vow of celibacy for psychological reasons. One, in order to develop a new way of thinking to change aspects of their lives or take time to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/are-your-past-relationships-haunting-your-current-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">recover from a past relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Many single parents commit to sexual abstinence and learn how to stay abstinent in a relationship just to raise children.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Social-reasons\"><\/span>4. Social reasons<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The well-known modern &ldquo;three-month rule&rdquo; is a classic social example of a platonic relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such platonic relationship rules give enough liberty to the women who are advised to date and enjoy the companionship of their male partners but wait at least three months before getting sexually intimate with their partner because it establishes many relationship benefits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of the reasons a person may choose sexual abstinence, it does not mean that the person does not want companionship. They still have the need to intimately and emotionally stay connected and date but with the understanding that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">there will be no sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Many people maintain intimate platonic relationships for months, and some for years before committing to marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples learn how to deal with abstinence in a relationship since platonic relationships have their own share of benefits. But, one needs to understand the pros and cons of abstinence before committing themselves into an abstinent relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pros\"><\/span>Pros:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking the time to get to know someone before having sex means you are not dating with rose-colored glasses on. Therefore, you will not easily misinterpret unacceptable behavior to be acceptable.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, a person you may think is just concerned about you may actually be a control freak. The behavior of being concerned is acceptable, but the behavior of a control freak is a deal-breaker.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking the time to get to know someone before having sex will give you the time to talk about secrets. Your talks will reveal information about STD (Sexual Transmitted Diseases) diagnosis or a genetic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> medical history you need to know about. Especially, if you want to have children and start a family.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Married people refrain from sex periodically when they are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">repairing their relationship from trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, respect, and commitment issues. Gaining trust, respect, and commitment are the main benefits of the &ldquo;three-month rule&rdquo;.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abstinence in marriage is a rule that advises men and women not to have sex with a prospective partner for at least three months. The idea is to weed out insincere persons and find out about deal-breaking habits or secrets.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people won&rsquo;t stick around if they do not have sex quickly because they are not really looking for a serious relationship. Even though they may have said otherwise to get the goods. They could be married. In this situation, you would not have invested all of you, therefore lose the baggage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Platonic marriage is probably a good idea to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-esteem-makes-successful-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">maintain your self-respect and self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Cons\"><\/span>Cons:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More than one friend. If boundaries are not set, your partner can get involved in more than one platonic intimate emotional relationship with the thinking that they are not having sex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, they can have many friends. The problem is a lack of commitment and self-restraint. One of those friends could become a &ldquo;friend with benefits&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The fire is gone. If the emotionally intimate platonic relationship does not develop a sexual attraction that is shared by both parties involved, the relationship will not go to the next level. You may become more like family or part ways.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breaking the sexual abstinence. If the couple is married, one spouse&rsquo;s sexual needs may be stronger than the other, forcing one spouse to go outside the relationship for sex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage is not designed to be an emotionally intimate platonic relationship with sexual abstinence even if it is necessary to do so for a short period of time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In conclusion, there are medical, religious, psychological, and social reasons why people choose to engage in platonic relationships with sexual abstinence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The benefits of platonic relationships without sex give partners time to establish and strengthen trust, respect, and commitment to the relationship. On the other hand, it can introduce several partners into the relationship if boundaries are not set.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In addition, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/sexual-attraction\/\">sexual attraction<\/a> can die out and the relationship doesn&rsquo;t progress to the next level. These types of relationships may not be the best option for marriages unless a professional doctor has mentored it.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Platonic relationships are emotionally intimate relationships without sex. Here we will explore the pros and cons of practicing sexual abstinence and maintaining a platonic emotionally intimate relationship with someone you are dating with the goal of selecting a mate to marry. Let&rsquo;s examine why a person would want to be in an emotionally intimate platonic relationship without sex. 1. Religious beliefs and the law Many people are practicing sexual abstinence before marriage because of religious beliefs. In some countries, it is illegal for couples to engage in sex before marriage, hence platonic intimacy is the only option remaining for such <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":18271,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[24],"tags":[2530],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18249"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18249"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18249\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118629,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18249\/revisions\/118629"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18271"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18249"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18249"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18249"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}