

{"id":17994,"date":"2017-09-27T10:40:32","date_gmt":"2017-09-27T10:40:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=17994"},"modified":"2023-05-05T11:04:11","modified_gmt":"2023-05-05T11:04:11","slug":"8-complicated-relationship-types","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-complicated-relationship-types\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Complicated Relationship Types That You Should Always Avoid"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-47873\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Complicated-Relationship-Types-That-You-Should-Always-Avoid.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love is complicated, and most people have awkward, unpleasant, or complex relationship experiences throughout their years in the dating field.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The good news? Just because somebody else did it doesn&rsquo;t mean you have to follow in their footsteps.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While most <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/types-of-relationships\/\">relationship types<\/a> contain life lessons of what you do and do not want from a future mate, some of these <\/span><b>relationships are complicated and can cause an irritating itch that is better left unscratched.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It seems hopelessly confusing and makes us wonder why is love so complicated, why are relationships so complicated, and what is a complicated relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To help you understand the meaning of complicated relationships, here are 8 complicated relationships that you should try and avoid.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Friends-with-benefits\"><\/span>1. Friends with benefits<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a complicated relationship that most people in college had a brilliant opinion about. &ldquo;Hey!&rdquo; They&rsquo;ll say. &ldquo;I like this guy, but I don&rsquo;t want a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s have consensual sex with no strings attached. What could go wrong?&rdquo; The answer is everything!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This ambiguous <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/your-physical-relationship-doesnt-end-at-your-bedroom-door\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a curse to both parties. It seems super cool and casual, carrying on as friends while hooking up with no strings attached.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But inevitably, someone is going to get feelings for the other and want something more. You give with no expectations and are basically someone&rsquo;s plaything until something better comes along.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plus, <\/span><b>once one of you ends up in a new relationship, your friendship is 100% doomed.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/288701935_A_quantitative_study_of_friends_with_benefits_relationships\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">qualitative study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> indicated that a majority of its participants were unwilling to partake in a complicated relationship such as &lsquo;Friends with Benefits.&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2xKXLPuju8U\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-The-secret-relationship\"><\/span>2. The secret relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many reasons for having a secret relationship, and none of them are good ones. Perhaps you are dating outside your race, and your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is unaccepting of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/drum.lib.umd.edu\/bitstream\/handle\/1903\/2556\/umi-umd-2440.pdf;sequence=1\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">interracial relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>This a classic example of what a complicated relationship means.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More reasons include that one of you is married and you are having an affair, you are working together, your friends or family don&rsquo;t approve or think this person is good for you, and the list goes on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living with a secret relationship is unpleasant and unfair to all parties involved.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-The-married-crush\"><\/span>3. <b>The married crush<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-47874\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Long-distance-relationships.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a crush on your friend&rsquo;s husband is possibly one of the most complicated relationships you will ever encounter, especially if you begin <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/how-to-stop-having-an-affair\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">having an affair<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are putting his marriage in jeopardy, as well as your friendship with his wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Similarly, pursuing a crush on your wife&rsquo;s friend is also a no-go. <\/span><b>Flirting with your wife&rsquo;s friend is disrespectful on all counts.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Firstly, you are married.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How is the friend supposed to react to you coming on to her?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She doesn&rsquo;t want to ruin her friendship with your wife by seeking out an affair or yell at you and risk making things uncomfortable when you all hang out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one complicated relationship that is best left avoided.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Pretending-to-be-someone-you%E2%80%99re-not\"><\/span>4. Pretending to be someone you&rsquo;re not<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a certain level of play-acting that happens at the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-relationship-journey-beginnings-middles-and-ends\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">beginning of any relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Sure, you&rsquo;re being yourself, but you also want to impress the person you have feelings for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Naturally, you&rsquo;re going to be on your best behavior and show interest in some of the things they like, even if you have no personal interest in the matter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is great for getting to know one another at first, but pretending to be someone you are not isn&rsquo;t sustainable in a long-term relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>You can&rsquo;t fake your personality for years.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You will not get any satisfaction out of this relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, it isn&rsquo;t fair to your partner to trick them into thinking you have plenty in common and then flip the switch on them once things get serious.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-The-crush-on-your-best-friend\"><\/span>5. The crush on your best friend<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-47875\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/The-crush-on-your-best-friend.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/am-i-in-love-with-my-best-friend\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a crush on your best friend<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is one of the most complicated relationships you will ever be in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you tell her everything and risk being turned down and losing your friendship, or do you push it to the back of your mind until it festers and you begin to resent your friend?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Neither choice is appealing. Unless it turns out that your friend shares your romantic feelings, your friendship is likely to turn awkward.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Circumstantial-love\"><\/span>6. Circumstantial love<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Circumstantial love is definitely a complicated relationship that is hard to break away from<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. After all, it&rsquo;s just so convenient!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in circumstantial love, it may be because neither of you can afford to live alone, one party if being taken care of by the other, one party developed a serious illness or had a traumatic incident happen. The other party feels too guilty to leave.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever the circumstance, circumstantial love is problematic.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-The-%E2%80%9CComfortable%E2%80%9D-relationship\"><\/span>7. The &ldquo;Comfortable&rdquo; relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A comfortable relationship occurs when two people are perfectly fine, staying together. You don&rsquo;t have an abundance of chemistry, but your sex-life gets the job done. You generally like the person you are with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is no love or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/intimacy-tips-to-ignite-the-passion-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">passion in your relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Instead of viewing your partner as your best friend or your first choice to spend time with, you&rsquo;re simply together out of convenience or from the fear of being alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you been through one or more of the relationships listed above? If so, don&rsquo;t feel bad. Remember, you have to go through a few complicated relationships to get to the good ones.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love is complicated, and most people have awkward, unpleasant, or complex relationship experiences throughout their years in the dating field. The good news? Just because somebody else did it doesn&rsquo;t mean you have to follow in their footsteps. While most relationship types contain life lessons of what you do and do not want from a future mate, some of these relationships are complicated and can cause an irritating itch that is better left unscratched. It seems hopelessly confusing and makes us wonder why is love so complicated, why are relationships so complicated, and what is a complicated relationship? 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