

{"id":17735,"date":"2017-09-21T11:17:35","date_gmt":"2017-09-21T11:17:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=17735"},"modified":"2023-07-23T12:21:39","modified_gmt":"2023-07-23T12:21:39","slug":"gay-couples-counseling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/same-sex-marriage\/gay-couples-counseling\/","title":{"rendered":"Opting For Gay Couples Counseling? Here Are 4 Things To Keep In Mind"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17782 size-full\" title=\"Same Sex Couples Therapy\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Same-Sex-Couples-Therapy.jpg\" alt=\"Same Sex Couples Therapy\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples therapy caters to all<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/types-of-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> kinds of relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, straight or homosexual couples. Like heterosexual couples, same-sex relationships go through hard times, too. They can avail of same-sex couples counseling whenever their relationship finds the need for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heterosexual and same-sex couples have a lot of commonalities. But, they are not exactly similar in experiences. For instance, straight and gay couples could have problems like infidelity, incompatibility, miscommunication, and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/lack-of-intimacy-living-in-a-sexless-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> loss of intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It is also common for both types of relationships to have issues about money, sex, and abuse. Yet, same-sex relationships face their own challenges, not a lot of straight couples often encounter and vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Same-sex relationships are not as well-received as heterosexual affairs. Gay couples may have been getting more acceptance and a higher tolerance from the public nowadays. But the reality of the situation remains that many people are disapproving of same-sex relationships. Gay men and women still find themselves in a dominant heterosexual culture. They are burdened by conservative expectations, and pressured to obey traditional gender roles.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though gay relationships are natural, certain environments make it difficult for same-sex lovers to talk about their involvement in public. This struggle is something straight couples will never wholly understand. Gay couples therapy could help them cope with the stress brought about by the unaccepting faction of society.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are only a few therapists who specialize in gay couples counseling and handling gay couples as clients. Same-sex couples need not go through a lot to look for one, although it is much advised. Generally, same-sex couples who like to go into LGBT couples therapy could reach out to any therapist they want. But here&rsquo;s a word of warning. Couples planning to opt for gay couples counseling must carefully choose their therapist. Make sure that the relationship professional they go to is knowledgeable of dealing with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/7895223_Couples_Therapy_with_Gay_and_Lesbian_Clients_An_Analysis_of_Important_Clinical_Issues\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">problems particular to same-sex partnerships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. But how do you pick the therapist that is right for both of you?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Visit-a-therapist-who-accepts-same-sex-couples\"><\/span><strong>1. Visit a therapist who accepts same sex couples<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First and foremost, choose the therapist who shows the willingness to take same-sex couples as clients. It is important to attend sessions with a gay-affirmative professional who can make the both of you feel safe and comfortable. Empathy is an essential component in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.aamft.org\/Consumer_Updates\/Therapeutic_Issues_for_Same-sex_Couples.aspx\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapeutic process<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in same-sex couple therapy. If the therapist finds it weird to be talking about your problems, especially if it&rsquo;s on the sexual aspect of your relationship, it&rsquo;s better to run to another person who understands and empathizes beyond clinical capacities.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Get-referrals-from-other-gay-couples\"><\/span><strong>2. Get referrals from other gay couples<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask for referrals from other gay couples who have gone to therapy before on gay couples counseling. Research your therapist thoroughly to find a trusted professional. Make sure that they have a lot of experience working with gay couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have a mental checklist, say a gender preference, or are comfortable with the gay couples counseling from someone of a particular cultural background, ask a friend before taking the plunge.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Ensure-your-therapist-has-necessary-training-for-treating-gay-couples\"><\/span><strong>3. Ensure your therapist has necessary training for treating gay couples<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also essential that they have undergone training specifically for gay couples. Some therapists are a little outdated when it comes to their ideas and methods. Those who are trained before the 1980s may still believe that being gay is a psychological illness because that is what was taught to them in graduate school decades ago.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, not all gay marriage counselors can be a good fit. It&rsquo;s okay to shop around before you settle with one for the gay couples counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Look-for-a-therapist-who-has-experience-in-treating-issues-similar-to-yours\"><\/span><strong>4. Look for a therapist who has experience in treating issues similar to yours<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Same-sex couples tend to have complicated relationship dynamics. While many identify as lesbian or gay, others are more fluid with their sexuality. Some identify as bisexual, transgender, or transsexual. Others are polyamorous. If you find yourself in this kind of relationship, you might need to do more research to find therapists who have dealt with LGBT couples therapy before. There is a higher probability of a positive outcome.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned a while ago, the social context in which gay couples exist in has a significant influence on their relationship. If the environment is hostile, gay couples will have more problems in their relationship, taking a toll on their mental health.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there are specific ways to improve their mental health and clear their minds in stressful situations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/edEkFyYWBqM\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aside from the issues both straight and gay couples go through like finances, health, and children, there are some of the common problems addressed in gay couples therapy, as stated below.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Common-problems-addressed-in-gay-Couples-therapy\"><\/span><strong>Common problems addressed in gay Couples therapy<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many gay couples struggle in seeking acceptance from their family members. It is one of the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/mhi.org.in\/media\/insight_files\/GACP_Manual_gYpHDbQ.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">most common issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> gay couples have. Lack of support from parents and siblings creates a lot of stress to the relationship. This even comes with negative judgment from relatives. In some cases, they are actively coerced to break it off.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another issue discussed in couples therapy is the issue of infidelity. Like straight couples, gay couples can break the rules of monogamy, which is only upsetting if both parties did not agree on an open relationship. If two same-sex people have different relationship expectations that they cannot reconcile on their own, it&rsquo;s time to seek someone who knows how to deal with this in an organized fashion.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many countries still do not allow and frown upon same-sex marriage. This creates a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/gay-relationship-problems\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> problem for many same-sex relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> who wanted to enter a civil union. Many couples find marriage to be very important. When not granted, it could lead to frustration and doubts.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is your relationship on the rocks because of betrayal, intimacy problems, constant misunderstandings, and communication issues? As a gay couple, you are entitled to avail gay couples counseling as much as straight couples do. Gay couples therapy or lesbian couples therapy is always results-oriented. The experience is equally meaningful and productive for both straight and gay couples.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Couples therapy caters to all kinds of relationships, straight or homosexual couples. Like heterosexual couples, same-sex relationships go through hard times, too. They can avail of same-sex couples counseling whenever their relationship finds the need for it. Heterosexual and same-sex couples have a lot of commonalities. But, they are not exactly similar in experiences. For instance, straight and gay couples could have problems like infidelity, incompatibility, miscommunication, and loss of intimacy. It is also common for both types of relationships to have issues about money, sex, and abuse. Yet, same-sex relationships face their own challenges, not a lot of straight <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":17782,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[74],"tags":[2559],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17735"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17735"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17735\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":51301,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17735\/revisions\/51301"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17782"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17735"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17735"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17735"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}