{"id":17588,"date":"2017-09-18T11:08:46","date_gmt":"2017-09-18T11:08:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=17588"},"modified":"2026-02-27T11:47:31","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T11:47:31","slug":"how-to-connect-emotionally-with-your-husband","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-connect-emotionally-with-your-husband\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Connect Emotionally With Your Husband?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17627 size-full\" title=\"How to Connect Emotionally With Your Husband\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/How-to-Connect-Emotionally-With-Your-Husband.png\" alt=\"How to Connect Emotionally With Your Husband\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the day to day realities of the real world, many things can take a toll on your relationship, once the newness wears off, such as bills, job, school, family, faith, relationships, kids, and businesses. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-important-is-an-emotional-connection-in-a-relationship\/\">emotional connection<\/a> that you both share, which made you smile in the middle of the day, is interrupted a little too often, and there is no time for a getaway. Frustration can set in quickly. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The flirting looks and sexy words are gone. &ldquo;Grow up; nobody is nice and fun all the time.&rdquo; Wrong!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Before we address&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to get closer to a guy\"}'>how to get closer to a guy and&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-connect-with-a-man-on-an-emotional-level\/\">how to connect with a man on an emotional level<\/a>, here are some side effects of not being able to&nbsp;connect emotionally with your husband:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><b>Loneliness and depression<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>Self-doubt<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>You grow distant<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>Infidelity<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Y22HbPPC-To\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a study conducted by Marriage.com, three women who had been married for over 20 years each, shared their secrets on <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to emotionally connect with a man\"}'>how to emotionally connect with a man<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>The article shares some of the real-time cases from that study to help you&nbsp;connect emotionally with your husband.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Some-real-time-cases\"><\/span>Some real-time cases<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Janelle (beautician) is married to Ronnie (an auto mechanic) for 23 years. &nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;My man likes consistency, and to be honest; I do too. After working all day, dealing with demands from nice and not so nice customers, and sometimes an angry ex-wife, Ronnie can count on me not being a bombshell or being emotionally down at the end of a long day.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though we have problems from time to time, I make sure I remind myself to be a person I would want to be around every day. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He doesn&rsquo;t want to get hit with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/attention-seeking-partner\/\">tricky attention-seeking<\/a>, over-emotional or complaining woman when he least feels likes it.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Yes, we talk about everything, but we have an unspoken subliminal loo that helps us get ready for the tough talks. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We plan those talks. We guard our relationship&rsquo;s emotional stability. I offer him an even temperament that ensures that he can look forward to sharing his days with me. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He can look forward to celebrating with me and having a good time. Of course, I&rsquo;m not predictable all the time, but the temperament of our relationship is consistent. That helps a lot. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It makes it easy to connect emotionally. As time goes on, it gets easier.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-51680 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/connecting-emotionally-with-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"Couple laying on bed\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>Shelia (a lawyer) married to Stanly(a professor at a university) for 25 years.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;To stay emotionally connected to Stanly, I make him feel good about himself. Even when he fails, I encourage him. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He never tires of sincere compliments. Who doesn&rsquo;t? He especially likes it when I second his emotions with, that&rsquo;s right.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I never criticize him on his face. I work that frustration off with my secret girlfriends, Hey, that&rsquo;s what they are for, right? I feel that the best emotional connection a couple can have is when they agree.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Yvonne (daycare worker) married to Paul (a salesman) for 21 years. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I find my man interesting, always have, from the first time I met him. When he talks, I do not interrupt him. He said he liked that about me right from the start. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He says when a woman interrupts a man, he feels she is not interested in what he has to say. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I&rsquo;ve learned a lot from Paul. I hate sports, especially football, and basketball. But because I know he loves sports, I go to a game with him every once in a while. As I watch, he explains the game, and before you know it, I know what is going on. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once, I found myself cheering for a touchdown, but Paul quickly reminded me that it was not our team. But he said he was glad I knew what a touchdown was. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sports are still not my thing. It doesn&rsquo;t matter, Paul loves talking about the scores and likes it when I know what he&rsquo;s talking about. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I feel that the person you&rsquo;re with should share an interest in the things you are passionate about. It connects you emotionally and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-create-memories-with-your-partner\/\">creates a lot of good memories<\/a> that will get you through the good and the bad times.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Patience-is-the-key\"><\/span><b>Patience is the key<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-51681 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Patience-is-the-key.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple hugging each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In conclusion, all respondents agreed that it is not easy to <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"connect emotionally with your husband\"}'>connect emotionally with your husband,<\/span> but it gets easier with practice and time. Plus, the benefits are worth it. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It all boils down to acceptance and validation. <strong>The women stay connected with their men by being agreeable, consistent in temperament, and encouraging.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They all seem to have great memories of their spouses to fall back on whenever they go along with something just for the sake of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-tips-for-women-to-create-harmony-and-connection-in-the-initial-years-of-marriage\/\">harmony in the relationship<\/a> or just to please their man. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">None of the women felt the work they put into their relationship was unfair because of what they got in return, a lasting love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Connecting-emotionally-with-a-man\"><\/span><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"connecting emotionally with a man\"}'>Connecting emotionally with a man<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>At the beginning of this article, we shared some&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to get closer to a guy\"}'>side effects of not being able to&nbsp;connect emotionally with your husband. Now we share certain things you should keep in mind on how to rebuild the&nbsp;emotional connection with a man.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>Open and honest communication &ndash;&nbsp;<\/strong>Let your husband know, gently, how you are feeling.&nbsp;Tell him you don&rsquo;t feel as close to him as you once were.&nbsp;Ask if there is anything you can do to help you bond together again.<\/li>\n<li><b>Don&rsquo;t play the blame&nbsp;game &ndash;&nbsp;<\/b>Do not tell him that it is his fault&nbsp;that you feel disconnected. Putting <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/why-we-need-to-stop-playing-the-blame-game\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">all the blame<\/a> on him will get him defensive and create unhealthy&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\">communication<\/a>. Instead, express your desire to be as connected to him as you once were.<\/li>\n<li><b>Schedule date nights &ndash;&nbsp;<\/b>Scheduling a&nbsp;date night&nbsp;once a week&nbsp;and religiously following it will create a deeper emotional connection for both parties.<\/li>\n<li><b>Have regular sex &ndash;&nbsp;<\/b>This may be difficult to do, especially if you feel no emotional connection, but&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/benefits-of-physical-intimacy-in-your-relationship\/\">having sex is going to be beneficial<\/a>&nbsp;to both of you. Sex that results in orgasm is one of the biggest doses of <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Oxytocin\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">oxytocin<\/a>, or &ldquo;the love drug&rdquo; you will ever get.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the day to day realities of the real world, many things can take a toll on your relationship, once the newness wears off, such as bills, job, school, family, faith, relationships, kids, and businesses. &nbsp; The emotional connection that you both share, which made you smile in the middle of the day, is interrupted a little too often, and there is no time for a getaway. Frustration can set in quickly. &nbsp; The flirting looks and sexy words are gone. &ldquo;Grow up; nobody is nice and fun all the time.&rdquo; Wrong! 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