

{"id":17472,"date":"2017-09-13T11:02:07","date_gmt":"2017-09-13T11:02:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=17472"},"modified":"2026-04-28T10:40:08","modified_gmt":"2026-04-28T10:40:08","slug":"marriage-counseling-vs-couples-therapy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/marriage-counseling-vs-couples-therapy\/","title":{"rendered":"Marriage Counseling vs. Couples Therapy: What\u2019s the Difference?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-67909\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/exposure-therapy.jpg\" alt=\"Men and Women Talking to Therapist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and couples <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are two popular suggestions for couples going through a rough time. Although a lot of people take them as two very similar processes, they actually are quite different.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many of us tend to use marriage counseling and couples therapy interchangeably and there is a reason for this confusion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both marriage counseling and couples therapy are services offered to those who are dealing with stress in their relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During the process, you will be required to sit down as a couple and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">talk to an expert<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or a licensed professional who has formal academic training about marriage or relationships in general. It may sound a little bit the same, but they are not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you look up the words &ldquo;couples counseling&rdquo; and &ldquo;marriage therapy&rdquo; in the dictionary, you will see that they fall under different definitions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But let&rsquo;s focus on this question: What really is the difference between marriage counseling and couple therapy? Get your answers to the question couples therapy vs marriage counseling &ndash; what is the difference?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Marriage-counseling-or-couples-counseling\"><\/span><b>Marriage counseling or couples counseling?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-49856 size-full\" title=\"Marriage counseling or couples counseling?\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/marriage-counseling-or-couples-counseling.jpg\" alt=\"Homosexual Couple During The Psychological Counseling With Female Psychologist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does marriage counseling consist of?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage Counseling helps couples handle the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/top-3-marriage-challenges\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">challenges of married life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The goal is to get the relationship back on track. It focuses on the &lsquo;now&rsquo; and the issues faced by couples recurrently. Marriage counseling provides an opportunity for you to talk about your differences and compromises.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More than anything else, what counseling does is help both of you address your problems for a stronger and happier relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage counseling is also about helping the couple master the art of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Counseling can help <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-resolve-trust-issues-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mend the trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or rekindle the flame.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does marriage counseling work? Yes, it is very effective as it&rsquo;s about helping the couple cope up with the different kinds of stress experienced in the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage counseling is usually a short-term focused treatment whereas therapies are a therapeutic process that can last several sessions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One could even say that therapy for married couples encompasses counseling and this overlap is the reason why they are confused as one for the other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]\">Want structured guidance you can start right away? <a class=\"underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current\/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/save-my-marriage-course\">Explore the Save My Marriage Course<\/a> for step-by-step support on your schedule.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WW_pWULW6WE?si=9ZEaR5vp23dJAdsV\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-couples-therapy-involve\"><\/span><b>What does couples therapy involve?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage therapy, on the other hand, will require you to tackle your issues from the root. That means going back to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">your previous fights and arguments<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to find out where it all started.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What makes it unique from couples counseling is that it could go as far as addressing your individual and personal issues to understand the behavior you are showing in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is more about finding out the why&rsquo;s rather than the how&rsquo;s.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what is couples therapy? Therapy will answer the question &ldquo;Why do we have these kinds of problems?&rdquo; and make you realize what specific area of your relationship you should work on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, a couple going through some hard times because one of them is ridden with illness might need to seek therapy to know how to properly deal with the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This does not mean that only couples with problems of this level are accepted to go through therapy. You can also meet with a couples therapist to sort out compatibility issues and seek advice from someone who knows the best.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem is, there is a stigma attached to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/couples-therapy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">couples therapy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This stigma does not do any good.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of seeking a solution, many couples tend to shy away from the treatment that they need. Instead of giving the relationship a chance to get better, many couples would decide not to go into therapy in fear of judgment from other people.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For them, it is the last resort when it should be one of the primary options.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]\">If the idea of sitting in a therapist&rsquo;s office feels overwhelming, the <a class=\"underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current\/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/save-my-marriage-course\">Save My Marriage Course<\/a> is a private, low-pressure way to start working on your relationship together.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Role-of-a-marriage-counselor-vs-a-couples-therapist\"><\/span><b>Role of a marriage counselor vs. a couples therapist<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do marriage counselors do in a couples counseling session?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In marriage and relationship counseling, the counselor&rsquo;s task is to hear out the problems and facilitate the discussion between the couple. As a mediator, the counselor allows the couple to conduct an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/6-effective-ways-for-communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">organized method of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a matter of fact, a leader of your church can serve as your marriage counselor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The role of the counselor involves being kind of the referee &ndash; avoiding the couple from speaking in unison, yelling at each other, and manifesting any kind of aggressive behavior towards the other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With willingness and consent from both parties, marriage and couples counseling can help the couple <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-build-long-lasting-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make new relationship rules<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to lessen arguments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;\">For example, if one of you has workaholic tendencies, the counselor could suggest not bringing work home to focus on some&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\" target=\"_blank\">family<\/a> time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The counselor could also help you set some boundaries. For instance, if one of you tends to go over your partner&rsquo;s phone without asking permission, the counselor is most likely to suggest that you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/need-for-privacy-and-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">respect each other&rsquo;s privacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by putting on phone locks if each party agrees to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage counselors can be part of these decisions, but it depends on certain factors.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>For example, marriage counselors are experts, but they must hold a state-issued license in order to diagnose mental illness if it&rsquo;s a big part of the problem in your relationship, and some counselors do not always hold licenses but can counsel.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage or couples therapists, on the other hand, are trained and licensed to provide a full range of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> services for any issue that&rsquo;s affecting the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In therapy, couples psychologists can talk about your experience with depression and how it affects your behavior towards your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, they would still have to refer you to psychiatrists in case of a more serious finding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therapists have a very organized process when dealing with their clients. The treatment basically consists of four steps:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>First step &ndash;<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong>The<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong>therapist&nbsp;will try to establish a focus on a particular problem. It could be <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sex-tips-for-married-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">issues relating to sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/5-big-benefits-of-marriage-infidelity-counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or jealousy.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Second step &ndash;<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The therapist will intervene actively to find a way to treat the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Third step &ndash;<\/strong> The therapist will lay out the objectives of the treatment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Fourth step &ndash;<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Finally, together you will find a solution with the expectation that a behavior must be changed for the good during the process.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><strong>How much does couples therapy and couples counseling cost?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On average, marriage counseling costs between $45 to $200 for every 45 minutes to an hour of the session.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With a marriage therapist, for every session of 45-50 minutes, the cost varies from $70 to $200.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are wondering, &ldquo;how to find a marriage counselor?&rdquo;, it would be a good idea to seek a referral from friends who have already attended couples counseling sessions with a marriage counselor. It would also be a good idea to look at therapist directories.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People also ask, &ldquo;Does Tricare cover marriage counseling?&rdquo; The answer to this is that it covers marriage counseling if the spouse is the one seeking treatment and the spouse gets a referral, but the soldier does that when a mental health condition is required.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both couples counseling for married couples and couples therapy deal with recognizing underlying relationship issues and resolving conflicts. They may not be exactly the same, but both work for relationship improvement.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marriage counseling and couples therapy are two popular suggestions for couples going through a rough time. Although a lot of people take them as two very similar processes, they actually are quite different.&nbsp; Many of us tend to use marriage counseling and couples therapy interchangeably and there is a reason for this confusion. Both marriage counseling and couples therapy are services offered to those who are dealing with stress in their relationship.&nbsp; During the process, you will be required to sit down as a couple and talk to an expert or a licensed professional who has formal academic training about <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1363,"featured_media":67909,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[15],"tags":[2668],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17472"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1363"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17472"}],"version-history":[{"count":19,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17472\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":120300,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17472\/revisions\/120300"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/67909"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}