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Unfaithfulness in marriage is one of the most damaging and heartbreaking hurdles to overcome in pursuit of healing the relationship. Infidelity leaves its mark without a care for those involved. Once it has taken place, there is no erasing it. <\/span><\/p>\n Often, unfaithfulness is an act of betrayal serious enough to end a relationship, and those who carry on <\/span>having an affair<\/span> have trouble maintaining loving kindness towards one another in the years following the affair. Whether this has taken place in the form of an emotional or physical affair matters little; the price of infidelity is expensive either way. <\/strong><\/span>Life after an affair takes a lot of time to come back to normal.<\/span><\/p>\n After <\/span>leading a double life affair<\/span>, the most obvious price of infidelity paid is the<\/span> loss of trust<\/span><\/a> that the partner once had on his or her spouse. Unfortunately, more often for the one against whom the spouse was unfaithful, trust in future relationships and friendships is damaged as well. <\/span>Trust<\/span><\/a> is not won back easily, if ever. The damage created by unfaithfulness is an emotional wound.<\/strong> That wound may scab, but even the slightest move in the wrong direction can tear the wound open again. <\/span><\/p>\n A word, a thought, an action– the slightest movement can trigger a person’s distrust for others. The loss of trust is two-fold. Both parties suffer an inability to share their lives with others without fear of betrayal and that is how and why affairs end badly.<\/span><\/p>\n Why is adultery wrong?<\/span><\/p>\n While infidelity may not hinder spouses from touching one another,<\/span> the value of physical touch<\/span><\/a> is often lost following an event of unfaithfulness. your lose the power that physical touch, both sexual and nonsexual. It diminishes as an emotional cost of infidelity.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n For men, the visualization of their spouse with another man can be haunting. For women, the thought of their spouse showing affection toward another person can prevent them from fully engaging in the physical realm of marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n Going hand-in-hand with distrust, infidelity can prevent a couple from ever feeling the spark or fire their marriage and physical closeness once held.<\/strong> Though spouses might be able to survive an affair without separating, the physical connection in the relationship will likely never be the same. <\/span><\/p>\n In order for a couple to move forward in marriage, following an act of unfaithfulness, forgiveness must be present. Forgiveness is complicated enough as it is. It becomes even more so when a there is an involvement of a broken pledge or contract! But is forgiveness the same as forgetfulness? Does “I forgive you” mean that it is as if the action never took place? <\/span><\/p>\n The answer is absolutely not. <\/span><\/p>\n Because forgetfulness will likely never occur, it makes forgiveness of an affair that much harder. Each day, the spouse must walk out the <\/span>act of forgiveness<\/span><\/a> – sometimes verbally, and sometimes by action. Conversely, it is important for this spouse to remember that forgiveness also means not holding the deed over the other spouse’s head.<\/strong> Justified or not, this kind of action prevents healing and hinders true forgiveness from ever taking place. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Loss of Trust<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Devalued physical touch<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Forgiveness vs Forgetfulness<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Disconnection and fear<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n