

{"id":16526,"date":"2017-08-09T12:01:19","date_gmt":"2017-08-09T12:01:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=16526"},"modified":"2025-03-24T15:24:42","modified_gmt":"2025-03-24T15:24:42","slug":"tips-on-communicating-during-a-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/tips-on-communicating-during-a-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Tips on Effective Communication During Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-78448\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/7-steps-when-the-spouse-wont-accept-the-divorce.jpg\" alt=\"man and woman looking away from each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, you have a compelling reason to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/effective-communication-with-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate with your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> through your attorney, but making contact yourself may be more beneficial. You may spend a considerable sum of money if you have to contact your spouse for every minor issue through a family law attorney.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, you may need some tips for communication during a divorce. Meanwhile, it is not just about the legal proceedings in the picture. A divorce is a big deal &ndash; you and your partner are going through a transition.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may want to speak to each other for various reasons, but you have to ensure that you are not out of line and overstepping any boundaries in this new setup.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dionne Eleanor, Relationship &amp; Empowerment Mentor, states,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Divorce is not the end of love; it is the beginning of understanding who you are beyond the relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Should-you-communicate-during-divorce-talks\"><\/span><b>Should you communicate during divorce talks?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/communicate-with-spouse-during-separation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication during divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, there are certain things you need to know. One of the most common questions people ask is if they can have a relationship during a divorce, whether with their spouse or someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is alright to seek comfort at the time of a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cdc.gov\/nchs\/fastats\/marriage-divorce.htm#:~:text=Data%20are%20for%20the%20U.S.&amp;text=Number%20of%20divorces%3A%20630%2C505%20(45,45%20reporting%20States%20and%20D.C.)\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, there may be certain complications that you cannot overlook. Seeing someone new while the divorce is still going on can make things tricky for you, your spouse, and your new partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are not legally obligated not to date someone new if you are already separated from your spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meanwhile, if you want to know if you can have a relationship with your spouse, it is possible, but you will have to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/types-of-boundaries-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">set some boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Should you have no contact during divorce, or should you only communicate through a lawyer?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would help if you stayed cordial with each other, at least. This will make the divorce easier, both monetarily and even otherwise.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if you are separated already, having a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/have-a-romantic-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romantic relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with them during the divorce can change things. If you wish to give the relationship another chance, you should go through your attorney and figure out a way.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a>, Relationship &amp; Empowerment Mentor, states,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">True closure comes from within, not from the final conversation with an ex.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-should-you-avoid-doing-during-a-divorce\"><\/span><b>What should you avoid doing during a divorce?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication during divorce can lead to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-resolve-conflict-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflicts and misunderstandings<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> if things are not handled properly. But with careful consideration, you can smoothen out this transition phase and make things more peaceful.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are certain things that you should avoid doing which can help you make communicating with your spouse during separation easier and healthier.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mainly you should not fall back into a pattern of volatile fights like you did when you were married. Don&rsquo;t let things get out of control by adopting an attitude geared towards revenge, retribution and envy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a> notes,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your peace of mind is more valuable than proving a point in an argument.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, don&rsquo;t try to communicate with your ex as if you are still involved with them. Learn to disengage and be objective about the situation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t have a negative attitude and remain stuck on your ex&rsquo;s and your own mistakes for too long.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/save-my-marriage-by-myself\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Save My Marriage by Myself<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-78481\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/How-to-get-a-quick-divorce.jpg\" alt=\"man and woman cold towards each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-tips-for-communication-during-divorce\"><\/span><b>15 tips for communication during divorce<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to communicate with your spouse during the divorce? Some of the ways you can steer clear of communication pitfalls are:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Check your temperament<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It won&rsquo;t be a surprise that you and your partner end up arguing on trivial issues while you go through the divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might think about how to talk to your spouse about divorce. The trick is to avoid communicating with your spouse when you&rsquo;re highly upset and only speak when you&rsquo;ve calmed down.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/personality-temperament\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Personality Temperament Types and Marriage Compatibility<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Say no to unnecessary communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refrain from responding to every communication from your spouse. Ignore trivial issues to avoid other conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Establish parameters for communication during divorce and let your spouse know before time that you&rsquo;d only respond to significant requests at your earliest convenience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a> points out,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting go doesn&rsquo;t mean forgetting; it means choosing to free yourself from pain.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/communication-failures\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12 Communication Failures That Can Ruin Any Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. Avoid excessive social media<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoid the use of social media when your divorce case is pending. If you can&rsquo;t avoid that altogether, resist posting anything related to your relationship or divorce case to avoid getting a counter-reaction from your spouse, which would further delay the divorce proceedings.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/social-media-ruins-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8 Ways Social Media Ruins Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Avoid angry outbursts<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is natural to feel a range of emotions while going through the process. However, while establishing communication during divorce, be cautious about your tone of conversations about divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to speak to your spouse in a friendly or civil tone as much as possible and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/yelling-does-not-help-dont-shout-it-out-write-it-out\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">avoid shouting<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out this video to learn more about how to control your feelings instead of letting them control you:<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/JD4O7ama3o8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Decide the mode of communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Establish boundaries and make them clear: state your preferred <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/4-types-of-destructive-communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">modes of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> during divorce, like through phone, text, or email. Specify if you only want to respond to emergency requests or whether you are comfortable with steady calls.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Take your time and space<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Respond when you can. You don&rsquo;t have to respond after every message. Taking your time will help you come up with a thoughtful and courteous response.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be mindful of the time you need to collect yourself, as any <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/5425604_Hasty_decision-making_in_a_variety_of_tasks_Does_it_contribute_to_the_development_of_delusions\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">haste<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in this process can lead to further misunderstandings and conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a> points out,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing after divorce isn&rsquo;t about finding someone new; that can happen, but it&rsquo;s really more about rediscovering yourself.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/let-there-be-some-space-in-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let There Be Some Space in Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>7. Don&rsquo;t dig up the past<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Concentrate only on the present issues. Try hard to avoid acting out based on the previous happenings, as dealing with a spouse is an emotional affair.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to discuss your children, concentrate only on custody issues. This will help you develop a more productive result on significant issues during divorce communication with your spouse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/stop-your-spouse-from-bringing-up-the-past\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Stop Your Spouse From Bringing Up the Past<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. Get a mediator<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A mediator is an unbiased third party who can assist both couples arrive at a mutual agreement on several issues.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They can help you avoid unproductive confrontations by allowing for the views of both parties to be presented respectfully. The mediator can help bring understanding to the opinion of both parties to be balanced.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Communicate through an attorney<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are situations when a spouse is so aggressive that it is difficult to make direct contact. In a situation like this, communicating through an attorney is recommended.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another reason you may need to communicate to your spouse through your attorney is that you have a restraining order that prohibits all contact, like in the case of issues of domestic violence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This research article highlights the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jstor.org\/stable\/25740207\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">role of a lawyer<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> during a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71838\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/common-reasons-why-women-over-get-a-divorce.jpg\" alt=\"Male Caucasian Specialist Have Meeting With Mature Couple Clients, Discuss Health Insurance for Older People\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Don&rsquo;t involve the family<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your family, including kids, if you have any, should be aware of the situation. Still, they should not be involved in any ugly spats you and your spouse have because of the divorce process. Please do not make them a mediator or involve them in a way where they must pick sides.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0003-066X.34.10.851\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> talks about how children are affected in families during a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/separation\/separation-and-divorce\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Separation and Divorce The Impact on Couple, Kids &amp; Extended Family<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>11. Prepare in advance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the tips that you can use when communicating during divorce is to prepare for any potential discussion that you may have with your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can avoid saying hurtful things if you are carefully preparing not just what you will say to your ex but also how you will address things. How you discuss things can have an impact on the outcome.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/divorce-preparation-checklist\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Divorce Preparation Checklist&ndash; Non-Negotiable Components<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>12. Avoid contentious topics<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are some topics that you must avoid discussing as you proceed with communication during divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To learn <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/separation\/practical-tips-for-separating-from-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to talk about divorce with your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is knowing that certain topics are difficult to navigate for you and your ex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This topic may have been the reason for your divorce in the first place. These topics could include hurtful incidents like an affair, financial infidelity, et cetera.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If these issues have to be discussed, try to present your side through your lawyer or set aside time to discuss it with your ex calmly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Avoid hasty declarations<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can choose to have no communication during divorce, but if you choose to communicate with your ex, make sure that you don&rsquo;t make any baseless declarations or hasty decisions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talking to your ex can be imbued with a lot of unresolved emotions. These emotions can compel you to make hasty declarations or decisions because you might be trying to make your partner feel guilty, angry, or sad.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These declarations are usually not carefully considered but you may feel the need to live by these later. Your ego may force you to live by your words.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Forgo bad communication habits<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to understand how to discuss divorce with your ex or go through the proceedings amicably, try to break the bad communication pattern you followed when you and your ex were together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, you both are not together anymore so you don&rsquo;t have to fight everything out.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, if a habit of your ex bothers you, don&rsquo;t try to correct it or point it out unless it impacts the divorce proceedings. Now that you aren&rsquo;t living together anymore, these habits won&rsquo;t affect your daily life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/conversations-with-your-spouse-dos-and-donts\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conversations With Your Spouse: Dos And Don&rsquo;ts<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>15. Set boundaries and adhere to them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to communicate with husband or wife during separation involves certain setting boundaries for those interactions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Setting emotional and conversational boundaries can help you avoid unnecessary arguments and negativity. It can help you from resuming the same fights that you and your ex had as a couple.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vumc.org\/health-wellness\/resource-articles\/establishing-effective-personal-boundaries\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for your divorce talk and adherence to them can determine the tone of your equation with your ex moving forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/boundaries-for-being-friends-with-ex\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Boundaries for Being Friends With an Ex<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In-a-nutshell\"><\/span><b>In a nutshell<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Should I talk to my spouse during the divorce? You won&rsquo;t have a choice. Sooner or later, you may have to set up a communication channel with them, whether direct or indirect, to confirm the details of the divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/dionne-reid\">Dionne Eleanor<\/a> emphasizes,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your past may have shaped you, but it doesn&rsquo;t have to define your future relationships.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During your divorce process, the two couples in question need to conduct themselves respectfully to make the divorce process smooth and less stressful. You don&rsquo;t want additional stress on yourself!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may need to consult a family law attorney to help you with communication if your spouse is acting with hostility.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes, you have a compelling reason to communicate with your spouse through your attorney, but making contact yourself may be more beneficial. You may spend a considerable sum of money if you have to contact your spouse for every minor issue through a family law attorney.&nbsp; However, you may need some tips for communication during a divorce. Meanwhile, it is not just about the legal proceedings in the picture. A divorce is a big deal &ndash; you and your partner are going through a transition.&nbsp; You may want to speak to each other for various reasons, but you have to <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":78448,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[2683],"class_list":["post-16526","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-divorce","tag-handling-the-split","has_thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16526","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16526"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16526\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":107954,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16526\/revisions\/107954"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/78448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16526"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16526"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16526"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}