

{"id":15706,"date":"2017-07-14T11:45:32","date_gmt":"2017-07-14T11:45:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=15706"},"modified":"2024-01-16T09:28:36","modified_gmt":"2024-01-16T09:28:36","slug":"8-tips-to-communicate-with-your-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/8-tips-to-communicate-with-your-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Tips To Communicate With Your Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-68003\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/happy-couple-5.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple in love looking at each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;ve probably heard before that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is key to any marriage. It&rsquo;s one of those things that gets said so much it also becomes a clich&eacute; &ndash; and like many cliches, it gets said so often because it&rsquo;s true.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/3-reasons-why-a-lack-of-communication-in-marriage-can-be-detrimental\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> leads to frustration, resentment, and fights, and can even lead to the breakdown of your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you learn how to talk to your wife and vice versa, you understand each other better, and it gets easier to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-handle-arguments-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resolve arguments<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and calm tensions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This article emphasizes tweaking<\/span><b> the way you speak to your wife<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by recommending a few tips to communicate better with your wife.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good communication is a must-have skill.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if you are looking for better ways to communicate with your wife effectively or simply improve communication with the wife, let&rsquo;s dive deeper into our 8 tips on how to communicate with your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/PZ8VMOCidWo\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Learn-to-listen\"><\/span>1. Learn to listen<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We hear our partner talking all the time, but how often do we really listen? Hearing and listening are two very different things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself drifting off, biting back anger at what your wife is saying, or planning what you want to say as soon as you spot an opportunity, you&rsquo;re not listening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first tip to improve communication with your wife is to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/become-a-better-listener\/\"><b>learn to listen to what your wife says<\/b><\/a><b>.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Be attentive to the thoughts and feelings she&rsquo;s expressing, both through her words and through her body language.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listening actively will not only help you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-deepen-your-connection-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">improve the connection with your wife<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but also help you learn how to be more patient with others around you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Set-up-a-time-out-system\"><\/span>2. Set up a time out system<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When communicating with your wife, the discussions don&rsquo;t have to continue unabated until you either reach a resolution or explode in a fight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For better communication with the wife, <\/span><b>be mindful of how you&rsquo;re feeling during a discussion<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and ask your wife to do the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Agree on a word or short phrase either of you can say if you need a break, such a &ldquo;stop,&rdquo; &ldquo;break,&rdquo; &ldquo;time out,&rdquo; or &ldquo;cool off.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If either of you feels frustrated or on the verge of yelling or saying hurtful things, use your time out phrase and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/can-taking-a-timeout-save_b_3891532\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">take a break till you feel calm again<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Mind-the-words-you-choose\"><\/span>3. Mind the words you choose<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whoever said &ldquo;sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me&rdquo; either had a very thick skin or had never been on the receiving end of a hurtful diatribe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>The words you use make a difference<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &ndash; and once said, they can never be unsaid or unheard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think carefully about the words you choose when talking with your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself whether what you&rsquo;re about to say will help get your point across and further the discussion, or if it will only hurt or inflame. If it&rsquo;s the latter, it might be time to use that time out phrase.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Ask-if-it-really-needs-to-be-said\"><\/span>4. Ask if it really needs to be said<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honesty and openness are vital in any marriage, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you have to say everything that comes to your mind. <\/span><b>Discretion is an important part of good communication.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to say something that is born out of frustration, anger, or just wanting to lash out, hold it back. Find another way to get it out, such as journaling, or even hitting a pillow or playing a vigorous round of sports.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-16226 size-full\" title=\"Ask if it really needs to be said\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/04112745\/Ask-if-it-really-needs-to-be-said.jpg\" alt=\"8 Tips To Communicate With Your Wife\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Check-you%E2%80%99ve-understood-what-you-heard\"><\/span>5. Check you&rsquo;ve understood what you heard<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a moment to clarify what your wife just said to you, especially if you&rsquo;re not sure you understood.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use this simple mirroring technique: After she finishes speaking, say, &ldquo;so what you&rsquo;re saying is &hellip;.&rdquo; and repeat what she said in your own words. This gives you the chance to check you understand and gives her the opportunity to clarify.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Try asking follow-up questions<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> such as &ldquo;how does that make you feel?&rdquo; or &ldquo;what would help resolve this situation for you?&rdquo; Feeling heard and validated is comforting for anyone and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/understand-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">promotes a better understanding of each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Put-yourself-in-her-shoes\"><\/span>6. Put yourself in her shoes<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about what your wife is saying to you, and ask how that might make her feel. Of course, the best person to ask about that is your wife, as discussed above, but it&rsquo;s also helpful to imagine yourself in her shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a few minutes and zero in on what&rsquo;s happening and how your wife feels about it. Imagine what it would be like to be in her situation right now. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4765893\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Developing empathy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> will help you communicate better for the rest of your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And even if you are not able to comprehend her point of view, trust her frustration; maybe her reasons are valid for her. <\/span><b>Respect her perspective even if you can&rsquo;t understand it.<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Never-yell\"><\/span>7. Never yell<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yelling rarely brings about a good result. All it does is add aggravation and hurt to an already inflamed situation. If you really can&rsquo;t resist the urge to yell, it&rsquo;s time to take a time out and calm down before trying again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to speak in a calm, affectionate way, even when you&rsquo;re angry. If you can&rsquo;t be affectionate right now, at least aim for civil and caring. Your wife isn&rsquo;t your opponent, and you don&rsquo;t have to win her over to your point of view.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Try-a-different-approach\"><\/span>8. Try a different approach<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone communicates differently. If you don&rsquo;t understand your wife or she is unable to understand you, try a different approach. Use an example or analogy, or try explaining in a different way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can even <\/span><b>try writing your feelings down in a letter<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or drawing a diagram or flowchart. It sounds funny, but it can really work, especially when you&rsquo;re just not seeing eye to eye. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/encouraging-communication-with-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Encourage your wife<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to do the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to talk with your wife in marriage will set you up for life and help your marriage survive and thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start practicing better communication today &ndash; you might be surprised at how quickly you see a change in your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You&rsquo;ve probably heard before that communication is key to any marriage. It&rsquo;s one of those things that gets said so much it also becomes a clich&eacute; &ndash; and like many cliches, it gets said so often because it&rsquo;s true.&nbsp;&nbsp; Lack of communication leads to frustration, resentment, and fights, and can even lead to the breakdown of your marriage. When you learn how to talk to your wife and vice versa, you understand each other better, and it gets easier to resolve arguments and calm tensions. 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