

{"id":15704,"date":"2017-07-14T11:46:06","date_gmt":"2017-07-14T11:46:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=15704"},"modified":"2025-10-14T07:18:34","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T07:18:34","slug":"what-you-should-know-about-finding-the-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/what-you-should-know-about-finding-the-one\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Practical Tips for Finding the Right Person"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-113265\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/couple-talking-in-park-1.png\" alt=\"couple talking in park \" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love can feel like a beautiful mystery&mdash;one moment you&rsquo;re hopeful, the next you&rsquo;re wondering if you&rsquo;ll ever meet someone who truly gets you. It&rsquo;s not about chasing perfection or ticking boxes; it&rsquo;s about connection, warmth, and feeling seen.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes the journey feels long, but every step teaches you a little more about what matters. You start realizing that finding the right person isn&rsquo;t about luck; it&rsquo;s about timing, openness, and trust in yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So take a deep breath, smile at the uncertainty&hellip; and remember, love often shows up when you least expect it!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-does-finding-the-right-person-matter\"><\/span><b>Why does finding the right person matter?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Finding the right person matters because the quality of our relationships shapes our happiness, health, and overall well-being.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The right partner brings emotional safety, understanding, and a sense of belonging that helps us grow into our best selves&mdash;something surface-level connections can&rsquo;t replace.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A research article published in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au\/health\/healthyliving\/Strong-relationships-strong-health\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2016<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> states that people with strong social connections have lower rates of anxiety and depression, stronger immune systems, and overall better health outcomes.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Two people are both going through stressful jobs. One has a partner who listens, comforts, and encourages them; the other feels unseen and alone. Over time, the first person feels stronger and more hopeful&mdash;proof of how much emotional support matters when you find the right person.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>Please note:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if you haven&rsquo;t yet met yours, that&rsquo;s okay. Love isn&rsquo;t a race or a deadline; it&rsquo;s a journey. Every experience teaches you something valuable, gently preparing your heart for finding the right person when the time is right.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11-tips-to-find-the-right-person-for-you\"><\/span><b>11 tips to find the right person for you<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love isn&rsquo;t about searching for perfection&mdash;it&rsquo;s about discovering someone who feels right for your soul. Finding the right person takes<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-awareness-self-reflection\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> self-awareness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, patience, and a willingness to grow. It&rsquo;s less about luck and more about knowing what truly matters to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s explore some practical tips to guide your heart toward a lasting, meaningful connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Know yourself before seeking someone else<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before finding love, it&rsquo;s important to understand who you are&mdash;your values, needs, and boundaries. Self-awareness helps you attract a partner who complements, not completes, you. When you know your emotional patterns and strengths, you choose from confidence instead of fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Spend a weekend journaling about what truly makes you feel loved and supported.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/practicing-self-awareness-in-relationships\/\" title=\"10 Ways to Practice Self-Awareness in Relationships\">10 Ways to Practice Self-Awareness in Relationships<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>2. Focus on emotional compatibility<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical attraction may start things, but emotional compatibility sustains them. Look for someone who listens, communicates openly, and respects your feelings. You should feel<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-safety\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> emotionally safe<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sharing your fears, dreams, and flaws without judgment. That&rsquo;s the foundation of real intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Notice how someone responds when you share something vulnerable&mdash;do they comfort or dismiss you?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>3. Look beyond surface-level attraction<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s easy to be drawn to looks or charm, but long-term happiness comes from shared values and mutual respect. Beauty fades, but character, kindness, and loyalty remain. Try to see who someone is beneath the surface&mdash;they might surprise you.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Instead of focusing on appearance, ask about what motivates or inspires them.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reasons-why-respect-is-important-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"Why Is Respect Important in a Relationship: 13 Clear Reasons\">Why Is Respect Important in a Relationship: 13 Clear Reasons<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. Pay attention to how you feel around them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes your body knows before your mind does. Do you feel calm, seen, and comfortable&mdash;or tense and unsure? The right person brings peace, not confusion. Trust those emotional cues; they often tell you more than words do.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> After spending time with someone, reflect: &ldquo;Do I feel more like myself or less?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>5. Communicate your needs early on<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honest communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> saves time and heartache. Share your boundaries, expectations, and goals early, even if it feels uncomfortable. The right person will appreciate your clarity, not fear it. Openness creates trust, and trust builds strong foundations.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Tell them what you value in relationships, like consistency or affection, without apologizing for it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>6. Observe how they treat others<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-113266\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Cafe-kindness-moment.png\" alt=\"Caf&eacute; kindness moment\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person&rsquo;s kindness isn&rsquo;t just in how they treat you&mdash;it&rsquo;s in how they treat waiters, friends, and strangers. Respect, humility, and empathy reveal someone&rsquo;s true nature. Choose a partner who shows compassion consistently, not selectively.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Watch how they react when plans change or things go wrong&mdash;it says a lot.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>7. Build friendship before romance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A strong relationship often begins with genuine friendship. Friendship builds trust, laughter, and emotional safety&mdash;all essential for lasting love. When romance fades temporarily, friendship keeps the bond alive. Love that grows from friendship often feels effortless.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Take time to know each other&rsquo;s hobbies or routines before labeling it a relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>8. Don&rsquo;t rush the process<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love grows in its own time. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/rushing-into-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rushing into relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> out of loneliness often leads to disappointment. Be patient and allow connections to unfold naturally. The right person will stay, even if the pace is slow.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Instead of pushing for commitment, focus on enjoying each stage of getting to know them.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>9. Learn from past relationships<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every heartbreak teaches you something valuable. Reflect on what worked, what didn&rsquo;t, and how you&rsquo;ve changed since then. Growth comes when you take lessons&mdash;not baggage&mdash;into your next relationship. That&rsquo;s how wisdom shapes love.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Write down three lessons from your last relationship to avoid repeating old patterns.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>10. Share values and life goals<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shared goals make long-term relationships easier. Talk about future plans&mdash;career, family, lifestyle&mdash;to ensure alignment. It&rsquo;s not about agreeing on everything, but moving in the same direction. Compatibility in vision often determines relationship longevity.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Ask, &ldquo;Where do you see yourself in five years?&rdquo; and see if your answers connect.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/shared-goal-and-visions-in-marriage\/\" title=\"7 Challenges to Having Shared Goals and Visions in Marriage\">7 Challenges to Having Shared Goals and Visions in Marriage<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>11. Trust your instincts and timing<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intuition is your quiet truth. If something feels right, it probably is&mdash;and if it doesn&rsquo;t, listen to that too. When you find the right person, things feel natural, not forced. Trust your timing; love isn&rsquo;t late&mdash;it&rsquo;s unfolding perfectly.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Example:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> If a relationship brings peace instead of anxiety, that&rsquo;s your sign to lean in.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/gut-instinct-in-relationships\/\" title=\"17 Sensible Ways to Trust Your Gut Instincts in a Relationship\">17 Sensible Ways to Trust Your Gut Instincts in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-find-the-right-person-5-steps\"><\/span><b>How do you find the right person: 5 steps<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love doesn&rsquo;t just happen&mdash;it&rsquo;s something you grow into with awareness and intention. Finding the right person isn&rsquo;t about luck or timing alone; it&rsquo;s about clarity, self-respect, and emotional maturity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you take small but mindful steps, you naturally attract relationships that feel healthy, secure, and real. Here are five simple yet powerful steps to help you understand how do you find the right person for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Start with self-understanding<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before sharing your life with someone, know who <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are. Understand your values, priorities, and what truly makes you feel fulfilled. When you&rsquo;re clear about your needs and boundaries, you&rsquo;re less likely to settle for less. Self-awareness becomes your best guide in love and life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What kind of energy do I bring into relationships?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What values are non-negotiable for me?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I love myself enough to walk away when I&rsquo;m not respected?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>2. Identify what truly matters<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make a list&mdash;not of ideal traits, but of qualities that sustain long-term happiness: respect, trust, communication, and emotional support. Finding the right person means focusing on what builds stability, not short-term excitement. Choose substance over spark; sparks fade, but an emotional connection lasts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What traits make me feel safe and appreciated?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can I tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have I confused excitement with emotional connection before?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-makes-a-stable-relationship\/\" title=\"15 Signs You Are in a Stable Relationship &#038; Ways to Maintain It\">15 Signs You Are in a Stable Relationship &#038; Ways to Maintain It<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>3. Build healthy boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boundaries aren&rsquo;t walls&mdash;they&rsquo;re bridges to healthy love. They show others how to treat you while keeping your emotional energy safe. When you respect your limits, you naturally attract people who respect them too. Boundaries protect your peace and nurture mutual understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What behaviors make me uncomfortable in relationships?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I speak up when my boundaries are crossed?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do I show respect for other people&rsquo;s boundaries?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"Setting Healthy Boundaries in a Relationship\">Setting Healthy Boundaries in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. Stay patient and open<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-113264\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Peaceful-reflection-moment.png\" alt=\"Peaceful reflection moment\" width=\"804\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Real connections take time to form. Don&rsquo;t rush into relationships just to fill loneliness&mdash;wait for someone whose presence feels calm and genuine. Openness doesn&rsquo;t mean saying yes to everyone; it means staying hopeful without lowering your standards. Patience creates space for the right person to appear naturally.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I trying to force love instead of allowing it to grow?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I give people time to reveal their true selves?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do I handle waiting when things move slowly?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this TED Talk by Alexandra Redcay, executive director and relationship expert, who shares insights on avoiding rushed choices and asking the right questions in relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jodhovumkHQ?si=q6ZgdiqmI4qgZ88l\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>5.Surround yourself with positive influences<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The people you spend time with shape your mindset about love. Supportive friends and family remind you of your worth and help you see red flags clearly. Being around healthy relationships inspires you to expect the same for yourself. Energy attracts energy&mdash;so choose environments that nurture kindness and authenticity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Questions to ask yourself:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do the people around me encourage healthy relationships?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I influenced by negativity or unrealistic expectations?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who in my circle models the kind of love I want to experience?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h4><b>Please note:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t rush into something just to fill the silence&mdash;love unfolds naturally. The right person won&rsquo;t need chasing or convincing; it will simply feel right. Trust the timing, stay open, and let things flow organically. What&rsquo;s meant for you will always find its way, gently and effortlessly.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQ\"><\/span><b>FAQ<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone&rsquo;s path to love looks different, but some questions come up for nearly everyone. Here are a few quick answers to help you navigate relationships with more clarity and confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How long does it take to find the right person?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&rsquo;s no fixed timeline&mdash;some meet their person early, others later. What matters most is growing emotionally and staying open; love often arrives when you&rsquo;re ready, not when you&rsquo;re searching.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>What should I look for in a healthy relationship?<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look for respect, trust, and emotional safety. A healthy relationship feels calm and supportive, where both people can be their authentic selves without fear or judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How do I know if someone is right for me?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pay attention to how you feel around them&mdash;peaceful, accepted, and understood. When communication flows easily and values align, that&rsquo;s a strong sign you&rsquo;re with the right person.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When-love-feels-right\"><\/span><b>When love feels right<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding the right person isn&rsquo;t about perfection&mdash;it&rsquo;s about connection, understanding, and shared growth. Love feels steady, not rushed, and brings peace instead of confusion. When you stay true to your values and nurture self-awareness, the right relationship naturally follows.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, meaningful love comes when you&rsquo;re emotionally ready to give and receive it wholeheartedly. So trust the process, keep your heart open, and believe that the person meant for you will recognize and cherish you just as you are.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love can feel like a beautiful mystery&mdash;one moment you&rsquo;re hopeful, the next you&rsquo;re wondering if you&rsquo;ll ever meet someone who truly gets you. It&rsquo;s not about chasing perfection or ticking boxes; it&rsquo;s about connection, warmth, and feeling seen.&nbsp; Sometimes the journey feels long, but every step teaches you a little more about what matters. You start realizing that finding the right person isn&rsquo;t about luck; it&rsquo;s about timing, openness, and trust in yourself.&nbsp; So take a deep breath, smile at the uncertainty&hellip; and remember, love often shows up when you least expect it! 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