

{"id":15624,"date":"2017-06-09T11:36:48","date_gmt":"2017-06-09T11:36:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=15624"},"modified":"2023-05-17T10:25:39","modified_gmt":"2023-05-17T10:25:39","slug":"what-you-need-to-know-about-developing-healthy-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-you-need-to-know-about-developing-healthy-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"What You Need To Know About Developing Healthy Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-15625 size-full\" title=\"What You Need To Know About Developing Healthy Relationships\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/What-you-need-to-know-about-developing-healthy-relationships.jpg\" alt=\"What You Need To Know About Developing Healthy Relationships\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>A relationship can be considered healthy if both partners feel supported, connected, and independent while being with each other.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building healthy relationships can bring a lot of joy and contentment into your life. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Healthy relationships become a cornerstone, a place where you can be yourself and know you&rsquo;ll be fully supported and respected no matter what life throws your way. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, unhealthy relationships are toxic and damaging to your emotional well-being. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\">Unhealthy relationships<\/a> are stressful and leave you feeling insecure, attacked, and doubting yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to maintain healthy relationships\"}'>But how to maintain healthy relationships?&nbsp;<\/span>Is there a secret to <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"having a healthy relationship\"}'>having a healthy relationship<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, it all starts with you and how you relate to yourself, as well as your attitude to relationships and other people. Let&rsquo;s take a look at how you can develop healthy relationships in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>The article shares 7 tips on&nbsp;<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to maintain a healthy relationship\"}'>how to maintain a healthy relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Get-to-know-yourself\"><\/span>1. Get to know yourself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-51261 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Get-to-know-yourself.jpg\" alt=\"Couple playing outside in the park \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\">It&rsquo;s a clich&eacute;, but it&rsquo;s also true: You can&rsquo;t have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/7-characteristics-of-a-good-relationship\/\">good relationships<\/a> with other people until you build a<span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"build healthy relationship\"}'> healthy relationship<\/span> with yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Maintaining healthy relationships start with you.<\/strong> When you know who you are and what you want out of life and relationships, you can start looking for relationships that fit those needs. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s also important to get to know your insecurities, frustrations, the things that make you angry or make you lash out, and how you respond to stress. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing these things makes it easier to manage potential conflicts and handle situations with grace. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Be-comfortable-alone\"><\/span>2. Be comfortable alone<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/amymorin\/2017\/08\/05\/7-science-backed-reasons-you-should-spend-more-time-alone\/#297e52571b7e\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Being comfortable alone<\/a> is important if you want to be comfortable with another person and build <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"healthy romantic relationships\"}'>healthy romantic relationships with them<\/span>. If you&rsquo;re comfortable alone, you&rsquo;ll discover the joy of self-sufficiency and self-validation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>When you&rsquo;re comfortable and whole within yourself, you can enter relationships from an open, grounded, and honest place. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You won&rsquo;t look for the&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\">relationships to fix<\/a> you or fill a gap in your life, because you know you&rsquo;ve already found wholeness. Instead, you can enjoy each relationship for what it brings to your life, without relying on it. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Take-responsibility\"><\/span>3. Take responsibility<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to have a healthy relationship\"}'>How to have a healthy relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.workplacestrategiesformentalhealth.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Taking responsibility for your feelings<\/a>, actions, and reactions are essential <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"steps to a healthy relationship\"}'>steps to a healthy relationship<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all get irritated by other people sometimes &ndash; we&rsquo;re only human after all &ndash; but we can manage our reactions and accept responsibility for them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Only you are responsible for what you accept in a relationship and how you treat the other person. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking responsibility for your life and your relationships make you feel stronger and remind you that you&rsquo;re the captain of your ship. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Accept-others-as-they-are\"><\/span>4. Accept others as they are<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-15626 size-full\" title=\"Accept others as they are\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Accept-Others-As-They-Are.jpg\" alt=\"Accept others as they are\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many a relationship has broken down because one party wanted the other to be different. However, you can&rsquo;t force other people to change and be more like you want them to be. All you can do is accept them as they are now. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>So, <strong>if you want to know&nbsp;how to build a healthy relationship, start by accepting each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you enter a relationship with open eyes and acceptance of your partner&rsquo;s quirks, foibles, and traits, your expectations will be realistic, and your relationship will be based on mutual respect, not manipulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Be-realistic-about-relationships\"><\/span>5. Be realistic about relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fairytale syndrome is a certified relationship killer. Every relationship has a honeymoon phase, and it&rsquo;s a lot of fun, but it&rsquo;s not the basis for a long-term relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Want to know <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how to keep a relationship healthy\"}'>how to keep a relationship healthy?&nbsp;<\/span>Get real about what your relationship entails. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are going to be ups and downs, bills to pay, and perhaps in the future the demands of kids, promotions, or even illness. Your partner is human and has some irritating habits (and so do you). &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Prepare yourself for a real-world relationship instead of a fairytale, and you won&rsquo;t be disappointed.<\/strong> You&rsquo;ll be ready for a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-abundance-making-your-love-life-fulfilling\/\">fulfilling relationship<\/a> that embraces the everyday instead of rejecting it. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Be-loyal-and-respectful\"><\/span>6. Be loyal and respectful<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loyalty and respect are some of the key <span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"aspects of a healthy relationship\"}'>aspects of a healthy relationship<\/span>. Being loyal to your partner and making them your priority <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/7-important-tips-to-build-trust-in-relationships\/\">builds trust<\/a> and reminds them that they matter to you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wsj.com\/articles\/SB10001424052702304887904576397801582783690\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Loyalty<\/a> makes it easier for you to trust each other and build a relationship together. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Respect means listening to your partner&rsquo;s needs, concerns, hopes, and dreams openly and with care. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It means learning to talk about even painful things without being cruel to each other, and it means putting the health of your relationship above winning or scoring points off each other. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to your partner the way you&rsquo;d want them to talk to you. Focus on your feelings and needs, not on trying to punish them or make them act a certain way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Watch Dr. Emerson Eggerichs explain the two ingredients for a successful marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/J0K2zXnnALU\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Nurture-the-good\"><\/span>7. Nurture the good<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want a beautiful garden, you tend and water the flowers, not the weeds. Developing healthy relationships is just the same. Nurture and grow the good in each other and your relationship. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look for all how your relationship works and focus on those. Do more of what works and less of what doesn&rsquo;t. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That counts for your partner, too. Look for what you love and appreciate about them, and focus on that. Tell them about it. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, issues will come up sometimes and need to be dealt with, but good relationships are built on being positive and nurturing, not nagging or finding faults. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Healthy relationships are a possibility for anyone willing to work on themselves and learn the skills of being in a healthy relationship. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Practice honesty and kindness with yourself so you can relate better to others and build relationships that are made to last. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A relationship can be considered healthy if both partners feel supported, connected, and independent while being with each other. Building healthy relationships can bring a lot of joy and contentment into your life. Healthy relationships become a cornerstone, a place where you can be yourself and know you&rsquo;ll be fully supported and respected no matter what life throws your way. On the other hand, unhealthy relationships are toxic and damaging to your emotional well-being. Unhealthy relationships are stressful and leave you feeling insecure, attacked, and doubting yourself. 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