

{"id":15619,"date":"2017-06-09T11:26:26","date_gmt":"2017-06-09T11:26:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=15619"},"modified":"2023-05-12T04:29:10","modified_gmt":"2023-05-12T04:29:10","slug":"10-signs-its-worth-fixing-your-relationship-problems","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/10-signs-its-worth-fixing-your-relationship-problems\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs It\u2019s Worth Fixing Your Relationship Problems"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-66006\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/signs-it-is-worth-fixing-your-relationship-problems.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Sitting Together And Smiling\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> stress can really drag you down. Something that&rsquo;s supposed to be a source of joy in your life becomes something that gives you a headache and sometimes makes you want to run away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re embroiled in relationship problems <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">it can be hard to know what to do. Is it worth saving your relationship? Or is all the pain and stress just not worth it? What are the signs your relationship is in trouble?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not every struggling relationship is doomed to fail. Sometimes it&rsquo;s worth fixing your relationship problems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are wondering &ldquo;how do I know if my relationship is worth saving&rdquo;, here are 10 signs that it&rsquo;s not time to throw in the towel yet:<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-You-both-want-to-work-on-it\"><\/span>1. You both want to work on it<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the cornerstone when it comes to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">saving a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: You both want to work on your relationship problems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If only one of you is committed to working things out, the power balance is uneven and it&rsquo;s unlikely to end well. Fixing relationship issues might not be on the cards for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you both genuinely want to fix your relationship problems, you&rsquo;re already on the right track.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-You-make-each-other-laugh\"><\/span>2. You make each other laugh<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It sounds simple, but laughter is important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to know if your relationship is worth saving? If you can still make each other laugh and smile, there&rsquo;s still joy in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Someone who can make you laugh is someone who gets you and understands the way you think. It takes a certain level of comfort to be able to laugh together, and it&rsquo;s a sign that you&rsquo;re still comfortable with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-You-can-be-honest-without-being-mean\"><\/span>3. You can be honest without being mean<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/6-ways-to-successfully-fix-save-a-broken-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fixing a broken relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> means some hard talks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is your relationship worth saving? If you and your partner can sit down and have honest, difficult conversations without resorting to lashing out at each other, you&rsquo;ve got a good foundation for rebuilding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/good-communication-basics\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good <\/span><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a skill. If you don&rsquo;t have it, you can work on learning together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video where Psychiatrist Willie Earley discusses truth telling in relationships:<\/span><br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LTxM5ilU4MU\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-You-feel-sick-at-the-thought-of-leaving\"><\/span>4. You feel sick at the thought of leaving<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might think you want it to end, but how does it feel when you honestly consider walking out that door or watching them walk out, knowing it&rsquo;s over?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes when your mind is awhirl with worries and pros and cons, it&rsquo;s hard to see your true feelings buried in the chaos. Take a minute to visualize breaking up because of your relationship problems, in vivid detail. Check in how you really feel in your gut when you think about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the thought makes you feel awful, perhaps you&rsquo;re not ready to give up yet. Your relationship is worth saving.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-You-only-think-about-breaking-up-when-you%E2%80%99re-frustrated\"><\/span>5. You only think about breaking up when you&rsquo;re frustrated<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wanting to break up is sometimes just a knee jerk reaction to frustration or anger due to relationship problems. If you enjoy being with your partner most of the time and only consider breaking up when you have a fight or they do something that winds you up, don&rsquo;t give up yet.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you only feel like you want to leave when a fight happens, the chances are that what you really want is for the problem to go away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thinking about how to fix relationship problems? Isolate what&rsquo;s getting you so angry and find a way to work it out with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-15621 size-full\" title=\"You only think about breaking up when you&rsquo;re frustrated\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/You-only-think-about-breaking-up-when-you%E2%80%99re-frustrated.jpg\" alt=\"You only think about breaking up when you&rsquo;re frustrated\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Your-problems-aren%E2%80%99t-really-with-each-other\"><\/span>6. Your problems aren&rsquo;t really with each other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes it feels like your relationship is a huge problem and you just want it to be over, but take a moment to ask: Are your problems really with each other?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s easy to project stress from other areas of your life onto your partner. Maybe you feel like you never see them, but the real problem is that you&rsquo;re both overworked. Maybe you&rsquo;re upset that you never go anywhere, but the real problem is that you don&rsquo;t have enough money coming in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Problems like these could happen with any partner, so rather than break up, try working together to make things better.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-You-genuinely-enjoy-each-other%E2%80%99s-company\"><\/span>7. You genuinely enjoy each other&rsquo;s company<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to know if a relationship is worth saving?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a relationship is on the rocks<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> it can be hard to spend time together. But if you&rsquo;re genuinely enjoying time with your partner and problems are only flaring up intermittently, don&rsquo;t throw in the towel just yet.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The times you enjoy together are a roadmap for what your relationship could be if you can sort out the issues that are causing tension between you. They&rsquo;re also a reminder of what you enjoy about your partner, and what about your relationship is worth fighting for.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-You-can-still-see-a-future-together\"><\/span>8. You can still see a future together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you imagine your future, is your partner in it? Sometimes you feel angry and like you want them gone, but when you think about the future, they&rsquo;re still there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find yourself making plans for trips or nights out, talking to them about household projects, or even daydreaming about your future together, ask yourself if you really want that future without them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-You%E2%80%99re-still-a-team\"><\/span>9. You&rsquo;re still a team<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe things are a little rough, and you&rsquo;re fighting more than you used to, but are you still essentially a team? Do you still pull together when it comes to budgeting, household management, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">child rearing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and big life decisions?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Little things count too of course: Are you still a team when it comes to cooking dinner or fixing the car? If you&rsquo;re still working together on the big and the little things, there&rsquo;s still a connection there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to know how to fix your relationship you must ensure you are still a team and not two separate units.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-You%E2%80%99re-still-affectionate\"><\/span>10. You&rsquo;re still affectionate<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your words might be sharper than before and your stress levels might be on the rise, but do you still feel loved and cared for? Couples with deep-seated issues and relationship problems don&rsquo;t usually hold hands, cuddle, or make small gestures like stroking the other&rsquo;s hair or giving them a shoulder rub.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All it takes is a little effort in fixing problems in a relationship. If you&rsquo;re still affectionate with each other, there&rsquo;s still ease, connection, and a spark between you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Only you can know for sure if your relationship problems are worth fixing. Don&rsquo;t give up without some thought though &ndash; sometimes a seemingly broken relationship just needs a little tender loving care.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Relationship stress can really drag you down. Something that&rsquo;s supposed to be a source of joy in your life becomes something that gives you a headache and sometimes makes you want to run away. When you&rsquo;re embroiled in relationship problems it can be hard to know what to do. Is it worth saving your relationship? Or is all the pain and stress just not worth it? What are the signs your relationship is in trouble? Not every struggling relationship is doomed to fail. Sometimes it&rsquo;s worth fixing your relationship problems. If you are wondering &ldquo;how do I know if my <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":66006,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[16],"tags":[2680],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15619"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15619"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15619\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":66008,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15619\/revisions\/66008"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/66006"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15619"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15619"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15619"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}