{"id":15392,"date":"2017-05-18T11:14:10","date_gmt":"2017-05-18T11:14:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=15392"},"modified":"2026-03-31T06:57:14","modified_gmt":"2026-03-31T06:57:14","slug":"dealing-with-husbands-infidelity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/dealing-with-husbands-infidelity\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Nurture Yourself After Husband&#8217;s Infidelity: 10 Self Care Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-15393 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/273-2.jpg\" alt=\"Middle-aged Women Having Meditation Beside Of Sea Bank On Beach Sunrise Moment\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.divorcestatistics.info\/latest-infidelity-statistics-of-usa.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Statistics<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> show that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> rates are rising dramatically, causing the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> rates to go higher every year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what should one do when they face infidelity in their marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re dealing with your husband&rsquo;s infidelity, you&rsquo;re going to be feeling rough around the edges.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/marriage-after-infidelity\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infidelity in marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is painful, scary, and sometimes infuriating. It&rsquo;s normal to feel a whole range of emotions.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you decide to stay, you might wonder how your marriage can ever be ok. If you choose to go, you&rsquo;ll be wrangling feelings of betrayal and grief and wondering how to start rebuilding your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In either event, <\/span><b>with marital infidelity, the chances are you&rsquo;re feeling awful right now.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s time to look after yourself with our easy to follow <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">tips on self-care<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> after your husband&rsquo;s infidelity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch: Rethinking infidelity<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/P2AUat93a8Q\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Eat-your-greens\"><\/span>Eat your greens<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46532 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Eat-your-greens.jpg\" alt=\"Beautiful Young Women Looking Away And Smiling, Holding Plates Of Healthy Food On The Dining Table At Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infidelity can severely affect adults&rsquo; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/31199042\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">psychological health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s easy to forget about nutrition when you&rsquo;re <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/how-to-survive-an-affair\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">coping with infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You might forget to eat or find yourself grabbing quick and easy junk food.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The stress of how to handle a cheating husband in marriage takes a toll on your body, and eating unhealthy food adds to the stress and makes you feel even worse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Pre-plan some easy but healthy meals and snacks<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or even ask a friend to help you whip up a batch of healthy freezer meals. Your body will thank you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Keep-active\"><\/span>Keep active<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46533 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Keep-active.jpg\" alt=\"Young Fitt Lady In The Gym Pulling Back Press\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still, wondering how to cope with your husband&rsquo;s infidelity?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start by keeping yourself active and fit!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Exercise is a powerful mood booster and a healthy way to work out aggression or frustration at your husband without breaking your favorite crockery.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Hit the gym, or take an exercise class.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Head out for a walk or jog &ndash; the fresh air will help clear your head, while the physical movement will bolster your mood and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/staying-healthy\/exercising-to-relax\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reduce stress<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Get-a-good-night%E2%80%99s-sleep\"><\/span>Get a good night&rsquo;s sleep<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-15394 size-full\" title=\"Get a good night&rsquo;s sleep\" src=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/274-2.jpg\" alt=\"Embarrassed Young Beautiful Women Fast Asleep Moment On The Bed Under Blanket At Bedroom\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cheating in marriage brings with it a lot of stress, which in turn affects your ability to get a good night&rsquo;s sleep.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of sleep makes everything feel worse. Your mood is lower, your stress is higher, and it&rsquo;s hard to think clearly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plan for a good night&rsquo;s sleep by switching off your phone or computer half an hour before bedtime and unwinding with a book or other quiet activity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Cut caffeine after your evening meal, and make sure your bedroom is at the right temperature.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some lavender oil on your pillow, a sleep or meditation app, or even an over the counter herbal sleep supplement can help you drift off.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Honor-all-your-feelings\"><\/span>Honor all your feelings<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46535 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Honor-all-your-feelings.jpg\" alt=\"Sad Depressed Lady Outdoor Beside Of Lake Or Pond With Nature\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another aspect of how to deal with infidelity in marriage is to vent out your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you find out that your husband is cheating, you&rsquo;ll feel like you&rsquo;re on an emotional roller coaster, and that&rsquo;s completely normal. You might feel rage one minute, betrayal the next, and fear or grief after that.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about what to say to your cheating husband and <\/span><b>let your <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><b>feelings flow, and don&rsquo;t label any of them as &ldquo;bad.&rdquo;<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> All your feelings are natural and need to be heard and felt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acknowledge them and listen to what they are telling you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Keep-a-journal\"><\/span>Keep a journal<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46536 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Keep-a-journal.jpg\" alt=\"Ink Pen With A Notepad Closeup Shot\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Writing things down is a good way to get clarity around your feelings and needs and gives you a tool for tracking your progress and moods.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Keep a <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><b>journal to help you process your feelings<\/b><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">as you work through the fallout of your husband&rsquo;s infidelity. If you&rsquo;re worried about privacy, keep an electronic or online journal with a password that no one else could guess.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Lean-on-your-support-network\"><\/span>Lean on your support network<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46537 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Lean-on-your-support-network.jpg\" alt=\"Brunette Trying To Make Up With Her Friend After Argument On The Sofa\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need support right now, so don&rsquo;t be afraid to lean on your support network. Let close friends or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> members know you&rsquo;re going through a rough time and could use their help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ask for what you need<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, whether that&rsquo;s a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or some practical help. Don&rsquo;t try to go through it alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ask-your-husband-to-help\"><\/span>Ask your husband to help<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46538 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Ask-your-husband-to-help.jpg\" alt=\"Sad Upset Lady Hugging His Men Trust Or Forgiveness Concept\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to get over infidelity?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you do decide to work on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">saving your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><b>ask your husband to help and support you.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Be clear with him about what will help you heal and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/7-important-tips-to-build-trust-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rebuild your trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in him, and ask him to do those things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One word of warning: Don&rsquo;t give in to the temptation to test your husband or punish him.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, he does need to work on regaining your trust, but a dynamic of bitterness and retribution will only add damage to the damage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"See-a-therapist\"><\/span>See a therapist<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46539 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/See-a-therapist.jpg\" alt=\"Woman Having Conversation To Her Therapist At Her Office On The Sofa\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A therapist can help you work through your feelings and make you realize how to deal with your husband&rsquo;s infidelity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you decide to end your marriage or not, or if you just don&rsquo;t know what to do, a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapist can support you<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might also <\/span><b>consider going to couples therapy with your husband<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Working with a professional can help you both express your feelings and work together on how to move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Go-away-for-a-night\"><\/span>Go away for a night<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46542 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Go-away-for-a-night.jpg\" alt=\"Silhouette Happy Woman On Sunset In Nature With Open Hands\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dealing with infidelity takes a lot of time and energy. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give yourself a much-needed break<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by simply taking a night away from your husband.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Go, stay with a friend, or take a road trip and check into a hotel. You might even decide to get back to nature with a night spent camping.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>A night away will help you clear your head<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and focus just on yourself for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Make-time-for-you\"><\/span>Make time for you<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46543 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Make-time-for-you.jpg\" alt=\" A Group Of People Meditation In A City Park In The Morning Taken Into The Sun With Lens Flare\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s easy to go into crisis mode when dealing with your husband&rsquo;s infidelity. You pour all your energy into making practical plans and having difficult conversations.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Little things like taking a long bath or curling up with a book might seem frivolous, but in fact, little daily acts of self-care help you regulate your mood and look after yourself at a difficult time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding out your husband has been unfaithful is painful. No matter what you decide to do next, <\/span><b>taking care of yourself is vital for your own healing and wellbeing.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, follow these tips and see what works for you. Do not let others around you decide what might be good for you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take your time to clear your head and be patient with yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Statistics show that infidelity rates are rising dramatically, causing the divorce rates to go higher every year. But what should one do when they face infidelity in their marriage? If you&rsquo;re dealing with your husband&rsquo;s infidelity, you&rsquo;re going to be feeling rough around the edges.&nbsp; Infidelity in marriage is painful, scary, and sometimes infuriating. It&rsquo;s normal to feel a whole range of emotions.&nbsp;&nbsp; If you decide to stay, you might wonder how your marriage can ever be ok. If you choose to go, you&rsquo;ll be wrangling feelings of betrayal and grief and wondering how to start rebuilding your life. 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