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Psychology and relationships are not mutually exclusive. Understanding relationship psychology can help you master the required skills to make the relationship flourish. <\/span><\/p>\n Did you know that the chemicals released when we are falling in love are similar to the chemicals released when a person uses cocaine? That’s the science behind love. <\/span><\/p>\n It’s true about the psychology of falling in love: that wonderful feeling we get when we are in the heady days of new love when all we want to do is talk to whoever will listen about this wonderful person we just met; when each time we think about them all the pleasure pathways of our brain light up, the feeling that overtakes us is just like a drug. <\/span><\/p>\n All that oxytocin ( the attachment chemical) and dopamine (the feel-good chemical) flowing through our neurotransmitter, love or cocaine, it’s the same wonderful feeling. Luckily love is legal and not harmful to our health!<\/span><\/p>\n Here is an interesting insight into couples psychology.<\/p>\n We like to think that love and relationships are more art than science, but there is actually plenty of science involved with falling and remaining in love. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Take kissing, for instance. Not all kisses, or kissers, are equal, and we tend to rely on the quality of the kiss<\/a> as a decision-maker in whether or not to continue dating someone. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n A fantastic guy can have all the conventional qualities that might make him seem attractive—handsome, good job-but if he is a bad kisser, research tells us that he won’t end up being our first pick for a partner. <\/span><\/p>\n We also tend to kiss a lot at the beginning of a relationship, but often neglect the power of kissing as we settle into a longterm partnership<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n But that would be a mistake: happily partnered couples who have been together for years still pay attention to kissing<\/strong>, stating it helps maintain the spark in their couple. <\/span><\/p>\n So if you have been together for a decade (or two), don’t skip on the preliminaries: try an old-fashioned make-out session on the sofa, like you did when you were first dating. Tell your man it’s for science!<\/span><\/p>\n As our love relationship evolves, we can do periodic relationship<\/strong> <\/span>psychology check-ins<\/b> to make sure we are being nourished by it. <\/span><\/p>\n Some relationship psychological check-ins might include:<\/strong><\/p>\n Are you able to state your needs without fear of criticism or mockery by your partner? Does your partner listen respectfully and offer meaningful feedback, including a plan to meet your needs? Do you do the same for him?<\/span><\/p>\n While no single relationship can be expected to fulfill all our needs, you do<\/em><\/span> want your marriage to be at the top of the list of relationships that make you thrive and feel like you have an important role in someone else’s life. <\/span><\/p>\n As per the love psychology, your marriage should be the most intimate relationship you have, above and beyond the relationships you have with your children, your friends, and your work colleagues. <\/span><\/p>\n Marriage should be your harbor, your safe haven, your shoulder to lean on. Make sure you remain invested in the emotional intimacy<\/a> factor of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/span>Understanding the psychology of love and relationships<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>1. Needs, yours and your partner’s<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. Measuring the success of your relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. Level of emotional intimacy<\/span><\/h2>\n