{"id":14798,"date":"2017-04-12T11:56:30","date_gmt":"2017-04-12T11:56:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=14798"},"modified":"2022-12-08T05:20:27","modified_gmt":"2022-12-08T05:20:27","slug":"help-my-husband-wants-a-separation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/separation\/help-my-husband-wants-a-separation\/","title":{"rendered":"Help! My Husband Wants A Separation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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When saying your <\/span>vows<\/span><\/a> of forever and ever, you never imagined your <\/span>relationship<\/span><\/a> might come to an end one day. Your marriage was a monumental step in the journey of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Saying “I do” was one of the biggest decisions you ever made and, while there have been ups and downs along the way, you always imagined that you’d see them through and come out stronger in the end.<\/span><\/p>\n

This makes the admission that your husband wants a <\/span>separation<\/span><\/a> all the more painful to bear.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hearing that the man you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with is unhappy is heartbreaking,<\/b> whether you’ve been suspecting your husband is unhappy for a while now, or you were completely blindsided when your husband asked for a separation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Separation from a spouse is never easy, but it can be devastating when your husband wants to separate.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may feel lost in a fog, or you feel like your whole world is falling apart. Depression, anxiety, and anger are common symptoms of <\/span>heartbreak<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

A sudden heartbreak can indeed cause a large amount of stress. <\/span><\/a>Instead of wallowing, here are some proactive steps to take when your husband wants to separate but not divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Address how far gone your husband is<\/span><\/h2>\n

The level that your husband is at depends on how far he wants to take the separation.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, if he is having a stressful time with his work or <\/span>family<\/span><\/a> life, he may want a trial separation so he can settle down and gather his thoughts on his own.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if either of you were involved in <\/span>infidelity<\/span><\/a>, he may want a <\/span>legal separation<\/span><\/a> with the mind of divorcing. It’s important to know where your husband stands so you can better decide what your next step will be.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Find out why does he want to separate<\/span><\/h2>\n

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If your husband really wants to separate, you need to find out why.<\/span><\/p>\n

Calmly ask him to discuss his issues with you and see if you can’t resolve some issues. Odds are if your husband has resentments, they have been festering for some time now.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you wish to save the relationship, be sure to show humility and respect as he reveals his relationship struggles with you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Here are some common reasons why your husband might want a separation:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Money<\/b><\/h3>\n

This issue covers an umbrella of topics surrounding finances<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, he may want to take a job elsewhere to make more money, but you don’t want to follow him.<\/span><\/p>\n

He may be tired of taking care of you or any other dependents in the home.<\/b> He’s become bogged down by debt and has suffered deep depression because of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Affair<\/b><\/b><\/h3>\n

Are you wondering why my husband wants to separate? <\/span><\/p>\n

If your husband has been having an affair, he may want to leave to pursue another romantic relationship with his new partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Conversely, if you have had an affair and your husband just found out about it, <\/span>he may feel betrayed and now no longer wishes to work on your relationship.<\/b><\/p>\n

It should be noted that even if an affair happened many years ago, and your husband has already forgiven the indiscretion, he may feel differently in the future and choose to part ways over it.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Bored or a mid-life-crisis<\/b><\/h3>\n

After spending years and years with the same person, it can be easy to get bored, especially if your <\/span>communication<\/span><\/a> has dried up.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is why maintaining’ <\/span>date nights<\/span><\/a>‘ that cater to both parties is essential throughout your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

Men get bored for the same reason that women do: they’ve grown tired of the all-too-familiar routine of everyday life.<\/b><\/p>\n

Perhaps they’ve let thoughts fester of better opportunities in life, <\/span>they are bored of your sex life<\/span><\/a>, they miss being single, or they long for spontaneity that comes from a new relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What to do when your husband wants to separate<\/span><\/h2>\n

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