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It’s only natural for marriages to hit some rough spots, but some partners report being largely unhappy and disconnected from the marriage for years before they seek some form of help.<\/span><\/p>\n It can be a difficult thing to assess if the marriage is in trouble, especially if the level of meaningful communication is minimal. However, here are some general warning signs that your marriage <\/span>may<\/span><\/i> be in trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n It is inevitable that two people will not see eye to eye on everything, so disagreements are common and healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n However, when conflict becomes the new normal, it is worth taking a step back to observe what is going on. It has become so common in our culture to project our own low-moods (anger, sadness, frustration, insecurity) onto others especially our loved ones, we never stop to question:<\/span><\/p>\n Habitual low-mood interaction can take many forms. It can manifest as continually fighting over the same things or even as an escalation of fighting that borders on verbally abusive (or even physically abusive). It also can show up in more subtle ways as constant criticism or attempts to change or control your partner’s behavior. It is ripe with judgement and obviously leads to a deterioration of good-will in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n If you are on this habit train, I encourage you to jump to a new track if you have any desire at all to make your marriage work<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n This also takes several forms. One of the most common issues that arises is that the couple put so much emphasis on the children that their relationship suffers. It often isn’t until the children are grown, that the couple realizes how far they have grown apart. When you stop spending time together or stop communicating, it only widens the feeling of separation.<\/span><\/p>\n Another tell-tale sign of possible trouble is lack of intimate connection. Lack of intimacy<\/a> relates to a lack of touch, hand-holding, kissing, hugging, and sex.<\/span><\/p>\n In regards to sex, generally one partner has a higher sex drive. This in and of itself, is not a problem. The problem comes when that partner begins to feel rejected, isolated, unloved, and essentially disconnected from their lower sex drive partner.<\/span><\/p>\n1. Habitual low-mood interaction: Fighting, criticizing, & continual conflict <\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Lack of connection<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Infidelity: Emotional and physical affairs (Fantasizing and actualizing)<\/b><\/h3>\n