

{"id":13209,"date":"2017-02-13T10:46:45","date_gmt":"2017-02-13T10:46:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=13209"},"modified":"2023-01-19T10:53:37","modified_gmt":"2023-01-19T10:53:37","slug":"the-rebound-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-rebound-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Signs That a Rebound Relationship Is Not Healthy but Highly Toxic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-48437 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/signs-that-a-rebound-relationship-is-not-healthy1.jpg\" alt=\"Women Lying On Man Lap On Sofa At Home Smiling Together In Love\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is a rebound <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A common understanding of rebound relationship is <\/span><b>when the person enters into a new one closely<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/259891475_Coping_with_Break-Ups_Rebound_Relationships_and_Gender_Socialization\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b> following the breakup of a previous relationship<\/b><\/a><b>.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is commonly thought to be a reaction to the breakup, and not a true, free-forming relationship based on emotional availability.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there are<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/pdf\/10.1177\/0265407514525086\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> rebound relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that turn out to be stable, strong, and long-lasting.&nbsp; It is important to be able to recognize why you are entering a rebound relationship so that you can make sure you don&rsquo;t end up hurting yourself or the other person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your relationship has just ended, and you are tempted to rebound, you might want to ask yourself <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ukessays.com\/essays\/psychology\/adults-rebound-relationships-narrative-6125.php\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what you are looking for in this rebound relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Rebound-relationship-signs-that-suggest-it%E2%80%99s-unhealthy\"><\/span>Rebound relationship signs that suggest it&rsquo;s unhealthy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-48454 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/rebound-relationship-signs-that-suggest-its-unhealthy.jpg\" alt=\"Teenage Boy And Girl Hugging Both Are Sensitive Together Loving Concept\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you are curious about signs your ex is in a rebound relationship or are contemplating the option of starting a rebound relationship after <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or a nasty breakup, it is good to know these warning signs of an unhealthy rebound relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Signs of a rebound relationship<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li><b>You rush into a relationship without an emotional connection.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>You fall hard and fast for a potential partner.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>You are still holding on to phone numbers, wallpapers, and other memorabilia from previous relationships.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>You seek a new partner who is likely to put more effort into the relationship.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b>You reach out when sad and retreat to your own world when happy, out of emotional convenience.<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><b>Also, here are some questions to help you understand if a rebound relationship is a healthy move for you.<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Are you doing this to make yourself feel like you are attractive<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and that your former partner was wrong to let you go?&nbsp; Are you using the new person to help you forget your old partner?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Are you rebounding to hurt your ex?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp; Are you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/social-media-and-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">using social media<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to make sure they see you happy with this new person?&nbsp; Are you deliberately putting up photo after photo of you and them, arms around each other, locked in a kiss, out partying all the time?&nbsp; Are you using this new relationship as revenge against your ex?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Are you not truly invested in the new partner?&nbsp; <\/b>Are you using them to fill an empty space left by your previous partner?&nbsp; Is it just about sex, or warding off loneliness?&nbsp; Do you use your new partner as a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/how-to-deal-with-heart-breaks\/\">way to soothe your heart hurt<\/a>, instead of addressing that hurt yourself?&nbsp; It is neither healthy nor fair to use someone, to overcome the pain of the break-up.<br><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-long-do-rebound-relationships-last\"><\/span>How long do rebound relationships last<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-48456 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/how-long-do-rebound-relationships-last-2.jpg\" alt=\"Young Happy Man And Women Talking Together With Smiling Face On The Couch At The Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talking of rebound relationship success rate, most of these last few weeks to a few months. However, not all are doomed to end, but it depends on many factors such as the emotional availability of both partners, attractiveness, and similarity that bonds them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>In an unhealthy rebound relationship, there is disposing of toxic residual emotions like anxiety, despair, and grief from the previous relationships onto the new one<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> before the natural healing is done post the break-up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since the individual seeking a rebound relationship has not dealt with the bitterness and emotional baggage, they can bring a lot of resentment and instability in the new relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why the average length of rebound relationships is not beyond the first few months.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>On average, 90% of rebound relationships fail within the first three months, if we talk about the rebound relationship time frame.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Also watch:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Bixk8hku504\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Rebound-relationship-stages\"><\/span>Rebound relationship stages<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The rebound relationship timeline usually comprises of four stages.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Stage 1: It starts with finding someone who is radically different from your previous love interest.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It can be a very toxic situation, as you are constantly under pressure to look for someone who is the exact opposite of the previous partner. <\/span><b>In your head, you tell yourself the story of a happy relationship with someone who has no similar qualities to your ex and is therefore perfect.<\/b><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Stage 2: In this stage, you are in a state of blissful denial that there is any likelihood of relationship problems since you have carefully handpicked a partner who is totally opposite of the previous one.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> But this honeymoon phase does not last long, as, in the course of time, you start testing your new <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> interest with a mental checklist, dreadful of any similarities. You start putting your unsuspecting partner to test.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Stage 3: At this stage relationship problems and your partner&rsquo;s quirks start irking you, but sadly you keep them bottled up<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, holding on to the relationship for dear life. You don&rsquo;t want to be alone, so instead of having open and honest <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you resort to turning a blind eye to them, albeit with great effort.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Stage 4: The final stage, of a rebound marriage or relationship, entails tipping over the edge.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You realize that you brought the issues of your past relationship in this one, and inadvertently, made this person a rebound. Unfortunately, the undeserving rebound partner also realizes that they were a conduit for you to properly end your previous relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><b>If you have found closure and insights into the real reasons why things hit a dead end with the previous partner, you may have some hope left to start afresh in this relationship without the rebound.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And, if you&rsquo;re sincere about making an effort to be more open and communicative, they might be willing to try again as a real couple.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, if they call it quits with you, take some time for yourself to introspect. <\/span><b>Don&rsquo;t rush into finding the one who can measure up to your last love interest, look for someone who is in alignment with who you are and what you want.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, does a rebound relationship last?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one can answer this with certainty, although the likelihood is low. There are exceptions since the person rebounding can choose to date out of openness and a clear headspace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a person engages in rebound relationships to get back at an ex-partner or to distract themself from the grieving process, then these flings are likely to end unceremoniously.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is a rebound relationship? A common understanding of rebound relationship is when the person enters into a new one closely following the breakup of a previous relationship.&nbsp;&nbsp; It is commonly thought to be a reaction to the breakup, and not a true, free-forming relationship based on emotional availability.&nbsp;&nbsp; However, there are rebound relationships that turn out to be stable, strong, and long-lasting.&nbsp; It is important to be able to recognize why you are entering a rebound relationship so that you can make sure you don&rsquo;t end up hurting yourself or the other person. If your relationship has just ended, <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":13221,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2606],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13209"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13209"}],"version-history":[{"count":24,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13209\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":61665,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13209\/revisions\/61665"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13221"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13209"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13209"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13209"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}