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In the New Year, many couples continue making the same mistakes in their relationship as they did the last year. Most of these couples are on the edge of divorce, have gotten to a place where they don’t like each other anymore, and have divided their home into two, which means one person lives on one side of the house and the other lives on the other side. <\/span><\/p>\n However, there are some couples who have decided that although they are making the same mistakes, they have accepted responsibility for their actions and are ready to move forward with making their relationship better and becoming closer. <\/span><\/p>\n So what makes these couples different from couples who are ready to give up, let go, and walk away from their relationship or marriage. I would think that it’s their:<\/p>\n But I also believe that there are other things couples do to make their relationship last and to grow closer together<\/a>, that other couples fail to do. For example, couples who want their relationship to last: <\/span><\/p>\n Don’t get caught up with fixing everyone else, that they neglect their relationship or marriage. They understand that relationships take work, and before they try to help others, they seek help for themselves.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n And if they do, they apologize and make changes to keep from doing it again.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They encourage and support each other; they don’t focus on the negative aspects, and they put more attention on the positive things about each other and the relationship. They find ways to see each other from a new and different perspective every day.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They appreciate the small things about each other and their relationship<\/a>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They tell and show each other how much they appreciate certain qualities or actions.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They don’t manipulate each other to get what they want, and they understand that they can’t force each other to do certain things, and therefore they don’t try.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They forgive even when they don’t want to, and understand that going to bed angry causes their relationship or marriage to suffer. They believe in genuinely kissing and making up before going to bed. Regardless of who is right or wrong, they always forgive each other<\/a> because they understand that being right is not important, but forgiveness is.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They don’t try to change one another. They may not like everything about each other, but they RESPECT each other. They don’t try to force each other to change into something they’re not, or force each other to do something that’s uncomfortable.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n They put their feelings aside when having a discussion. Emotionally mature couples understand that attacking each other during an argument or discussion doesn’t resolve the issue.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Check out this video that explains effective tips on how to stop yelling:<\/p>\nTraits of a good couple<\/h2>\n
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<\/h2>\n16 tips for growing closer to your partner<\/h2>\n
1. Don’t neglect each other<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
2. Don’t take each other for granted<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
3. Fall in love with each other every day<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
4. Appreciate<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
5. Acknowledge<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
6. Never manipulate<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
7. Forgive each other<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
8. Accept and respect each other’s differences<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n
9. Disagree without yelling and screaming<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n