{"id":12585,"date":"2016-12-29T11:01:29","date_gmt":"2016-12-29T11:01:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=12585"},"modified":"2026-03-20T08:57:33","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T08:57:33","slug":"enjoying-your-lesbian-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/same-sex-marriage\/enjoying-your-lesbian-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Tips to Enjoy Your Lesbian Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Same-sex couples have finally earned the right to marry and the majority of Americans support the idea of lesbian marriage or same-sex marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eager to have their relationship formalized and viewed as just as legitimate as heterosexual couples, many gay couples have headed down to city hall or their place of worship to commit to each other in front of friends and <\/span>family<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what about the “happily ever after”? <\/span><\/p>\n

How can lesbian couples make sure that they continue to <\/span>love<\/span><\/a>, honor, respect, and—just as important—enjoy their marriage, long after the rice has been thrown and the honeymoon is over?<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s some useful lesbian marriage advice. Use these lesbian relationship tips to understand how lesbian marriage works and keep the spark in your lesbian marriage alive.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. Know that a happy marriage starts before the actual wedding<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Do lesbian marriages last?<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, lesbian marriages do last and happy lesbian marriage is not a myth. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lesbian marriages can last for a lifetime if you work on your relationship with all your heart. Before you say “I do” you want to be certain that this woman is the one. <\/span><\/p>\n

Research on lesbian couples has shown that lesbians are quick to commit and more impulsive than heterosexual couples, where the male can often put the brakes on committing too soon to a live-in arrangement. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is a fact that lesbian marriages are 50% more likely to end in <\/span>divorce<\/span><\/a> than heterosexual marriages. So, it is normal for you to wonder about how to make a lesbian marriage work.<\/span><\/p>\n

For a successful lesbian marriage, do some deep thinking before tying the knot, so that you won’t need to untie the same knot years down the line because you jumped in too quickly. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is always beneficial to do some <\/span>pre-marriage <\/span><\/a>counseling<\/span><\/a> to gauge you and your girlfriend’s compatibility, values, and a likelihood of a successful marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. Choose well, and work hard<\/span><\/h2>\n

This is one of the primary lesbian advice on relationships, that you need to remember before plunging in any commitment. <\/span><\/p>\n

To enjoy your marriage, choose your partner well. Once you know that this woman is the woman you truly wish to spend the rest of your life with, work hard to keep it that way. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pay attention to your spouse, but also to yourself. <\/span>Carve out your own identity<\/span><\/a>, interests, and passions, if you are looking forward to long-term lesbian relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t want to become bored or have nothing to talk about when you are sitting across from each other at the dinner table. <\/span><\/p>\n

Work hard to preserve the loving base of your marriage: show displays of affection, both small—a little love note left on the counter for your spouse to find after you’ve gone off to work—to large—a surprise impromptu weekend trip to your favorite romantic hideaway. <\/span><\/p>\n

What you want to avoid is taking each other for granted. That is a sure way to drain the enjoyment out of a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>3. Stay healthy for each other<\/span><\/h2>\n

Healthy people are in a position to enjoy their marriage now and in the future. On the physical level, this means eating healthy to boost your immune system and ward off illness. <\/span><\/p>\n

Getting daily exercise so you increase your “good mood” hormones is important as well. On the spiritual level, practicing mindfulness, either through a formal religion, or some type of meditation will help keep you balanced. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maintaining a healthy body and mind contribute to overall mental well-being, which in turn, contributes to a higher level of enjoyment in your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>4. Decide who does what to keep the household going<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

In lesbian marriages<\/span><\/a>, gender roles are less-defined compared with heterosexual marriages. <\/span>
<\/span>Studies <\/span><\/a>show that same-sex couples have more liberal attitudes toward gender roles as compared to heterosexual couples.<\/span>
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<\/span>So it is only a matter of both of you communicating how you want to divide up the household management chores in the best way possible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Is one of you better at DIY-tasks, such as unclogging a backed-up sink or hanging pictures? Is one of you better in the kitchen, enjoying menu planning and creating delicious meals? <\/span><\/p>\n

To keep your marriage from going sour, you’ll want to strive to make sure the household tasks are distributed equally and that you are both contributing to the smooth running of your home life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Resentment can grow if only one of you is doing all the shopping, cooking, cleaning AND home repairs. If you have the budget for it, consider paying outside services (a cleaning person, a handyperson) if neither of you is willing to take on certain tasks. <\/span><\/p>\n

Outsourcing some of the more-unpleasant responsibilities of being married could save you a lot of grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>5. Make efforts to prevent “the lesbian bed death”<\/span><\/h2>\n

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According to the American sexologist Pepper Schwartz teaching at the University of Washington, in a lesbian marriage, sex tends to take a back seat very soon in the relationship – sooner than in heterosexual and male gay couples. This phenomenon is known as <\/span>lesbian bed death<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

But sustaining a long-term romantic relationship without physical <\/span>intimacy<\/span><\/a> can be challenging. In lesbian marriage, sex is as important as it is in a gay marriage or a heterosexual marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, lesbian couples must make efforts consistently to keep their sex life interesting. This <\/span>lesbian marriage advice<\/span><\/a> is especially significant because lesbian bed death is one of the most common reasons why they split up sooner than gay and heterosexual couples.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, the important lesbian sex advice is to experiment with sexual routine and try out new things to help retain the sexual drive for a longer period of time.<\/span><\/p>\n