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{"id":124787,"date":"2026-11-02T10:29:47","date_gmt":"2026-11-02T10:29:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=124787"},"modified":"2026-11-02T10:29:47","modified_gmt":"2026-11-02T10:29:47","slug":"boyfriend-effect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/dating-advice\/boyfriend-effect\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is the Boyfriend Effect? 7 Signs It\u2019s Happening"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-124790\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/2026-09-24-15-49-17-utc.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Enjoying Coffee on Balcony Overlooking Mountain View\n\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You scroll past a friend&rsquo;s before-and-after photos. On the left, your friend is dressed up with hair and makeup done. On the right, their hair is up, they&rsquo;re in a cozy sweatshirt, and they look completely relaxed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The caption calls it the boyfriend effect. Boyfriend effect dating content is common on TikTok, and the reactions are split: some people see comfort, while others see pressure.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you&rsquo;ve noticed it in your own life and wondered what it says about you or your relationship. This article explains what the trend means, where it came from, seven signs it&rsquo;s happening, and how to tell whether a change feels like yours.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-Is-the-Boyfriend-Effect\"><\/span><b>What Is the Boyfriend Effect?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a social media trend that compares how someone looked before a relationship with how they look afterward, usually showing a more relaxed, lower-effort everyday style, like less makeup and comfier clothes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This video showcases a viral &ldquo;glow-up&rdquo; twist on the trend, showing how a supportive partner can completely expand your world and lifestyle. It contrasts a creator&rsquo;s limited travel history before the relationship with the massive global adventures they share together now.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DHJpNmES1Zj\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DHJpNmES1Zj\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">A post shared by Hudson and Emily | Adventure Travel Couple (@hudsonandemily)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like most social media trends, it isn&rsquo;t a scientific effect, and sources describe it slightly differently. This article follows the most common meaning: a more relaxed look after entering a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&rsquo;s some psychology behind why comfort shows up.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> In a 2020 study in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/scholars.uky.edu\/en\/publications\/working-hard-to-make-a-good-impression-the-relational-consequence\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication Research Reports<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, 127 people reported on 2,537 everyday interactions. Feeling very conscious of how they came across was linked to spending more social energy and to less pleasant interactions, whereas interactions with more established partners required less energy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Boyfriend-Effect-vs-Girlfriend-Effect-vs-Boyfriend-Air\"><\/span><b>Boyfriend Effect vs. Girlfriend Effect vs. Boyfriend Air<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These three terms often get mixed up. Here&rsquo;s how the boyfriend effect compares with the girlfriend effect and boyfriend air, using an example of each.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\n<table id=\"tablepress-756\" class=\"tablepress tablepress-id-756\">\n<thead>\n<tr class=\"row-1 odd\">\n\t<th class=\"column-1\">Term<\/th><th class=\"column-2\">Example<\/th><th class=\"column-3\">Key difference<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n<tbody class=\"row-hover\">\n<tr class=\"row-2 even\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Boyfriend effect<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">A before-and-after post: full glam on the left, a cozy sweatshirt and no makeup on the right<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">The trend about a more relaxed look after a relationship starts<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"row-3 odd\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Girlfriend effect<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">A before-and-after post of a man\u2019s wardrobe and grooming after he starts dating<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">The trend about a style upgrade after a relationship starts<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"row-4 even\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Boyfriend air<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">\u201cIt\u2019s the boyfriend air,\u201d said jokingly about a more relaxed, low-effort look<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">The older idea that the boyfriend effect builds on<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<!-- #tablepress-756 from cache --><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship-trends\/boyfriend-air\/\" title=\"7 Boyfriend Air Moments Every Couple Will Recognize\">7 Boyfriend Air Moments Every Couple Will Recognize<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Signs-Boyfriend-Effect-is-Happening\"><\/span><b>7 Signs Boyfriend Effect is Happening<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No single sign proves anything, since routines change in any relationship. The pattern, and how it feels to you, is what matters. Here are seven signs to watch for.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. You spend less time on everyday styling or makeup<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The routine that once took an hour before every outing now takes ten minutes, or gets skipped altogether. That can be a sign of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-getting-too-comfortable-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feeling comfortable<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, especially if you still enjoy dressing up when you choose to. A change in routine isn&rsquo;t the same as losing interest in yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A shorter getting-ready routine on ordinary days<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Makeup or styling saved for special occasions<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still enjoying a full look when you feel like it<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><b>2. Your wardrobe has shifted toward comfort<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-124789\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/2026-09-24-11-13-11-utc.jpg\" alt=\"Young Woman Relaxing at Home Reading a Book \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More hoodies, soft pants, and sneakers, and fewer outfits chosen to impress. Comfort-first dressing is common in everyday life, and it doesn&rsquo;t really say anything about your style or your self-worth. It simply reflects what feels good in your daily life now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More soft, loose, or casual pieces in regular rotation<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fewer outfits chosen mainly to impress<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shoes and clothes picked for ease rather than effect<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><b>3. You feel more relaxed and less &ldquo;on&rdquo; around your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t feel like you have to perform or look perfect to be accepted. Being yourself around someone is a sign of trust and can make time together easier because you&rsquo;re present with them rather than managing how you appear.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research points in the same direction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A 2024 Discover Psychology study of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s44202-024-00205-7\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> 220 adults<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in relationships found that&nbsp; suggests that concerns about looks may influence how comfortable, confident, and emotionally close people feel with their partners<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Showing up in comfy clothes without feeling self-conscious<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling free to be silly, tired, or unfiltered around them<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Less worry about how you look in front of them<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-do-i-stop-being-self-conscious\/\" title=\"How to Stop Being Self-Conscious in a Relationship: 13 Ways\">How to Stop Being Self-Conscious in a Relationship: 13 Ways<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. You have more cozy nights in and fewer dressed-up outings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-124788\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/11\/2026-10-06-20-16-17-utc.jpg\" alt=\"Romantic Young Couple Relaxing on Couch at Home \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Date nights at home, movies on the couch, and takeout can replace dressed-up dinners. Neither is better. Cozy time can be a sign of closeness, as long as you still make room for the things that feel special to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More evenings at home than nights out<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plans that center on comfort, like movies or takeout<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dressing up for occasions, rather than for ordinary weeks<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/romantic-date-night-ideas-without-breaking-your-wallet\/\" title=\"10 Romantic Date Night Ideas to Spice Up the Relationship\">10 Romantic Date Night Ideas to Spice Up the Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>5. Your routines have changed, like sleep, workouts, or social plans<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships often change daily habits. You might share meals, keep different hours, or spend less time at the gym or with friends. Some changes are welcome, while others can slip in quietly. It helps to notice which ones you chose and which just happened.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">New shared habits, like meals or weekend routines<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Less time for solo hobbies, workouts, or friends<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Changes you notice only when you look back<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><b>6. Friends or family have commented on the change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A friend says you look relaxed, or a relative notices you dress differently. Comments can be kind or can stir up doubts. What matters is how you feel about the change, not whether other people noticed it. Take them as information, not as a verdict.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Friends saying you seem happy or more relaxed<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Family noticing a different style or routine<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Teasing from friends about how much has changed<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><b>7. The change feels like comfort, not pressure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the sign that matters most. When the change comes from <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/feeling-safe-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feeling safe<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it usually feels freeing. When it comes from a partner&rsquo;s comments, fear of disapproval, or losing touch with what you enjoy, it can feel heavy. Only you can tell which one you&rsquo;re feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here&rsquo;s how it shows up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You chose the change, and you&rsquo;d choose it again<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You still feel like yourself, just more at ease<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one has pushed you toward it or made you feel judged for it<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still have questions about the boyfriend effect? Here are answers to what people ask most often, from how it differs from boyfriend air to whether it&rsquo;s a bad thing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><style>#sp-ea-124786 .spcollapsing { height: 0; overflow: hidden; transition-property: height;transition-duration: 300ms;}#sp-ea-124786.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single {border: 1px solid #e2e2e2; }#sp-ea-124786.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.ea-header a {color: #444;}#sp-ea-124786.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.sp-collapse>.ea-body {background: #fff; color: #444;}#sp-ea-124786.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single {background: #eee;}#sp-ea-124786.sp-easy-accordion>.sp-ea-single>.ea-header a .ea-expand-icon.fa { float: left; color: #444;font-size: 16px;}<\/style><div id=\"sp-ea-124786\" class=\"sp-ea-one sp-easy-accordion\" data-ex-icon=\"fa-angle-up\" data-col-icon=\"fa-angle-down\"  data-ea-active=\"ea-click\"  data-ea-mode=\"vertical\" data-preloader=\"\" data-scroll-active-item=\"\" data-offset-to-scroll=\"0\"><div class=\"ea-card ea-expand sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247860 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"true\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-up\"><\/i> Is the boyfriend effect the same as boyfriend air?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse collapsed show\" id=\"collapse1247860\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They\u2019re closely related and often used interchangeably. Boyfriend air is the older idea that someone seems less polished or less concerned with their appearance once they have a boyfriend. The boyfriend effect is the TikTok trend, built on that idea, where people post before-and-after photos to show the change.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247861 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> Is the boyfriend effect real, or just a trend?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1247861\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s a social media trend, not a scientific effect. People\u2019s routines and styles often do change in relationships, and for many it reflects feeling more comfortable. Whether the change is positive depends on how it feels to the person.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247862 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> Does the boyfriend effect only happen to women?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1247862\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The trend is mostly shared by women, and the name reflects that. The underlying pattern, getting more relaxed in a relationship, can happen to anyone, whatever their gender or the gender of their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247863 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> Is the boyfriend effect a bad thing?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1247863\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not by itself. Some people see it as feeling safe enough to be themselves, while others say they want to fight it in their next relationship. What matters most is how you\u2019re treated in the relationship, and whether the change feels like your choice.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247864 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> What if my partner criticizes how I look?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1247864\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Repeated criticism about your appearance can be hurtful and isn\u2019t a healthy pattern. You can tell them calmly how the comments make you feel and ask them to stop. If it continues or makes you feel smaller, talking with a trusted friend or a counselor can help.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ea-card  sp-ea-single\"><h3 class=\"ea-header\"><a class=\"collapsed\" data-sptoggle=\"spcollapse\" data-sptarget=#collapse1247865 href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  aria-expanded=\"false\"><i class=\"ea-expand-icon fa fa-angle-down\"><\/i> Does feeling comfortable in a relationship mean you\u2019ve stopped trying?<\/a><\/h3><div class=\"sp-collapse spcollapse \" id=\"collapse1247865\" data-parent=#sp-ea-124786><div class=\"ea-body\"><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not necessarily. Comfort and effort are different things. Many couples keep showing care through time together, kindness, and attention, and choose to dress up for occasions when they want to. If you\u2019d like to keep some things special, like date nights or favorite outfits, you can plan them together.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Comfort-Your-Way\"><\/span><b>Comfort, Your Way<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The boyfriend effect is a trend, but the feeling behind it is real: for many people, a relationship makes it easier to relax and be themselves. That can look like less makeup, comfier clothes, and quieter nights in, and it can be a sign of trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;It only becomes a concern when the change comes from pressure, or when you no longer feel like yourself. Noticing it is a good first step.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You get to decide how you show up, whether that&rsquo;s in sweatpants or a favorite outfit. What matters most is being treated well and staying connected to what makes you, you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You scroll past a friend&rsquo;s before-and-after photos. On the left, your friend is dressed up with hair and makeup done. On the right, their hair is up, they&rsquo;re in a cozy sweatshirt, and they look completely relaxed. The caption calls it the boyfriend effect. Boyfriend effect dating content is common on TikTok, and the reactions are split: some people see comfort, while others see pressure.&nbsp; Maybe you&rsquo;ve noticed it in your own life and wondered what it says about you or your relationship. This article explains what the trend means, where it came from, seven signs it&rsquo;s happening, and how <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":124790,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2498],"tags":[2586],"class_list":["post-124787","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","tag-master-modern-dating","has_thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124787","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=124787"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124787\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":124791,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124787\/revisions\/124791"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/124790"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=124787"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=124787"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=124787"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}