conflicts are resolved<\/a>, compromises are made, and resolutions are achieved. Ego-fighting (right vs. wrong) is pervasive in relationships of couples who are unskilled at communicating in an emotionally mature or otherwise assertive manner.<\/span><\/p>\nCommunication styles fall into one of four categories: <\/span><\/p>\n- Passive, <\/span><\/li>\n
- Aggressive<\/span><\/li>\n
- Passive-Aggressive<\/span><\/li>\n
- Assertive. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>
Rarely do couples display compatible communication styles. Hence, the “misunderstandings” that occur which lead to ego-fighting. Character, maturity, communication, religious\/spiritual beliefs, personal and professional goals, lifestyle requirements, finances, physical intimacy interests, etc., are all compatibility factors that must be considered and yes, worked on, prior to committing to marriage. <\/span><\/p>\nThe work that we are willing to put in is the LOVE.<\/span><\/p>\n“All things change when we do.” David Whyte<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Before you commit your life to another, consider this: Love has absolutely nothing to do with the success or health of marriage. In twenty years of work with individuals and couples, I cannot recall one instance when a couple’s marriage had improved or survived solely because of the love they felt for one another. As disillusioning and surprising as this may be, what I have discovered instead is that the morals, values and other compatibility features of the individual is paramount to the success of the union. While love is certainly important, it is not the key factor in what <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":180,"featured_media":11938,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[21],"tags":[2619],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11937"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/180"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11937"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11937\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":57376,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11937\/revisions\/57376"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11937"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11937"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11937"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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