will ultimately fail, or will not yield the desired result. The answer to whether you can get the romance back in your marriage can be best answered by first determining the underlying issues or factors contributing to the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Steps to bring back the romance in marriage<\/b><\/p>\n<\/span>1. Brainstorm the issues<\/span><\/h2>\nBrainstorm the issues you face, use the list above as a guide, and write down any 1-3 possible contributors as they come to mind. <\/span><\/p>\nUse the above list as a guide if you need help.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>2. Look over other factors<\/span><\/h2>\nLook over your factors. Now, <\/span>flip them around<\/b> from negative to positive statements.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>For example –<\/b><\/p>\nLet’s say your note says “Lack of Intimacy”- Write in “Strong connection, emotional intelligence, affection.” <\/span><\/p>\nYou’ve just described what you would want this to look like, or what it did look like when the circumstances were ideal.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>To further <\/span>develop your positive phrase<\/b>, consider what it would take, or what looked like in the past when the positive conditions existed. If you’re still having trouble, reflect on times when there was <\/span>lots of emotional intimacy<\/b>(or whatever your notated condition is) and write down what was different about that time. <\/span><\/p>\nUse words, events, names of people, and any other descriptors you think of, that connect to the memory and that are meaningful to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>3. Identify the elements<\/span><\/h2>\nNow identify the elements that made it possible to feel the romance or the positive feelings, actions or activities you’ve cited in your step #2. <\/span><\/p>\nWhat were those times like? What made you feel mutually connected? Who were the people in your lives? What attitudes, activities, conditions, or circumstances existed that made you feel loving toward that person? <\/span><\/p>\nRecord these answers quickly, without thinking too hard about the question. You are writing down events, people, conditions, attitudes, or any other things that connected you emotionally to the time you were happiest in love with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>4. Find a solution<\/span><\/h2>\n <\/span>Congratulations! You have found a way to bring back the <\/span>romance in marriage<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\nStep 3 answers are the key to your future. You now need to re-introduce whatever has changed. In step 3, you identified the conditions, and circumstances surrounding the positive feelings. <\/span><\/p>\nNow you will consider the ways in which you can <\/span>bring those elements back<\/b> into your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\nIf it is not possible to do so, figure out what the connecting factors are again, branching out further with connecting words, people, or feelings you associate with your ideals. Or go back and add to your answers until you make some discoveries that lead to actionable strategies.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>An actionable strategy is an activity. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\nFor example – <\/b><\/p>\n
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