{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips &amp; Advice","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice","author_name":"Laurie Heller","author_url":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/author\/laurie-heller\/","title":"Creating A Safe Haven For Communication | Marriage.com","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Dq8fdVAfYQ\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/creating-a-safe-haven-for-communication\/\">Creating A Safe Haven For Communication<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/creating-a-safe-haven-for-communication\/embed\/#?secret=Dq8fdVAfYQ\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;Creating A Safe Haven For Communication&#8221; &#8212; Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips &amp; Advice\" data-secret=\"Dq8fdVAfYQ\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(c,l){\"use strict\";var e=!1,o=!1;if(l.querySelector)if(c.addEventListener)e=!0;if(c.wp=c.wp||{},c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage);else if(c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if(!t);else if(!(t.secret||t.message||t.value));else if(\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret));else{for(var r,s,a,i=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),n=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=0;o<n.length;o++)n[o].style.display=\"none\";for(o=0;o<i.length;o++)if(r=i[o],e.source!==r.contentWindow);else{if(r.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message){if(1e3<(s=parseInt(t.value,10)))s=1e3;else if(~~s<200)s=200;r.height=s}if(\"link\"===t.message)if(s=l.createElement(\"a\"),a=l.createElement(\"a\"),s.href=r.getAttribute(\"src\"),a.href=t.value,a.host===s.host)if(l.activeElement===r)c.top.location.href=t.value}}},e)c.addEventListener(\"message\",c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",t,!1),c.addEventListener(\"load\",t,!1);function t(){if(o);else{o=!0;for(var e,t,r,s=-1!==navigator.appVersion.indexOf(\"MSIE 10\"),a=!!navigator.userAgent.match(\/Trident.*rv:11\\.\/),i=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),n=0;n<i.length;n++){if(!(r=(t=i[n]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\")))r=Math.random().toString(36).substr(2,10),t.src+=\"#?secret=\"+r,t.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",r);if(s||a)(e=t.cloneNode(!0)).removeAttribute(\"security\"),t.parentNode.replaceChild(e,t);t.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:r},\"*\")}}}}(window,document);\n<\/script>\n","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Creating-A-Safe-Haven-For-Communication1.jpg","thumbnail_width":804,"thumbnail_height":350,"description":"&ldquo;We never talk any more&rdquo; or &ldquo;we &nbsp;have communication issues&rdquo; are the most frequent responses I hear from both sexes when I ask &ldquo;what brings you to therapy?&rdquo; Certainly there &nbsp;are myriad underlying reasons for this and both parties have their version of why this is. Their perceptions and feelings merit processing in session, both to glean insight into the dynamics in the couple&rsquo;s relationship and also for one to be able to &ldquo;hear&rdquo; and learn about the other. A behaviorist professor of mine many moons ago used the phrase, &ldquo;Know your critter&rdquo;, which I have coined. But, how can"}