1.0Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips & Advicehttps://www.marriage.com/adviceLynn Zakerihttps://www.marriage.com/advice/author/lynn-zakeri/rich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="FyifO72KK3"><a href="https://www.marriage.com/advice/communication/how-miscommunication-causes-conflicts/">How Miscommunication Causes Conflicts</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://www.marriage.com/advice/communication/how-miscommunication-causes-conflicts/embed/#?secret=FyifO72KK3" width="600" height="338" title="“How Miscommunication Causes Conflicts” — Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips & Advice" data-secret="FyifO72KK3" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript"> /*! This file is auto-generated */ !function(c,l){"use strict";var e=!1,o=!1;if(l.querySelector)if(c.addEventListener)e=!0;if(c.wp=c.wp||{},c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage);else if(c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if(!t);else if(!(t.secret||t.message||t.value));else if(/[^a-zA-Z0-9]/.test(t.secret));else{for(var r,s,a,i=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),n=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),o=0;o<n.length;o++)n[o].style.display="none";for(o=0;o<i.length;o++)if(r=i[o],e.source!==r.contentWindow);else{if(r.removeAttribute("style"),"height"===t.message){if(1e3<(s=parseInt(t.value,10)))s=1e3;else if(~~s<200)s=200;r.height=s}if("link"===t.message)if(s=l.createElement("a"),a=l.createElement("a"),s.href=r.getAttribute("src"),a.href=t.value,a.host===s.host)if(l.activeElement===r)c.top.location.href=t.value}}},e)c.addEventListener("message",c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener("DOMContentLoaded",t,!1),c.addEventListener("load",t,!1);function t(){if(o);else{o=!0;for(var e,t,r,s=-1!==navigator.appVersion.indexOf("MSIE 10"),a=!!navigator.userAgent.match(/Trident.*rv:11\./),i=l.querySelectorAll("iframe.wp-embedded-content"),n=0;n<i.length;n++){if(!(r=(t=i[n]).getAttribute("data-secret")))r=Math.random().toString(36).substr(2,10),t.src+="#?secret="+r,t.setAttribute("data-secret",r);if(s||a)(e=t.cloneNode(!0)).removeAttribute("security"),t.parentNode.replaceChild(e,t);t.contentWindow.postMessage({message:"ready",secret:r},"*")}}}}(window,document); </script> https://image.marriage.com/advice/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/How-Miscommunication-Causes-Conflicts1.jpg804350How many times have you had that talk, the one where your partner hurts your feelings, you retreat. And when you finally talk about it and explain why you were hurt, your partner doesn’t remember it the same way? As a clinical therapist in the Chicago area, I hear stories on a regular basis where feelings are hurt, people are rejected, but the person doing the hurting does not even realize it.   Miscommunication leads to arguments Take for example the common scenario where your spouse has been distant.  You internalize it that he/she is angry with you, annoyed with