Day 5 and your journey to successful recovery continues. Today we will look at what you need to do each day to support a complete recovery. We will work with you to help make plans and set goals for what your rehabilitation and life will look like on a day-to-day basis.
Addiction thrives in boredom and doubt. It’s vital to plan healthy behavior because addiction prospers in unexpected moments. In early recovery, the addict in you is lurking, waiting to capitalize on your free time and boredom. Addiction also lurks waiting for those instants when you feel stressed, angry, overwhelmed, resentful or even entitled to what creates your destructive sexual behavior.
For your recovery and healthy new life, it is important to make definitive plans, set up precise routines and establish what you envision your new life will look like without destructive behavior. To create a new sense of routine some people exercise on a regular basis, decide to eat healthier, plan to spend more time with their husband, wife or family. There are many ways to fill a routine and stay away from destructive thoughts.
Many people also decide that a regular part of their new routine will have them attend a 12-Step group such as Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous, or Sexaholics Anonymous. These groups offer great supports and give you the real feeling that you are not going through sex addiction alone.
Many people also elect to meet with a counselor or therapist. If you decide to seek therapeutic assistance, it’s important to find a therapist who is a CSAT, or Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. A CSAT has completed a master’s program, spent time counseling or offering therapy and has gone through a training program designed to enable them to treat sex addiction using the treatment protocol developed by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., a pioneer in the treatment of sex addiction.
Make a comprehensive list of the healthy activities you are envisioning and then begin planning. Don’t just throw this to the wind and take a chance. If you have made the commitment to exercise every day, this is a good start. But to etch it in stone, you must solidly commit to it. On your list write down something to the effect that you will exercise every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 7:30 am – 8:30 am.
By making this commitment, you are more likely to follow through on the schedule you established for yourself. You will feel great each time you finish exercising and realize that you followed through on an ongoing goal you set.
Other healthy activities and behaviors could include spending more time with your children or close friends, giving your husband or wife your full attention when they talk to you or spending some time each day in meditation or prayer. All these activities will give you a whole day of planned action that will lead to a richer life.
Today I acknowledge the significant role I have allowed addiction to play in my life. I realize that I need to give this same significance to healthy, supportive, life-affirming behaviors as I continue my recovery. I am open to bringing these healthy behaviors into my life and to honoring my commitment to myself and my future.
Wonderful! This was Day 5 of the First 6 Days of Recovery. You have taken five crucial steps over the course of this program. Day 1 was looking at your addiction problem honestly, the second day was defining the behaviors you want to be freed from, the third day we learned to push away from addictive behavior, on Day 4 we assisted you in finding your inspiration for recovery and create a plan of joy.