What an achievement, you have reached Day 4 in your recovery! During Day 3 you looked at pushing away from addictive behavior. Today you will see what pulls you toward recovery.
Combined with the Day 3 exercise, today we will look at the “push-pull” concept. The name refers to “pushing away” from the destructive behavior we learned about on Day 3 and as a result “pulling towards” a pattern of positive behavior and new health.
Let your inspiration pull you toward recovery
Use a combination of joy and the things that you love to help inspire you to get into, and stay in recovery. In the early stage of recovery, people look outside themselves for inspiration. As an example, a spouse may say that “I am doing this to save my marriage and regain my family.” This is both healthy and helpful. Eventually though, you will get to the point of aiming a portion of your recovery towards yourself. The inspiration for this self-motivation will come from within. You will notice how you feel better about yourself, have more energy, and are living more in line with your beliefs and principles.
What inspires you to make a positive change? Think about things that bring you joy in your life. Is it your marital partner, family, friends or even a favorite pet? It also might be a higher power or spirituality that brings you joy. How about travel, exercise or playing or viewing sports? Write down answers to what brings you joy and love. Notice that these inspirations are positively addictive in your life, they give back to you. Now compare this to your destructive compulsion. Do bad habits make your life better? Or does it drain and take away joy?
Another tool to help you
Remembering what inspires you to embark on the path of recovery is another device to help you choose to not act out. Use the tool of joy when you start thinking about going back to your addictive behavior.
I can do this. I am committed to my recovery and to this life-changing journey. I value what inspires me, both internally and externally. I also know that I don’t have to make this journey alone. I can ask for help and also find companionship along the way. I will face challenges, but I and my life are worth overcoming these challenges.
Amazing! This is Day 4 of the First 6 Days of Recovery. You have taken four vital steps; the first was looking at the problem honestly, the second was defining the behaviors you want to be released from, and third you have learned to “push away” from addictive behavior. Today you have found your inspiration for recovery.
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