Hopefully, the purpose of date nights is for fun, enjoyment and reconnecting. So for “the best romantic date” here are a few things to consider.
The date needs to involve something both parties would enjoy
Unless you are planning to surprise your spouse with something you know they enjoy and you are “willing” to do it with a “sweet adventuresome unselfish spirit”.
Where you live
A sunset picnic and walk on the beach sounds lovely unless you live in Lubbock. Also, keep in mind your age and season of life (i.e. children still at home)
Here are some options for creating romance
1. Inexpensive date
One of you bring home your (and spouse’s) favorite “take out”; while other stays at home and sets up environment with candles and lovely music (if you have fireplace and it’s winter sit, on quilt and pillows to eat in front of fire; if not set your table with your finest of dinnerware).
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2. Adventure date
Take a picnic basket of cheeses, crackers, fruits, sandwich meat, drinks (or adult beverages), hike a trail to a nice spot; or find a place on a beach or bank of a lake, or drive to the closest State Park. Bask in the uniqueness of creation and of each other.
3. Formal date
Purchase tickets to a play, concert, opera, or ballet that you know your spouse would enjoy.
Go to a restaurant neither of you has been to before, and order something that you have never eaten before.
Reflect on your very first date of however many years ago and share what made you fall in love with your spouse.
4. Willing to learn “be a good student” date
Schedule ahead and take a dance (waltz, two-step, ballroom, salsa, etc.) class together.
So much to learn about leading, yielding, trusting, connecting and attentiveness in dancing together, that is reflective of marital intimacy.
5. Sensual date
Sit in hot tub, or spa tub together, rubbing each other’s feet, listening to music.
Spend the evening without “SreensI” (no cell phone, TV, tablets or devices) if don’t have either of these tubs, check into a nice hotel (can almost always find a good deal) ask for “early check” in and “late check out”.
Relax with each other without any “screens”. Call room service for breakfast. You will feel like you have had a brief get-a-way.
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