If you’ve been feeling like theromance is gone from yourrelationship, it’s time to take charge! Your man may just need a little cue from you on how to get the ball rolling.
Romance is more than just chocolates and flowers. For men, what they really need is your sincerity and respect. Giving him some good physical and emotional love will make the romance soar.
So gear up and try these 50 romantic ideas for him that will make his heart melt.
1. Candlelight dinner
Send the kids to grandma’s and cook up a storm in the kitchen. Make it a surprise and watch his eyes pop out of his head as he walks in the door after work. He’ll appreciate all your extra effort to make him feel special.
2. Build his confidence
We all doubt ourselves from time to time. When your guy is talking about a problem at work or something else he’s not sure of, build his confidence. Assure him that he can do this because he’s smart and capable.
Your enthusiasm and support will make him feel like a million bucks.
3. A fun gift just because
How often do you get nice things for your guy? His birthday and Christmas? Pay attention to that DVD he’s been eyeing or that funky pair of socks that show off his personality. Wrap it up and give it to him and say, “Just because you are YOU.”
4. Be interested in what he is doing
Is he watching YouTube videos? Take a seat next to him and have a ball laughing together. Is he out working in the yard? Put on your gardening gloves and work alongside him.
He’ll love that you are taking an interest in whatever he is doing.
5. Kiss him when he least expects it
You know your guy loves a little lip action, and with the element of surprise, you can’t go wrong. Whether you’re alone or in public, when he is least expecting a kiss, go ahead and plant one on him.
6. Foot rub
He probably doesn’t say so, but your guy’s feet are super tired and sore day after day. When he’s in bed or sitting down, slowly pull off his socks and shoes and start massaging his feet.
Maybe put a little bit of lotion on them, too. You don’t have to be a professional to give him some much-needed relief and make him feel special.
7. Run some of his errands
He’s a busy guy and has a lot on his plate. Offer to drop off his dry cleaning or pick up something he needs at the story. Just the fact that you are making his needs a priority will melt his heart.
8. Encourage him in his passions
Is your guy a golf nut? Computer nerd? Movie buff? Whatever his passions, encourage him to follow them. Everyone needs an outlet, and passions are where we feel alive. Help make access to those passions easier and guilt-free.
9. Love note
Write romantic notes for him and put them in his wallet and pockets. This lets your guy know you care about him and he has something to save to remind him what a lucky guy he is.
10. Initiate intimacy
Studies show guys have sex on the brain more often than women. So it makes sense that he probably initiates more. If this is the case, you can’t make his heart melt quicker than being the one to initiate.
It’ll show him that you want him just as much as he wants you.
11. Clean his car
Your man spends a lot of time on his ride. Just imagine the look on his face if he went to work one morning and his car was clean, inside and out. His good feelings would continue all day until he could see you again!
The more you do them, the more romantic ideas for him you will think of.
12. Flirt with him
Sometimes if couples have been together a while, they get comfortable. The flirting part of the relationship fizzles. Don’t let that happen! Keep things spunky and fun by being extra flirty with your man.
He’ll love the playfulness and sexiness of it all.
13. Back him up
Maybe you don’t always agree on everything, and that’s ok. But when it really matters to him, try to be more flexible. Back him up and take his side sometimes. He’ll feel a lot of love from your show of support.
14. Give him the remote
Watch what he wants to watch, and don’t complain or ask him to change the channel. It seems like a little thing, but it’s pretty huge. Your shows can wait for another night.
15. No electronics night
Our phones have become a distraction. Put them aside for the night or the afternoon and enjoy uninterrupted time together. Before you know it, you will be all over each other.
Romantic ideas for him should include more touch and less screen time.
16. Take a sunset walk
One of the classic romantic activities. Enjoy the colors of the sky in the serenity of each other’s presence. Quiet can be as fulfilling as a deep conversation. Romantic ideas for him don’t need to be extravagant.
They need to show you know him and appreciate him.
17. Gaze the night sky
You can watch stars together and ponder the secrets of the universe. If it is cold you can cozy up under a blanket and bring some hot beverages.
To turn it into one of the best romantic ideas for him, bring the music he likes along with his favorite drinks.
18. Raise his adrenalin
Need the adrenalin rush to feel alive? Surprise him with skydiving or bungee jumping! If you need something less extreme, consider an amusement park with some exciting rides.
Simple romantic ideas for him can be a lot of fun too. Imagine a day hiking and a night cozying up to the fire and making smores. You will return rejuvenated and peaceful.
Taking it a step further, romantic ideas for him should include a way to make sure he has a tangible memory, therefore take photos that can go up on the wall later.
20. Local adventure
Looking for romantic things to do for your husband? How about kidnapping him after work and taking him on a local adventure. Find a tourist attraction that you haven’t yet had a chance to explore and take him there.
Make sure to put something over his eyes. Pro tip – use a tie that you can give him as a present later.
21. Pack his lunch
Wondering how to make your boyfriend happy? Love comes through the eyes, and through the mouth too. With this little sign of appreciation, he will be happy twice – when he gets the lunch box and when he opens it at work.
Add a note or a flirty comment for extra credit.
22. Picnic in the park
When you know he spent too many hours in the office, one of the romantic surprises for him you can make is a picnic in the park. Being in nature makes us more present and focused on the company we are with.
Pack up his favorite drink and some games to make the event more enjoyable.
23. Morning together
Doing something special for him doesn’t have to include weeks of planning. You can get up a bit earlier than him, make some coffee and breakfast. After that, his rushing off to work will be much less stressful.
24. Memory lane
How to be romantic to your boyfriend, you ask? Organize an evening going through your pictures and souvenirs you have collected together. It will sure rekindle the flames and make both of your hearts melt.
25. Book a weekend away
Sometimes to relax and reconnect you need to change the environment. Find the perfect weekend getaway as a surprise for him. It can be a low-cost bed and breakfast nearby. It is not about luxury, but about thoughtfulness.
26. Choose each other books
Searching how to be more romantic? Take him to a book store and get each other a book. Later on, you can read those books together and have deep discussions. Also, you get to write a special dedication on it.
27. Send a love letter
One of the most romantic ideas for him to do is send and receive love letters. It shows effort and creativity in a time of instant messages.
Nothing makes you feel like you traveled through time as getting a handwritten letter along with the bills. Feel free to include a cute picture of you or a coupon for an hour of tending to all of his needs.
28. Take photos
Surprise your boyfriend and take him on a photo shoot. Make sure the focus is not on how good you look, rather how much fun you are having. Think ahead of places and poses that would be fun to do together.
Include this on your list of romantic ideas for him, and after you are done frame the favorite photo.
29. Tourist the town
When you are on vacation it is easy to be relaxed, no chores or work waiting on you. Try to recreate the atmosphere by acting as if you were a tourist in your city. What would you go see, where would you walk and take photos?
Whenever you feel the checklist creeping into conciseness, refocus on the moment you are spending together.
30. Sexy game night
One of the best romantic date ideas for your boyfriend includes sexy games. Many games only need your creativity and willingness to play. Set aside a night and create an atmosphere that inspires flirting and humor.
31. Go dancing or working out
Depending on what he is comfortable with you can choose a romantic gesture for him that includes physical activity. It can be any number of things from dancing, to ice skating or working out together.
32. Cook his favorite meal
Considering romantic ideas for him at home? Prepare a meal he loves and make yourself into the eye candy. He will love this idea!
33. Retake the first date
There is nothing quite like the first date. Recreating that first time you spent together is among top romantic ideas for a boyfriend. Where did you go, what did you order, and what clothes were you wearing?
Think about the details that will create the impression of going back in time.
34. Play his favorite childhood game
Boys and their games, right? If you are looking for romance ideas, this is one that will amaze him. Figure out what was his favorite childhood game and make it happen.
Whether it was a video game or simple hide and seek, this is sure to make you both laugh and connect on a new level.
35. Watch the whole game with him
Whether you are interested in sports or not, this will mean a lot to him. Even if you only shout from time to time “Go Anderson!” (even though there is no Anderson), he is going to enjoy time with you and appreciate the effort.
36. Encourage time with his friends
Does he get to spend time with his buddies or is he too busy with work? You could organize a game of poker and leave the house to them. They are going to have fun and you will be voted the best wife ever.
37. Binge-watch something
Allow him to choose what you are going to watch together, get the snacks he likes and turn off your phones. Pretend you’re all alone in the world and relish this time together.
38. Scavenger hunt
The adventurer in him will love this. Create little clues all around the house (and outside if possible) and record how he deals with the challenge. It is fun to do and even more entertaining to watch.
39. Flirty photos
Love comes in through the eyes. What will make him think of you all day after seeing them? Create flirty photos for him, naughty but classy.
40. DIY gift coupons
What are the chores he dislikes the most? Make him gift coupons he can use when he wants you to take care of them.
Let your imagination wild and add some playful ones too. You can include some other DIY presents that will show him how well you know him.
41. Leave love notes everywhere
Looking for ways to surprise him and make him smile? Write short messages and post the sticky notes all around the house.
If you prefer you can leave it on the bathroom mirror so he has an amazing start of the day. In case you are not sure what to write, there is plenty of inspiration online for what to write on the notes.
42. Do something unexpected
Planned grand romantic ideas are great, but they require time and effort. Instead, think of something unexpected and spontaneous to do for him today. Is there something he wants that would be easy to organize or buy?
It could be the latest video game or dinner at his favorite restaurant. Allow yourself to be spontaneous and surprise him.
43. Plan a sudden road trip
Guys love adventure! Whether it’s out-of-the-country or just an out-of-town cabin, invite him to an impromptu road trip.
Instead of heading to your usual holiday spot, flip a coin for left or right when at major cross-sections until you encounter a place you would like to explore and spend the night in.
44. Get him a geek gift
Don’t have time for any of those ideas? Don’t worry because you can always get your boyfriend a geek gift.
This could be a popular video game, Star Trek merchandise, a guitar pick with your names on it, but most importantly it is something he is passionate about.
45. Act like you are hearing his story the first time
Everybody becomes forgetful about things said and done. Your man will sometimes repeat himself. Telling the same story must mean it is important to him.
You can show you appreciate him by hearing him like it is the first time, without the rebuttal – yeah, yeah you said that already. He will be genuinely happy to share something with you!
46. Count the days together
Grab a calculator, take the day when you met, subtract it from today’s date and let your partner know how many days are together. If you want to take a step further, you can calculate hours, minutes, even seconds.
Every moment matters!
47. Compliment his masculinity
In this hectic era, we sometimes forget to give compliments to one another. Couples who are long together often neglect to compliment on things they believe are obvious or have complimented on before.
This is especially applicable to your man’s physique, as sometimes over the years, they become less confident. Don’t forget he is still a strong man, who moves the couch when you are vacuuming.
Squeeze his bicep and compliment him.
48. Buy his favorite book
If he has a copy of a book he really likes, go and find it in a leather cover, limited edition, or a signed copy. This will surely knock him off his feet.
49. Procure an autograph
Who is his favorite player? Does he have a favorite team? If you can’t find an autograph of his favorite player (there are autographs to order online), purchase something from his favorite team – a mug, a uniform, or a hat.
You will score extra points as he will not only enjoy the gift but be able to brag in front of his buddies.
50. Be the big spoon
Even though men are physically bigger and logically more fit to be the big spoon, they also enjoy feeling safe and protected.
It comes naturally to men to be the protectors, but letting him be the small spoon will make your partner feel taken care of and sheltered.
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.