So, it’s the wedding season and you’re attending all the events all by yourself. It’s hard not to sit and wonder in times like these ‘why am I still single?’.
You might even look at someone else making an entry with a beautiful date and ask yourself ‘if they can be in a relationship, then why can’t I?’ All this overthinking is natural. But, if you keep on sulking about how you are still single, you might miss out on the real question which is why you are still alone.
It’s completely okay if you choose to stay single. However, if you want to be in a serious relationship and are still attending events alone, here are a few things that you might want to consider before you sit and cry over your singularity.
You want an extreme level of commitment
Commitment is not at all a bad thing and if you want to be in a long-lasting relationship, it is essential that you find a person who is willing to give it their all. A half-hearted commitment in long-term relationships such as marriage, won’t do justice wither of the two in this beautiful bond.
Ask yourself if your demand or need for this level of commitment is what is scaring people off. If so, you can try to take things a bit slow. Get to know the person better before you jump in and ask them to marry you right away.
Later on, you can even talk to them about setting some goals as a couple
Ever wondered what impacts your previous relationships have had on you?
You may not realize it, but chances are that an old betrayal might be the reason why you keep your guard up. As a result of this, you may be closing off the emotional connection. The founder of The Modern Love Box, Alysha Jeney, suggests that you should try to be more engaging intentionally.
Self-esteem can make or break relationships.
It is one of the most important things to have in one’s personality. If you are low on self-esteem, don’t expect others to see the best in you all the time. Low self-esteem may also prevent you from approaching the right people.
As a result, you may end up settling for less than what you deserve.
You must be familiar with that inner voice that keeps telling you to back off. This critical inner voice is often there because of the lack of self-confidence. It is important that you recognize this voice and hush it down when it starts talking to you for no reason.
Are you being too choosy?
It is one thing to be confident and another thing to be overconfident.
Your overconfidence might be the reason why you’re being too choosy. If you are looking for a man or a woman who has it all, then you’re creating problems for yourself.
You will find the right person, but don’t expect them to absolutely perfect. Like you, everyone else also has certain flaws. Try to stay positive and look at the best in others instead of being so picky. Your perfect partner will be right for you even if they are not perfect in the literal sense of the word.
You’ve been looking for the perfect partner for so long, but one thing or the other always seems to go wrong. This would be a good time to sit back and think about what it is that you are looking for exactly. Ask yourself if at this point in time, are you truly ready to tie the knot or not, or are you simply partner-hunting because your best friend will be getting married in two months and you feel like you too need to tie the knot asap.