Holidays! We look forward to those times of the year when we could just gather around family for dinner, gossip, laugh, and just relax.
However, holidays can be a bit intimidating if you are in a new relationship and the camel hasn’t decided yet which way to set. Meaning, you haven’t had the talk. The talk in which couples divide the vacation and holiday time between their two families.
If you are still in your honeymoon phase in the relationship and have been asking the question whether it is meant to be or not then worry no further as holidays are the best times to test the longevity of any relation.
Just keep your eyes peeled and keep a look out for the following points:
1. Meeting for the first time
Meeting one’s significant other’s family or friends for the first time can be nerve-wracking on its own but add the pressure of a holiday celebration and the pressure gets multiplied with infinity.
No matter how much you were looking forward to those relaxing hours, now they will be spent answering questions which will require the leak of a few intimate details by a lady who once a long time ago babysat your significant other.
But she is considered family and you will swallow the embarrassment and smile through the pain; because you love your better half.
2. Where to go
After the decision to meet the fam, one actually has to decide on the venue.
Which side to visit for the first time? These times show one’s negotiation skills and our love and respect towards our partner. If we cannot put their wish and desire before us, are we really meant to be?
3. Do you feel suffocated or are they an anchor for you
Getting together for holidays has its perks no doubt, but it can be difficult as well.
For many people out there, who are used to live on their own, living, be it for a couple of days, in a house filled with people you barely know can be draining. People have been known to sneak out or find refuge in any nook or cranny of the house.
These dire and draining times are perfect to analyze your relationship. Do you gravitate around your better half or do you, unconsciously, hide from them as well?
4. Are you good enough for my baby
No matter how old we are, we will always be babies to our mothers. Therefore, no matter whom we bring home they will never be good enough for our parents.
The worst and most challenging test one would ever face will be to make the parents of your significant other believe that you are good enough.
5. Am prepared for the blush train
A family has no boundaries.
One would be bombarded with questions which are considered way too cringe. Such as: ‘When is the wedding?’, ‘When will I be a grandma?’, ‘When are you guys moving in?’, ‘When will you take the next step, you aren’t getting any younger you know?’, ‘this is what you did the last time’, or ‘Thank God, you broke up with your ex’.
Such questions and more can act as a catalyst to the first crack in your relationship. You can never be ready for the onslaught of information that one’s family drops on someone who is practically a stranger to them.
6. Do we all love our family
We all are different.
Our personalities, at times, don’t even match with our siblings, how can we expect them to match with our dad’s first cousin? It’s a long stretch, to be honest. But hey, family’s family and with time we learn to get along.
Same is the case with your significant other. You would have to get along them with the feisty cousins, endure the unbearable uncle, and smile through the not so funny jokes and stories of the annoying aunt; because you are in love.
7. Am I seriously in charge
Visiting the in-laws for the first time and being in charge of the arrangement of the get together is not a pretty combo.
The stress to impress and the need to please the family of someone who is very close to you, at times, get to you. And if your better half is unable to deal with you at this crucial stage of life, it is not a good sign.
Above are a handful of pointers to check if your relationship is meant to last or not. If you can survive the onslaught of invasive questions, embarrassment, and the nosy family, then you can endure any and everything that life will throw at you.