Life offers a lot of ups and downs that constantly remind us of things we can pursue, things we fight for, and things that give us reason to persevere. Relationships, for instance, allow us to remember that there are always people around us that are there to give us a reason to strive to become better versions of ourselves. We can have that special someone that reminds us that we can be enough for someone.
Life also offers downs, such as tumbles or injuries, that make us realize that we fall so we can get back up. These challenges offer us obstacles to overcome and grow from, so we can be stronger for tomorrow’s ordeals. However, what if relationships and injuries collide? How do we help someone cope with a relationship when you’ve had a major injury?
1. Learn about the injury together
If you’re in a relationship, coping with a partner is a two-way process. We can’t always expect others to understand our ordeal, and sometimes it takes us reminding them of our situation that helps let them know of the kind of services or attention we need. It’s helpful to think that a lot of people around us are willing to help, but a lot of them may also hesitate because of how this can affect the way we view ourselves.
This is especially the case in a relationship, where a partner might not know what to do.
- Try to explain the way your injury worked with your partner. You don’t have to explain all the fine details, but try to explain it in a way that expresses both your concerns and how the injury should be tackled.
- If there’s a way for you and your partner to consult your physician or psychiatrist together, this can greatly help as these professionals can elaborate to you and your partner how both of you can deal with caring for your injury together.
- Learning about the injury together can be extremely helpful, as it can remind you that you’re not alone in this endeavor, and it helps your partner know that they can do something to help your situation.
2.Therapy and treatment works for both
When we say therapy, it doesn’t necessarily mean immediately going to a therapist. This is an option you may want to consider, however. When we say therapy and treatment, we’re talking about the overall treatment for your particular injury. It can get easier on your end knowing you have the kind of emotional support you’ll be needing, as your partner will be fully aware of what must be done and what mustn’t regarding your treatment method.
- Having someone with you even in the beginning stages of the treatment process helps as it at least allows someone to be aware of what must be provided in order to help you cope with your major injury. This isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather allowing your partner to at least be aware of what they could do to help adjust to your current situation.
- It would also help if you become honest with your partner as to the kind of help you need if you need some time alone, or that you appreciate the help they’re giving. This does a great deal to at least help them know if you can really handle things yourself, and that you always have a support network should you need the immediate assistance.
- Remember, it’s better to have an extra pair of hands help you with the things you need in order to recover. This is especially true if you need someone to watch over things you have to do, or if you have to have someone help you buy things such as groceries or pay important bills. These little things can help give you enough time and peace of mind to properly recover.
A major injury can drastically affect the life not only of the person who experienced it but of the people around that person as well. After all, we can’t always expect things to be alright when we have a friend who’s had a major injury, right? Sometimes, we can’t find ways to approach the said person, and that person might take it the wrong way. On the other side of the spectrum, that person may or may not want company, and we might be giving them the wrong impression.
- These things, these small “marks,” can harm a relationship if not handled appropriately. The tips above would hopefully motivate you to become a more responsive partner should you be in a relationship, and if you or your partner had a major injury.
- However, if you do think you need extensive help managing your relationship, it might be much more helpful to consult the help of a psychiatrist or a therapist in order to help you and your partner understand your situation. These hurdles in your relationship are solvable given the right amount of effort, time, and energy for understanding.