Before the final walk down the aisle, before the last fitting of the dress and before the invitations have been sent to everyone including people you really don’t know, make sure you know who you are marrying.
Importance of premarital counseling
Importance of premarital counseling cannot be emphasized enough when it comes to ensuring a successful start to a fulfilling and happy marriage.
Premarital counseling is a form of therapy that prepares couples for marriage. It is aimed at equipping couples with the right tools and insights to build a strong and healthy relationship. It helps couples enter into marriage with open eyes and the right mindset conducive to a satisfying relationship.
Premarital counseling provides couples with a greater chance of enjoying a stable marriage. It is also a great platform to set realistic expectations and improve marriage communication about finances, beliefs, value system, sex, children, preferences and so on and so forth, for establishing a happy future together.
Premarital counseling is a great way to explore the strengths and weaknesses of your chosen soul mate. With relationships starting in multiple ways including blind dates, a friend of friends and the ever so popular online dating sites, spending time getting to know the other before you become legally tied to them is wise.
The exploration is well worth the time
It is much cheaper than making a costly mistake and ending up in divorce court because you find out later you are chosen doesn’t want children and you want a house full.
Many counselors offer premarital counseling as well as local churches. Spend the time finding a counselor that you and your fiancée feel would be a good fit to open up and divulge your vulnerabilities.
Many counselors have a set amount of appointments in order to complete all important topics. Do not fixate on the number of appointments; instead, realize that many topics will require further inquiry. This will provide a sense of comfort that you are making informed decisions about one of the most important decisions in your life.
Look for a counselor that will provide guidance on the following topics
- Conflict resolution
- Partner-style and habits
- Financial management
- Spiritual beliefs
- Role transitions & expectations
- Sexual relationship
- Family & friends
- Leisure activities
It is important, to be honest with your counselor
I utilize the Prepare/Enrich Assessment for premarital counseling. You must be honest with your counselor and fiancée to gain an understanding of how these topics will impact your relationship after you say “I do.”
Not many people place the premium on attending pre-marriage counseling. However, premarital counseling has many wonderful benefits! Enjoy the time, be prepared, be well-informed and above all, be satisfied with the results of counseling and your partner before the wedding ceremony!
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