Why is it that when you read the word “love,” you feel so much? It is as if the word ‘LOVE’ itself already carries a meaning, even without an explanation. It is subjective in some ways.
The true meaning of this particular word has been constructed from your personal experiences, which, in turn, has also shaped the way you view other people, your partner, and yourself.
The feeling of love runs deep. In fact, this word, ‘Love’ is quite a hefty word by itself. And based on your past and present experiences with love, you may be encouraged to either run towards this emotion or simply run away from it.
Same word, different meanings
Love carries different meanings for different people.
The word will mean something different to you compared to what your partner might perceive the same word. There is a high probability that if both of you were to write down the definition of love on a piece of paper, the sentences would have carried similar words, but a completely different meaning behind those words would have been revealed.
For example –
The word ‘Love’ is often paired up with the word ‘Support’. Now, support is a loaded word, and it definitely means something different to everyone. Also, this particular word carries some past baggage.
Perhaps you did not get enough support as a child, or the only thing you were ever recognized for was for your failures and mistakes. Probably your last relationship ended because he did not support your career goals and so on.
Now, past baggage can inevitably alter the actual meaning of love from being something positive to something entirely negative.
What is it that you really need from your partner
Now, we know what you don’t need. But, you do need someone who is positive and who will lift you when you are down. Then again, do you need someone who will acknowledge your hard work and appreciate the sacrifices you have made for the relationship and family?
It looks like you have just successfully explained your needs.
A shift in focus
You shifted the focus from what you weren’t receiving to what you need to be receiving from your partner. This is the shift that needs to happen for you to feel loved in a relationship.
When your needs are being met, it means someone is listening, and when someone is listening to you, doesn’t it feel like they are supportive of you?
So, promise yourself this, find someone who will give you a reason to run towards love. Only the presence of someone, be it a human or an animal, can make you truly understand the real meaning of the word called, ‘LOVE.’ Until and unless you feel that emotion, you will never truly grasp the entire concept behind this very word.
The presence of that particular person or persons and even pets, for instance, can give you a complete understanding of the term.
So, find someone who will introduce you to the real mystery of this simple four-letter word and acquaint you with the many emotions which are triggered by the very existence of ‘Love’ in our heart.