After the novelty of a new relationship wears off, couples tend to realize that just loving one another is not enough to maintain the relationship. The early chemistry fades as people get to know each other better. This can cause couples to begin to feel stuck about what to do next.
Unfortunately, half of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Many of these divorces could have been avoided if only couples had the ability to seek out a deeper and more meaningful love. There are plenty of resources out there that can prevent couples from giving up on their marriage out of frustration.
In every relationship, there is relational space between the couple. Sometimes spouses can begin to unconsciously poison this space over time. The space can be tainted with frustration, anger, contempt, resentment, criticism, and elusiveness. All of these factors can be a huge detriment to the relationship. Many people may turn elsewhere for comfort as they do not know how else to handle what is going on.
Couples must learn how to get rid of the negativity in their relational space and instead fill it with love, acceptance, understanding, and appreciation. A partnership involves constantly getting to know each other better and working towards common goals and futures. These factors are all for the betterment of the marriage and makes couples want to spend time together. Having a healthy, functional relationship also sets a good example for your children if they are involved. They will grow up knowing what a normal, thriving relationship looks like.
This shows that by slowly fixing your own relationship, you can influence future generations to come.
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