I can look back now and see numerous occasions where a guy was interested in me, but I was just too unaware or insecure to notice.
Over the years I’ve had situations where guys have said some version of this usually after they’ve settled down: “Well, you had your chance!”
And my mouth dropped to the floor in shock because I really didn’t have a clue.
There have been numerous eligible men I have overlooked because they were too shy to confess that they liked me. I only realized later that actually there were some signs here and there but I didn’t notice them.
If you don’t want to miss out on an incredible guy, read below for 12 signs that he may be interested in you.
Here are 12 ways to check the signs that a man likes you:
1. He asks plenty of questions
If a guy is interested in you, he will likely try to engage you in conversation.
They’ll seem like they want to get to know you and in some cases might seem to go out of their way to do so.
He will be interested to know what you like, what you dislike, what you do in your spare time, what you do on weekends, who are your close friends, what’s your family like, where did you grow up, where have you travelled, what do you plan to do in the next few years – Yes, he is inquisitive because he wants to know all about you.
This is a subtle yet sure shot sign he likes you.
2. His behavior is different around you
Does he seem to act cool, or quiet when he’s around you but when he doesn’t know you are there you’ve seen him behave differently, or if he’s confident he might puff out his chest a little when you approach?
If so, he’s probably trying to make himself appealing to you. This is also one of the signs he likes you.
3. He smiles a lot
While some guys may smile a lot in general, it can be a sign that a man is interested in you if they are particularly shy and smile when they catch your eye. He might be trying to show you that he likes you.
4. He tries his best to impress you
Out of all the signs he likes you, this is a tricky one! Why? Because he tries his best to impress you in the best way he knows. He may end up doing something you like but it can also be something that you don’t. But if you see a guy making efforts for you all of a sudden then it’s best to be upfront and ask him – You’re doing this for me? What’s this all about?
5. He asks for your number
I think it’s safe to say that unless there is some other reason for a guy to contact you then if he’s asking for your number, then that’s a green light that there is interest there. There isn’t a bigger sign he likes you than this.
Unless he’s an old friend, then the chances are that if a guy is adding you on social media, there’s a chance that he might be showing signs he is interested in you and wants to learn more.
If he messages you there and keeps initiating a conversation then it’s probably a green light. It’s a clear sign a guy likes you.
7. He asks if you have a boyfriend
If you had been thinking about how to know if a man really likes you after he has asked this question, well, then the answer is right there in front of you.
It is a good sign that a man likes you if he asks you about your dating life. When a man is direct with these questions, he probably wants to know if you’re single and if he is free to make a move.
8. He touches you occasionally
Does he gently touch you as he holds a door, or in general conversation? It has to be a sign he is interested in you romantically.
This is a clear sign he’s interested. At the same time, do observe whether he is physically affectionate with other people as well. Then it’s a different thing.
Of course, many guys will hold a door open for a lady but to touch them at the same time is a little more intimate. He could also tease you by poking, tickling, offering to massage your neck which are probably more apparent signs of flirtation though.
9. He shows occasional low key jealousy
You notice him stiffen up and seem to be a little unhappy when you are talking to other guys.
He might try to interrupt or even glance at you occasionally watching to see what’s happening. It is one of the signs that he is into you.
Nothing gives out the signs he likes you more than jealousy. Men are territorial and this sign is easy to spot.
10. He remembers facts about you
Most guys are focused on things that are important to them, so if he remembers facts about you and there’s no other reason why he should. He’s interested.
11. He banters with you
Bantering is a British saying which means teasing and in the UK if a guy or girl ‘has got good banter’ they are interesting and fun to be around.
They are playful and tease the person they are interested in. If a guy is ‘bantering’ with you and doing some of the other things on this list too then, it’s probably a form of flirting. This is another sign he likes you and not just as a friend.
Unless you see him doing that with everybody, then it’s just his nature. Otherwise, it is a sign he likes you.
12. He only seems to have eyes for you
Guys are visual beings, it’s natural for them to check out other girls, and usually, get caught too! But if he’s locked in on you and is not checking out anybody else, you are the only focus of his attention. His undivided attention is a sign he likes you.
These tips are just some signs that a man may be interested in you. If you are interested as well, consider asking him out!