So you’ve found someone you want to date but there’s a pretty significant age gap between you.
You’re probably trying to talk yourself out of it and thinking about all of the bad things about it but there are benefits as well. When it comes to dating with an age gap the biggest thing you want to think about is what kind of relationship you’re looking for.
Is dating someone with a big age gap a good idea?
If you want the relationship to be long-term then make sure that your values, morals and life goals match up.
What are your future goals, where can you see yourself living, what do you want out of life, do you want a family? How do you intend to raise kids, is there a religion involved.
Can you see this person fitting in with your family and friends? Big age differences aren’t as noticeable when you’re both middle-aged but what happens once one of you is a senior and the other isn’t?
These are the big picture questions that need to be thought about before you decide to spend your life together.
If you’re just dating someone casually than everything is a lot more relaxed, just make sure not to get too caught up with things like not getting each other’s references and focus on the fun stuff.
Why does dating with a big age gap work?
May/December romances are mutually beneficial.
The older person gets a young, hot thing and the younger person has someone to dote on them
Plus there is just the fact that they may be the right person for each other. For the younger person, the maturity and financial stability of the older person is generally a huge draw.
This is true regardless of gender/sexual orientation. People often think of sugar daddies when it comes to this type of relationship but that’s not always the case.
Are there other factors that can help close the age gap?
Having mutual interests definitely helps close the age gap because there’s something you can enjoy together.
Nothing is worse than trying to date someone only to realize you have nothing in common and that’s even worse with a big age difference because your hobbies and cultural references might be vastly different and harder for the other person to engage with.
Of course, this goes for relationships rather than a hook-up type situation. If you’re only in it for a good time, not a long time, then mutual interests aren’t as big of a deal.
Final take away
When it comes down to it most people are too hung up on age when it comes to dating.
People should be more open to age gaps; it doesn’t have to be drastic but 10 years on either side of your age should be something people at least consider.
You could miss out on someone who makes you really happy just because they aren’t the same age as you, which doesn’t even really matter as long as you’re emotionally in the same place and want the same things out of life.