Keeping the Connection in an Introvert-Extrovert Marriage

Introvert-Extrovert Marriage

The differences in an introvert-extrovert marrying can be thrilling at first, with two people being total opposites. However, after the novelty wears off, you could wonder what you ever saw in the other person. The things that you found exhilarating about each other can start to get on your last nerve and being with your partner will become challenging. If this is describing your relationship, read on for some suggestions on how to keep your introvert-extrovert connection going.

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The first thing to do is to get rid of the common stereotypes of introverts and extroverts. Introverts are usually thought to be quiet, and extroverts are outgoing. However, this is not always the case. Moreover, being classified as an introvert or an extrovert is not based on your behavior, but how you rejuvenate your mental and emotional strength. Introverts need solitude, while extroverts need to be in a social setting.


The factor that will make an introvert-extrovert relationship survive is tolerating each other differences. Instead of trying to change the other person, accept that this person sees the world differently. For example, you might not understand why your introvert partner needs to be alone; it seems to you that they are being anti-social. You are judging them from your own pre-conceive notion instead of accepting that this person just needs some time by themselves. Simply put, if you want the relationship to work, accept what makes this individual who they are.


The one thing that any relationship needs to survive is balance. In an introvert-extrovert relationship, it is imperative. Since both partners’ desires need to be met, this often means that there are going to be some compromising. For the balance to be found, there has to be a discussion of what makes each person comfortable and what doesn’t. And just to be honest, it will not be a 50/50 balance.


One way to meet each other’s needs is to do something that pleases the other person, alternating to make sure that you and your partner is equally pleased. This means that you might find yourself doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone, but that is what being in a relationship is all about.


If you are an introvert, and your partner is an extrovert, you can have a satisfying relationship. Like with all relationships, you have to put the work in. When you need some assistance with discovering how to connect, Philadelphia MFT therapists are here for you. Contact us when you are ready!

Malyka Cardwell is a Couple and Family Therapist at Philadelphia MFT. She is skilled in working with individuals and couples focusing on areas such as sexual abuse, infidelity, intimacy building, anxiety, friendship counseling and issues pertaining to adolescents.

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